What kind of damage control can I do?
March 13, 2012 9:40 PM Subscribe
I screwed up at work and talked badly, albeit truthfully, about a coworker. The person I spoke to told this coworker what I had said and I feel terrible. What steps I can take to make this right?
posted by abirdinthehand to Work & Money (21 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
So, I was venting about a drama-ridden complex issue that involved myself and this coworker. I know it's no excuse, but I was really stressed and overwhelmed and this other person who I am friendly with showed up and blam- I dumped all this stuff on her.
A couple days later, I see the person who I blabbed about and she makes several indirect comments that tell me pretty clearly that the person I complained to told her everything I said. The 'confidant' is technically 'lower' than me and the person I was talking about is not my direct boss but at that level. And the main gist of my complaints were regarding what I see as a hidden agenda.
I feel badly, not only for talking about a coworker in this negative fashion but for burdening another person with it. Also, of course because this has made a tense situation a hundred times worse.
So far my only plan is to apologize to the person I blabbed to for being unprofessional. I don't know if I should address it further with the person I was talking about since she has taken the indirect route and I'm concerned that would just make it worse since I actually believe what I said. . .