I get irritated fairly easily (by coworkers, loud chewers, cats, etc.), and don't always respond in the best way. I'd like to be less irritated in general, but I also want to be able to hide my irritation better.
I am fairly easily irritated. Lately it's gotten worse, which is likely a direct result of hormones (I'm 20 weeks pregnant), but it's been a pattern for so long that it's time to change. I'm thinking about this in particular because I'm pregnant, and I know that come June, I'll need to exert more patience than I've ever had to.
Part of the immediacy of this is that I am a yeller, and I definitely don't want to be yelling around the baby. I come from a family of yellers. My partner's family did not yell, and if they did, it was very serious. I got yelled at for minor things. But moreso, yelling was used as a way to discipline animals. So, I don't really yell at people, but I yell at our cats. Particularly the one very bad cat
(the one on the left) who, in his old age, meows incessantly and poops inappropriately. The only thing that stops him from meowing is being shouted at, clapped at, or sprayed with water. I try to do the latter two, but my first instinct is to yell. In the past I've always had a "cats are strange" attitude, but his behavior has gotten so bad lately, it's impossible to ignore. He can meow on and off for hours. (And yes, we're working on options to help the cat out because he seems to have anxiety problems. He's had a positive response to pheromone collars, but we may take him to the vet to try other options.)
Another really odd complicating factor? The bad kitty and the new baby will share the same name. We like this name a lot. (It's also the name of my main toon in WoW, but my child can never, ever know that.)
Now, we may start calling the cat by a nickname, because I cannot be yelling "DAMN IT HENRY" every time the cat does something bad, because well, the kid could easily get confused, and could give him some complex.
When I get irritated by people, I obviously don't yell at them, but I have a hard time hiding my irritation. Usually when I'm irritable, it's because I've been set off by my misophonia
. I am extremely sensitive to eating sounds, and gum, smacking or gulping will set me into a rage. I usually try to just leave the situation and of course, say nothing, because it's completely irrational, and totally my problem, not theirs. I don't think my partner (Hi, honey!)
realizes how often my irritation is initially spawned by this, and then sets me into a foul mood.
So I get irritated at irrational things, but I'd also like to change my reaction to some things which are genuinely irritating. I have one coworker, who by office consensus, is one of the most irritating guys to work with. But everyone else seems to be able to hide their frustration much better than I. He and I work together frequently, and he loves to come into my office most days to talk at
me for hours about what ever is on his mind. He's exceptionally bad at reading emotions, and so even though I feel like I'm often rude to him, he doesn't see it. I don't mean to be rude, but I get so frustrated.
Sorry if this is scattered. I'm looking less for responses that have to do with communicating better with irritating co-workers or attempting to train cats (ha!)
and more for responses on dealing gracefully with irritable situations, reducing irritability, and hiding irritability. And I'm especially interested in hearing from people about coping with misophonia, since that is a rather unique trigger of irritation.