We've been invited to a wedding brunch/shower at a restaurant in NYC and I've already RSVP'd that we're attending - should I be expecting that we have to pay for our meal?
My boyfriend and I were invited to a wedding brunch for friends of mine who are getting married next month, thrown by the sister of one of the grooms. (It wasn't specifically identified as a shower, but there was registry information printed on the invitations, so I'm assuming that it is a shower.)
I also assumed that since it was a shower, hosted by my friend's sister, with official invitations that went out in the mail, that the food would be paid for by the hosts, as that's how every shower I've ever been to operated. But I've only ever been to wedding or baby showers in the suburbs, held at people's homes or rental halls - never at a restaurant. And after reading this thread
, I'm getting nervous that I'm misunderstanding the invitation and we're going to wind up having to pay for our meals. I'm not cheap, but money is really tight right now and I've already paid hundreds of dollars toward the wedding since it's out of town.
So now I'm tempted to buy a less-expensive shower gift just in case we have to pay for the meals, but I would hate to show up with a meager gift if it turns out we won't have the expense. I just don't know how to politely find out if we have to pay or not. I've met the sister, but only a few times, and I wouldn't be comfortable calling her to ask. I only know one other person who is attending the shower and she doesn't know any more about it than I do. It's a surprise shower for the grooms, so I can't ask them either.
Also, if I do need to get a less expensive gift, how tacky is it to buy something like one serving utensil or one wine glass out of a dozen?
Thanks for any advice!