he really likes you, tubby!
November 2, 2011 12:16 AM Subscribe
Do I tell my partner his friend said something snarky? The brief: I have a fantastic bf who is everything I could ask for in a man. He's got a large circle which includes several female friends. One of them, he mentioned before I met her, is known for being funny, but generally inappropriate and uncouth (he gives pretty fair descriptions like this of everyone I've met, not singling her out). Met her a few times, and most recently she was very, very drunk. Can you guess where this is going?
posted by OompaLoompa to human relations (47 answers total)
While he socialized with the wider group, she tells me at length, repeatedly, that he's amazing (I know), I mustn't hurt him (hadn't planned on it), he likes me a lot and is always talking about how great I am (I had rather gathered he's fond of me), that despite what some people they mutually know think, she and he would NEVER be an item (he had mentioned he thought she was a bit baggage clad and wished anyone who takes her on well), he thinks I'm so great that, knowing she has issues with fat that he forbade her from even mentioning I'm fat (I'm a size 14 and he's plenty happy with my, uh, assets), and she wants us to be friends because if he thinks I'm amazing so does she (bom-ching!) On a loop, emphasis on how amazing he says I am and how she finds the idea anyone else might think they were dating craaaazy and icky.
So I have a hunch she's got feelings for him (understatement of the year). I'm not worried he returns them. Heck, I half suspect he is well aware of her feelings and his effusive praise of me could be his way of staving her off. So no worry he just can't see it. But do I mention the backhanded "compliments" and risk creating a rift or seeming jealous, or try to remain friendly and keep it to myself?