Am I wrong to feel wronged?
April 27, 2012 8:59 AM Subscribe
Am I wrong to feel wronged? Soap operaishness inside:
posted by Cosine to human relations (36 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
I usually avoid drama really well, however some years back a romantic triangle situation blew up in a spectactularily nasty fashion and resulted in the permanant separation of myself from the other two parties (who are now married and who I will call 1 and 2).
I don't miss them, it was toxic for all involved and I now run in a completed unrelated circle and am myself married and happier than I have ever been.
The issue here is with the one remaining person that I know who also knows 1 and 2 (I will call her 3) she has been a close friend (she is also my cousin) pretty much since birth. 3 was also very close with 2 and 1.
When the nasty stuff happened 3 was supportive and loyal and responded to a long letter from 2 with a simple 'please don't contact me again'. I was grateful for the backup.
Fast forward 7 years. I hear through a long and winding grapevine that 3 is back in contact with 2 (and 1) and has never told me, she hasn't lied she just left it out, for years.
1.) Am I justified in feeling a bit betrayed, especially since she is family?
2.) 3 lives far away, I still live in the same city as 1 and 2. 3 emailed me that she is coming to town in a month for a week to hang out and can she stay with me and my wife. She doesn't know that I know about her still knowing 1 and 2 and I suspect she is also planning on visiting them while she is in town and staying with me. Am I justified being uncomfortable with this?
There is a pretty good chance that I am being silly with all this and that the bad taste still in my mouth is clouding my judgement, little help?