I'm looking for advice on how to help my five year old with some behavioral issues.
I had my first parent teacher meeting with my son’s kindergarten teacher today. There are a few things that I need to work on with my child. The teacher noted that my son often overreacts when things don't go his way, sometimes yelling or screaming. These aren’t long tantrums but short outbursts born of frustration. He also quits or becomes frustrated when he does not excel at a task and will rush through work he isn’t interested in rather than working to improve. He is sometimes rude to others, (for example butting into line) largely because he is unaware of anyone but himself. In a similar vein, if someone hurts themselves he does not have the reflex to ask if they are OK, or if he can help.
These are also things I've noticed at home, albeit to a lesser degree. I want to do what I can to help him tackle these problems and learn to deal with his feelings in a more constructive way. I also want him to be comfortable trying new things and failing, and trying again (I’ve read this ask
, which has some great advice).
He’s very bright and loving and his last report card (from his early childhood education teacher at a large scale institutional daycare) was excellent. There haven’t been any major changes at home, but obviously switching from daycare to school was a big change. He does have a tendency to show anxiety by chewing his clothes. This has happened three times in his life, the longest period being for about two months when he was four years old. We also have a 3.5 year old daughter. The two children get along well and my son is not aggressive with my daughter. A few other (maybe) pertinent details: the school is in my son's second language. He's comfortable in this language but his vocabulary is not as extensive as it is in English. He also has a fairly mild lisp and we are working with a speech therapist. He has friends at school though his teacher said some of the children are starting to avoid him at times because of his outbursts.
Can you recommend resources - books, websites or even personal anecdotes - for how you have successfully dealt with similar situations? On the advice of his teacher I will give this a couple of months of work at home and school and if things don’t improve will then think about moving on to some kind of therapy.