How do I help my daughter and deal with her friends?
March 13, 2012 10:09 PM Subscribe
How do I help my college-aged daughter? I think she drinks too much and her friends are a contributing factor.
posted by anonymous to Health & Fitness (47 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite
My 20-year old daughter is studying in a modest-sized town that has a reputation for drunken behavior. She has told us several times that there's nothing else to do on the weekend but attend parties and drink.
She has a steady boyfriend who lives nearby. He's an amiable yet aimless kid, and he's definitely a bad influence on her, all things considered.
Recently, some of his (and her) drunken antics came to our attention via Facebook and I'm disappointed that my precious daughter hasn't chosen better friends.
I am paying her tuition, room, and board. She has a car and a phone. Life's pretty easy for her, all things considered.
My wife and I don't drink (at all) and we don't really know what to do.
We believe that her statement that there's nothing to do but drink is a clear call for help, and that it is time for us to intervene. We're not sure how far we should go, however.
Options range from:
1. Do nothing and see her become an alcoholic. Addictive behavior runs in my family as well as in my wife's so this is a real fear of ours.
2. Tell the boyfriend to take a hike, with an optional one-way prepaid ticket to a remote part of the world.
3. Force her to move back home so that we can monitor and guide her behavior.
4. Allow her to return to school, with strict (yet hard to enforce) prohibitions on her behavior.
5. Tell her that I will no longer pay for school if this behavior persists.