Father to (adult) son 101
September 15, 2011 2:00 PM Subscribe
Asking for a friend (really): How do you (or did you) deal with finding out that you have an adult child you didn't even know existed?
posted by Chairboy to Human Relations (1 answer total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
A friend of mine discovered a while back that he has an adult son from a previous relationship that he didn't even know existed. It's a long story. They are in regular contact now and live in the same city. The son's in his mid 20s.
So... can anyone point us to supportive resources that explain how you deal with suddenly finding yourself to be a parent, especially to an adult, or share their own experiences of similar situations? Obviously I'm open to being memailed on this one as it's a sensitive subject.
If it's relevant my friend is single, middle aged and has no other biological children, though he has been (and is still occasionally) a kind of godfather-cum-stepfather to several of a friend's children, although they now live in another city several hours away.
There's good will on both sides, but also a certain amount of confusion too. Please help us make this work.