My ex-wife has started telling me things after our sons visitation with me that can't be true.
January 3, 2012 10:11 AM Subscribe
My ex-wife is making up lies to take away my visitation time with my son. Do I need to consult my lawyer right away?
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (18 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
Our son is five years old. I just brought him home to his mom after his visitation with me over the Christmas vacation. His mom moved 800 miles away (to live with her parents) right before our divorce and took him with. This is his second visitation with me, the first being five weeks in the summer.
The day after my son got home with her, she started telling me things that can't be true. She has said that our son told her terrible things about his visit. That he was scared and unhappy, but couldn't tell me because he was afraid of upsetting me. That he didn't want to be at my parents house for Christmas because it scared him. That he likes my girlfriend but doesn't want her to touch him anymore. That he can do whatever he wants because I let him. That he can hit his mom or call her names.
She has threatened me that I am doing bad things to our son and that she is going to talk to her lawyer and attempt to reduce my visitations.
Our divorce cost me $10,000 (more than 25% of my annual income) and put me massively into debt and forced me to sell my car. My ex-wife's parents have tens of millions of dollars. They bought her a new car, new house and new furniture. They gave her a job at her father's business (she never worked when we were together). My ex-wife is emotionally unstable and an alcoholic, but they have so much money they can make everything look however they want.
I don't have any more money or credit and cannot afford to keep paying lawyers to fight her. I pay her child support out of every paycheck and live in a one bedroom apartment while she just got a three bedroom house in a high-end neighborhood.
I am obviously very concerned, but unsure what I can do at this point. Since it is just threats so far, do I wait until she takes it further or do I need to take defensive action now? I don't want to take on the cost to talk to my lawyer now if I just need to wait for her to take action, but if there might be something I can do pre-emptively I would.
I am overwhelmed and terrified of what she can do. Of what she might say to our son or how she might manipulate him. Of the power of her family money and what it can do. Any advice would be appreciated. Anonymous email: firstname.lastname@example.org