September 1, 2006 7:16 AM Subscribe
Help me re-learn how to romance my wife.
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (28 answers total) 15 users marked this as a favorite
I am in a very happy relationship of nearly 20 years (dated for 10, married for 10). Recently our sex life has picked up a bit in intensity and playfulness, but my wife expresses that it would be even better if there were more romantic build-up, just little things to get her in the mood. However I am at a loss for how to do this any more. We're both around 40 and with jobs and a kid. I love her dearly and want to romance her. But I just can't come up with gestures that don't seem trite or obvious. I don't want to do things that are simply precursors to having sex--I genuinely want to sprinkle little romantic flourishes over her day. I even feel lame for having to ask. Mefites, any suggestions? Ladies (or gents), what are some little things your partners do that send you (or would send you) head over heels?