Can't you pick a different tattoo?
July 9, 2011 8:21 AM Subscribe
Younger brother asked my opinion on his prospective tattoo. Maybe I should keep my mouth shut, but I'm not sure.
posted by Buffaload to human relations (45 answers total)
He's my half-brother, 20 years younger than me. He's almost old enough to get a tattoo, and when he does, he plans to have the "Coat of Arms" of our Irish surname on his bicep.
Sigh. See, my problem with it is that, as far as I know, my family isn't royalty, and we don't have a Coat of Arms or family crest. Of the little geneaology I'm aware of, my ancestors are from County Sligo in northwest Ireland.
And, I thought I read somewhere that it was a fad in the 60s and 70s to send away for your family's crest to hang in your rec room. My father did that and he never had any reason to believe the shield with the black-and-white checkerboard design was anything but our ancient family crest. I don't buy that it is.
So here's my half-brother now. We're close, but our great age difference means we aren't "buddies" in the same way we might be if we were only, say, 10 years apart or less. He's a smart, independent kid. He's a kind person, and I think he takes my opinions on things quite seriously.
I don't want to crush him by shitting all over his tattoo idea. But I think it's a bad idea. I think it's corny. I'm afraid one day he'll think it's corny. Maybe he doesn't care? I learned a long time ago that most people in my family don't think much of my egghead "But actually..." opinions anyway. So I'm leaning toward keeping my mouth shut. But maybe I shouldn't?
tl;dr -- my half brother, 20 years my junior, wants to know what I think about his tattoo design. I don't think much of it. Do I nod and smile, or speak up?