What is Real Life, non-Hollywood romance?
February 4, 2012 9:47 PM Subscribe
Please explain romance to an asexual aromantic who's wobbling on the romantic identification. What's the difference between romance and friendship?
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (17 answers total) 33 users marked this as a favorite
I've identified as asexual for several years now, that is a comfortable identification for me. I have enough of a grip on sexual attraction that I can identify that I don't feel it. This question isn't about my sexual orientation, but I just wanted to clarify that I'm not looking for a sexual relationship, and that not having a sexual relationship isn't a problem for me. But it does complicate the romantic thing.
And I still I don't get this romance thing. How do things feel different with a person you want to be romantically involved with vs someone who is a good friend? What are the things/actions that separate romance from friendship? Is the difference just about the Grand Actions of Romance? What's the difference between a 'bromance' and a homo-romantic relationship? Is there any?
I know I want someone in my life, but it doesn't have to be a primary relationship. I think living with a good friend would be enough. But I'm starting to question that a little. I'm starting to think that a bromance is the best format of relationship I'm looking for, (though I'm female and don't particularly care about the gender of the partner). But hey, maybe that's what a romantic relationship is, maybe I don't need to start tweaking the terms? But then again, maybe that's just a good friendship and aromantic (someone who doesn't feel romantic attraction) is the best definition for how I feel.
I'd just like a general breakdown on how romantic relationships feel to people who know what they're feeling.