I love you so I can't see you anymore.
June 14, 2012 1:52 PM Subscribe
I've gotta stop having a crush on my friend or stop seeing her entirely.
posted by OrangeDrink to Human Relations (44 answers total) 10 users marked this as a favorite
Hey y'all. I'm looking for some advice on what to do with a girl I'm pretty much kinda sorta in love with.
I met a girl a dating website about 9 months ago, and after a month of dating and some making out, she told me she just didn't want to be in a relationship. I said okay, I understand, and in the last 8 months we've become good friends with no kissing. But the attraction and the crush never really went away, and recently, it's gotten bad. Just today she was complaining about being forever alone and told me she still doesn't want to be in any relationship.
I really, really like this girl, but always feel like crap the next day when I realize she's not going to reciprocate, which is kind of insane. It seems like I should be able to just appreciate her friendship, which is super important for me, partially because I have a hard time making friends I'm this close to. We talk everyday and see eachother for hours on end a couple of days a week, and always have a great time. So, what do I do?
1) Just stop responding to her
2) Tell her I have a crush on her, and need to stop hanging out for a while until I'm able to get this under control
3) Kill my emotions? Somehow? And figure out how to be satisfied with just her friendship?
I'm waaay to old to be having crushes on friends still, and I'm feeling childish and immature. Any thoughts? Been in a similar situation that you were able to sort?
Oh, it's probably relevant that I have dated anyone in 6 years. I'm really bad at this stuff, so there may be some of that going on here too. We're both in our late 20's.