I would like to pitch woo to (at?) the boyfriend this holiday season. And I would love your suggestions.
The deal: I was thinking about my boyfriend the other day and was suddenly besotted by warm, fuzzy feelings. Some fluttery palpitations, even. Since my general approach to life can probably be described as “cynical,” I figure it might be fun to jump on these foreign feelings and express them to their fullest. Hence – impish gestures of the romantic kind (these can be gifts, activities, or any combination of the two).
The problem: for whatever reason, my initial impulses all revolve around baked goods (such as a tray of cupcakes decorated with scenes from our fun times together), but the boy doesn’t eat grains or dairy. Thus, all cakes and brownies are out. In fact, our diets are radically different, so making him a nice dinner could get tricky.
Also, I’m a jaded cynic, right? Obviously, romantic ideas don’t come easily to me. A few threads
touch upon this topic
, but a lot focus on romancing women or spicing up marriages. Nice, but not everything applies (it’s not really about gender boundaries, though he might not be impressed by flowers, but we don’t live together, so a lot of the “leave cute notes around” and “do her laundry!” advice isn’t really useful). Hence, I was wondering if you had any ideas.
Some info and guidelines:
- He is in his thirties: somewhat reserved, moderately sarcastic, very smart. Reads a ton, and then some. More a laid-back let’s-look-at-art type than a let’s-go-scale-a-ravine! kind of guy. Not a huge fan of current snowy conditions. Not a huge fan of it, at all.
- I am poor. Inexpensive = good.
- The idea of a series of romantical gestures, several things that can be spaced out over the course of several weeks, kind of sounds great right now. Since he really likes the holiday season (the music, the lights, the excitement), but isn’t into stuff, anything that could tie into December festivities and make it an especially memorable month would be nice.
- While not necessary, bonus points of Salt Lake City-specific suggestions.