Where did 30 years go suddenly?
February 20, 2012 7:39 AM Subscribe
Seeking Dear Abby, handholding and guidance for Dummies. Yes, this is about a man and yes I'm feeling totally clueless. Help.
posted by infini to human relations (66 answers total) 7 users marked this as a favorite
I've met someone. (Are those the right words?) And while we have been in some email exhanges and some meetings due to having met through work, I had sensed something the last time we'd met (the 10th). Bear with me, I'm not only clueless and rusty but I've virtually given up this game because I'm forever crossing cultures. Last time there was that awareness, the kind where your eyes meet and look away rapidly. And an odd little sideways exchange of pointless emails on Valentines Day that gave me a faint red flag.
Today we met for coffee [on a work related but not directly work reason away from his office] and he found a way to let me know he's separated. I let him know I'm menopausal. (insert your grin here)
Now what? I have another month here in this location. And a history of not having picked up on the various (local or cross cultural) cues between genders that has left me with over a decade of virtual singlehood feeling very clueless in general (and consequently having given up), yet now complicatedly grinning my head off while feeling like I want to puke. If you were all here I'd be running around like chicken with my head cut off.
I don't even know what do next, if anything. This may be incoherent but believe me, I tried to calm down and wait till I could write. Ask me questions, tell me what to do, help, I don't want to screw it up before even getting a chance to find out if there's something there. (This doesn't happen to me very often)
[I could insert the whole bunch of overthinking here that it might be nothing, that I'm imagining it and that this is a molehill I'm turning into a self indulgent askme but bear with all that as well]