Communications going from bad to worse.
August 29, 2011 12:21 PM Subscribe
What are some tips for turning around days where you and your SO just don't seem to be communicating or getting along well?
posted by SNWidget to human relations (44 answers total) 68 users marked this as a favorite
Everyone once in a while, my lovely wife and I will have a day where we just seem to be constant stepping on each others toes, getting snippy with each other, or generally just not communicating well. It can be caused by outside factors (such as work problems) or internal factors (a joke that I took too seriously). It doesn't happen really often, but when it does, it throws us both off of our game all day, and we can never seem to get enough momentum to get over it.
For example - today, we were both working from home. Our internet went out, which affected her work and made her frustrated. We went out to go run an errand, and she made a joke about an expensive purchase I'd made earlier this week (in context of also having to get an unexpected new set of tires). I thought she was laying into me and took offense. We got back home, and she feels bad about making me feel bad, and I still feel hurt by that. Compound that with the internet not working for her, and neither or us just seems to be able to communicate properly.
It's like a cascade of small bad events caused us both to just be super sensitive or right on edge today.
How do you and your SO turn around these types of days? I'd rather not let the entire day just descend into apologies, sighs, and walking on eggshells on both of our parts. We try stuff like, "Ok, start this whole thing over," but I seem to have more trouble working through things like this than she does.
Again - this happens rarely, like less than once per month. It's just that it completely screws up our momentum for the day.
Any tips? Ideas on how to stop these days from turning into spirals?