Relationship with stepparent after a parent's death
April 29, 2012 3:36 PM Subscribe
Did you maintain a relationship with a stepparent after your biological parent passed away? What was it like?
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Aside from breaking up my family, Stepdad has always been kind to me. He's been married to my mother now for longer than my father was; his child and I rarely talk but our relationship is cordial when we do see each other.
Still, I didn't grow up with him in my home, and quietly resent him on a level that will never go away. He lives states away in a place I rarely travel to aside from visits to my mother; we never speak on the phone and rarely email.
Complicating matters is my own sibling, who was younger when the divorce happened and has much fonder memories of both Mom and Stepdad than I do. I don't want to foster any bad blood there, either between Sib and Stepdad or between Sib and me.
The whole thing seems so incredibly, imposibly awkward. What will we be to each other without Mom? What are my obligations here? How do people handle this sort of thing?