Having trouble figuring out if I'm overreacting to my husband grabbing my arm
November 26, 2011 6:46 PM Subscribe
Help me figure out if this is a relationship dealbreaker-- my husband recently dragged me out of my chair, against my will.
posted by DianaV to Human Relations (66 answers total) 9 users marked this as a favorite
We're both 43, married 10 years, no kids. My husband definitely has a personality where he needs to be in control, and we have argued many times over what I perceive as his attempts to control me. I have also been unhappy for a long time over his moodiness and how quickly he can become very angry at people-- he has a road rage problem, for example.
The other night, we were walking through a shopping center. I wanted to sit down for a minute, so I sat. He thought I was trying to avoid going into a store with him-- I really wasn't. He grabbed my arm and said, "come on!" angrily, and physically pulled me back up, would not let go until I stood up. I was embarrassed-- plenty of people saw him do this and I was humiliated. I snapped the first thing that came into my mind--"get your hands off me."
It probably doesn't sound as bad as it felt to me. But ever since it happened, I don't want to be around him. I'm thinking of a separation and just don't know if I am overreacting. Any insights welcome.