How to stay friends when there's a one-way crush?
April 9, 2012 10:37 AM Subscribe
Made a new friend, developed feelings that went unreturned. Now what?
posted by anonymous to human relations (8 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
Late last year I met a woman through a mutual friend. After meeting her in person and talking a good bit, I found her on Facebook. Over the ensuing weeks, we chatted online, eventually deciding to have lunch. More online chats, more lunches together. In that span of time we discovered we had a lot in common. And, for the first time since a major break-up, I was interested in someone.
Last month we hung out for the first time without the restriction of her hour-long lunch break. And at the end of the night, I told her how I felt. Unfortunately, she didn't--doesn't--have any romantic feelings toward me. I haven't spoken to her since then, just over two weeks ago, because I figured I'd need to process that. Even mild rejection sucks. But I'm moving away (long-term but not permanently) at the end of the summer, so I really don't want to isolate myself. I don't want to make things awkward either.
Do I just tamp down my emotions and hang out with her when possible, given our hectic schedules and my impending move? Any suggestions for how to squelch what I feel?