First breakup woes.
April 1, 2012 9:55 AM Subscribe
My boyfriend of two years just broke up with me. I've cried my guts out, now I just feel numb. Got any advice or resources to get me through the next few days?
posted by lovedbymarylane to human relations (37 answers total) 16 users marked this as a favorite
This is my first proper breakup (I'm 24), and man, it really sucks. Uni's out for two weeks which leaves me with not many friends I can talk to face-to-face (they're mostly interstate right now) but lots of time to wallow and do whatever the hell you do when you get broken up with.
I've been scouring the internet for stuff to read but a lot of it is along the lines of 'yeah, you're better than that guy, he was an asshole to leave you!' etc. Fair enough for some, but we were friends for a long time before we got together, and we're in the same course at uni and live in a sharehouse together (with two other people), so I'm still going to see him a lot and most likely will end up being friends with him again at some stage, whenever all of this turmoil is over and I feel like I can be around him without wanting him to put his arms around me... agh. The breakup came pretty suddenly and was a huge, horrible shock, but I can see his side of it - although we were (are!) both enormously in love, we weren't really compatible enough to spend our whole lives together. The breakup was sort of inevitable. Still, I was so happy and comfortable and everything was just nice, and now it's crap. So yeah, I'm looking for stuff that talks about breakups in a more mature way than 'He's a jerk! Don't text him!'. He lives in the next room, so I'm going to have to deal with that regardless.
Ex-boyfriend has also offered to do whatever will make this week easier for me in terms of being around or not being around, doing platonic things (we had plans to meet up with a close friend and see some comedy together) or not doing those things etc.
So... advice for a first-time dumpee? Particularly things to do in the first few hours/days?