How to ask for phone numbers
December 2, 2011 6:59 PM Subscribe
How do I ask for a woman's phone number in a non-creepy way?
posted by anonymous to human relations (43 answers total) 7 users marked this as a favorite
So, I'm a guy in my forties who's only ever dated one woman in my life, and when we met, she volunteered her number without my asking. So the upshot is, I find myself newly single after many years of marriage, and no idea how one goes about asking for contact info. Despite my shyness and social anxiety, I'm getting better than I used to be at initiating conversations in bars, and several times I've had a great time talking to someone -- only to go home frustrated after being unable to take the next step. My fear is that she'll think something like, "geez, he seemed like such a nice guy to talk to, but now it turns out he just wants to get in my pants like all the others"... how can I get past this hang-up and just go for it, without suddenly feeling like some slimy pick-up artist?