What makes your therapist great?
June 26, 2012 3:05 PM Subscribe
Are there unique and non-obvious things your therapist does that have been helpful to you?
posted by namesarehard to human relations (42 answers total) 59 users marked this as a favorite
I asked this in the past but it was deleted as chatty, so let me make it very clear why I am asking: I am a young therapist in training and I'm hoping to consider my own practice through these answers. I am interested in hearing what skills, demeanors, and behaviors of therapists have been meaningful and helpful to you, beyond the basic necessities (nonjudgmental, empathetic, compassionate, insightful, good listener).
For example, I have a friend who said it meant a lot to her that her therapist remembered the anniversary of her divorce. I have another acquaintance who was blown away when his therapist looked up a community center option for his elderly non-English speaking mother. I have a third friend who said her therapist helped her laugh for the first time about a childhood memory that had plagued her with shame for two decades. Things like that.
Yes, I'm developing my own style. No, I'm not planning to just gather other professionals' practices and emulate them. But I'm interested in what gestures or practices have conveyed real care and helped formed connection, or have spurred real change in ways that may not be intuitive.