Should I say something? What?
January 19, 2012 5:47 AM Subscribe
I don't like how my ex talks to me and I want to say something. Weird/crazy/what should I say?
posted by amodelcitizen to Human Relations (38 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
I live in a place where you see the same people all the time. I broke up with a guy after a short relationship about 5 months ago. I was mad about the way things went down, and I didn't really feel like talking to him, so whenever we were in large groups and I had to see him I pretended he wasn't there (mature, I know).
I'm pretty much over it, and I've started dating someone else, too. But I still can't stand to speak to him because he antagonizes me. It's very weird and kind of childish. Right after our relationship ended, I saw him at a game, we ended up on the same team, and he made a couple of quips about my sportsmanship. I don't think I could deal with thinking about that at the time, so I just didn't. I don't really remember what he said, but it was sort of mocking/sarcastic. On a few other occasions, he's said some things like that, too. Last night he showed up a friend's house and, again, we were playing a game, and he said I was a cheater and tried to call me out on not following the rules of the game (I was new, I didn't really know the rules, and it also doesn't help that I'm morbidly competitive)
The way the lines are delivered are sort of playful, not in a mean or hateful way, but it just floors me because this is how we talked when we dated. We ribbed each other sarcastically a lot. But now we're not dating, we're not even friends, and there were hurt feelings (at least on my part) for a little while. It feels disrespectful to me.
I'd like for it to not be weird anymore, meaning I'd like to be able to make eye contact and talk to him like a normal person when he is around, but the teasing pisses me off so much I can't seem to get beyond it. Is this unreasonable, and what should I say to him? I'd like it to be low key.