Requested charitable gifts we don't agree with.
September 3, 2011 7:18 AM Subscribe
Bride and groom are requesting charitable donations in lieu of wedding gifts. We like the couple, but aren't on board the charities they've chosen.
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We have just received a wedding invitation from a couple my husband knows at work. We've met them socially a few times and quite like them, and are very happy they are getting married. However, instead of traditional wedding gifts they would like guests to donate to one of three charities, all of which support political causes that are opposite our own leanings.
I feel like giving them wineglasses when they've asked for these donations is a direct repudiation of their request and won't go over well. On the other hand, I can't reconcile myself to writing a check to any of these organizations, and getting myself on whatever mailing and call lists might be associated with them. I absolutely do not want my name popping up on a list of donors anywhere.
What to do?