I knew being a parent wouldn't be easy, but this is really hard.
May 2, 2012 1:35 PM Subscribe
Help me be a better long-distance parent.
posted by doomtop to human relations (12 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
My son turned five this January, so he will start Kindergarten in August this year. He lives in North Carolina, I live in Vermont. I share legal custody with his mother. I am looking for resources, advice, thoughts, anything that might help me be a better long-distance parent and co-legal custodian. There are so many things that I thought would just be obvious when we lived together. I would see him every day and check in with him and go to his school and bring him to the doctor and etc. etc.
Now I am not sure how I can best be involved and make a difference in his life outside of visits. We visit twice weekly via Skype and he comes to visit a few times a year. I had a lot of trouble myself with the school system while growing up and am really thankful that my parents were around to make sure they always did the right thing. For the most part, I will trust my ex-wife to keep him safe and healthy, etc. but I am not confident in her ability to advocate on his behalf. She is likely to simply accept whatever any authority figures tell her, which from experience is not always the best course of action. Also, she and I have a very difficult relationship at this point, so I can't count on her to keep me involved in his life, in fact she seems to be navigating towards the opposite, but I am doing my best in that regard.