Making the sexy times more sexy

June 13, 2011 5:15 PM

Favorite moves?

For various reasons, my BF and I are holding off on PIV sex. That doesn't mean we don't like to have a good romp in the bedroom, though.

He is my first sexual partner, so while I'm all for it and he has told me that I've been the most passionate out of all his partners I feel a little limited in my creativity. So....what are some of your favorite non-intercourse moves/''tricks'' in bed? I'm asking with the understanding that individuals differ and these are what work for YOU and your partner, but they might widen my scope a little.

I do make sure to ask him what he likes, but sometimes it's nice to pleasantly surprise him, you know (or not, but hey! trial and error)?

I'm a woman, 20's and healthy, straight. Not into BDSM/kink.

posted by anonymous to Human Relations (15 answers total)

Do something different to shake things up. If you normally wear your hair up, let it down. If you're usually naked when you do stuff, try some lingerie. If you're usually passive, be more assertive. I can't know your partner's tastes, but almost everyone likes novelty.
posted by desjardins at 5:30 PM on June 13, 2011 [2 favorites]

Not the best technique for getting a guy revved up from zero, but once he's good and aroused a super-slow hand job can be pretty hot. Use plenty of lube and a firm grip.
posted by Serene Empress Dork at 5:31 PM on June 13, 2011 [2 favorites]

Are implements allowed?
posted by jadepearl at 5:41 PM on June 13, 2011

If you're stacked . . . lube up and tittyfuck. (despite the man-on-top Wikipedia illustration, this can be done in woman-on-top positions.)
posted by LBS at 5:54 PM on June 13, 2011 [2 favorites]

Massages with scented oils are awesome, practice your oral (the trick is in the suction, although HMMV) , and dry humping can also be very, very hot!

hand jobs don't do much for us, but they are an option, too. You can also watch each other masturbate, or watch porn together if you like it.
posted by Tarumba at 5:56 PM on June 13, 2011 [1 favorite]

oh yeah, and lube will be your best friend!
posted by Tarumba at 5:57 PM on June 13, 2011

For the most intense orgasm ever! No lube required.
posted by unliteral at 6:02 PM on June 13, 2011 [5 favorites]

Nightmare Brunette: "If you're ever at a loss for what to do next, just put your mouth on his balls. That is my advice as a professional."
posted by milk white peacock at 6:14 PM on June 13, 2011 [7 favorites]

To cut to the chase, mutual masturbation is a time honored standby...
posted by jim in austin at 6:17 PM on June 13, 2011 [1 favorite]

Anal
posted by TheBones at 6:20 PM on June 13, 2011

have him slowly (and i do mean slowly) finger you while you rub your clit. it's my favorite way to massage my g-spot to a mind shattering orgasm.
posted by nadawi at 6:27 PM on June 13, 2011 [2 favorites]

Counterclockwise swirl.
posted by Neiltupper at 7:57 PM on June 13, 2011

if you're both comfortable with it, share fantasies or talk explicitly while touching each other. write x-rated letters or texts or whatever, build up anticipation. neck for a long time in a car/semi-public spot. make out in different rooms of the house (kitchen or hallway floor, say). wrestle. 69 if you don't.
posted by ifjuly at 8:25 AM on June 14, 2011

Proceed with caution! At least 3 of the suggestions above would ruin the moment completely for me. This is why Cosmo's "6 Tips to Make Your Man Crazy in Bed!!" are a load of horse shit.

That said: Give each other massages until you're both nice and slippery and see what develops.
posted by coolguymichael at 8:50 AM on June 14, 2011

Finger-banging makes the world go 'round.
posted by jitterbug perfume at 4:36 PM on June 16, 2011 [1 favorite]