Why am I such a poor conversationalist, and how to improve?
April 19, 2012 8:17 PM Subscribe
Why do I repeat myself instead of explaining or describing what I mean in real-life conversation? When people have acknowledged my statement, why do I keep going with it at all, much less repeat almost the exact same phrasing? Why do I have so much trouble maintaining continuity in a topic? I am a dreadful conversationalist- this must be really irritating to others, but half the time I don't even realize that I'm doing it. How can I stop?
posted by windykites to Human Relations (7 answers total) 23 users marked this as a favorite
When I'm online, I can explain myself or expand on what I am saying. But in real life, I don't seem to be capable of doing that; instead I act like Jacob Two-Two. I'm pretty socially awkward and this is just one component of that. I often don't feel comfortable contributing to a conversation, and when I do contribute, I do a pretty poor job; I don't always explain how I got from one point to another, and forget components of my story or explanation that are really important for everyone else to understand. When I get really involved in something that I'm saying, I tend to exaggerate instead of speaking accurately. And, of course, the repetition thing. I can talk to people online and in letters; how do I learn to articulate and converse well in real life?
By the way, I've done a search for this topic and couldn't find anything that specifically addressed the topic of unintentionally repeating oneself.