Is switching homes too often detrimental to his development or is this acting out a phase?
April 8, 2011 5:40 AM Subscribe
Children in Divorce: 3 1/2 year old acts out, Mommy thinks it's because he is switching homes too often, wants to change visitation schedule to have him overnight every night. Is switching homes too often detrimental to his development or is this acting out a phase? What can I do?
posted by MMALR to human relations (59 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite
Currently, I have my son Monday, Wednesday of one week, then Monday, Wednesday, Friday, Saturday, Sunday, Monday of the next week. We have joint custody with a 50/50 parenting agreement. I love my son, and I don't want to relinquish overnight time. Her problem is that she thinks my son doesn't get enough sleep, acts out because of the constant shifting of homes. In reality, he only switches frequently during the Monday and Wednesday portion of the week. No other time.
In any case, she believes it is the reason he is acting out. She's willing to throw up our pediatrician, therapists, etc. to defeat me in court should I go there. She wants to have him over night every night because he's a three year old that acts out.
Is this possible? Is there some research out there I can look at somewhere? I would prefer to never give up any time with my son, but I don't want to hinder his development. I suggested a week to week schedule, but she shot that down. She wants to have him sleep at her place all the time. I still get him on my days, but he never sleeps at my house (we live roughly a mile apart).