December 17, 2010 9:26 PM Subscribe
My dad wants me to say thank you for a wedding gift that we never got. Should I even though it totally pisses me off?
posted by lannanh to human relations (31 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
My husband and I were married on June 26, we were a little late in sending out our thank you's in mid-September, and I'm aware of this. My evil step-mother didn't fail to make a snide comment about this to me when we saw them at my brothers wedding in August. I explained that I was waiting to get our professional pictures back from our photographer because I wanted to include them in the thank yous. I also got a "innocent" email from my father asking if he had received his gift which was a decent sized check a couple weeks after the wedding. He knew we had because we had cashed it but I had assumed I would say thank you when we sent out the cards.
Well, I just got an email from my father, stating that my step mom was with her sister's the other night and they were all talking about how they received a thank you from us but one of them hadn't. Here's the problem, I don't think we ever received a gift from them, hence the reason why we never sent a thank you.
We are about to go visit this entire side of the family for Christmas. I hate my step mother because she's an evil beast but I don't hate her family. I'm not sure if I should just suck it up and send the thank you even though, I'm pretty sure we never got anything from them or do I tell my father such. It's annoying because this is making ME look bad which is just reinforcing the shitty opinion my stepmother already has of me. But is saying that we never got a gift making me look worse?