Ex and "best friend" won't talk to me anymore, why?
November 15, 2010 7:30 PM Subscribe
Why won't my ex talk to me? And how can I be okay with this? Give me
insight based on your experience.
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (36 answers total) 8 users marked this as a favorite
My ex (and supposedly "best friend") and I were together for three years and just broke up earlier this year based on the advice of the therapist we were seeing. It was an amicable breakup for the most part (no drama, no fighting, just taking different directions in life). We are both in our early 30s.
After breaking up, we didn't talk for 3 months. Then we met up a few times (we do not live in the same state anymore) and tried to do long distance. This didn't work though, so we called it off for good. I took this to mean our relationship, and not our friendship, but she still wanted "a break for a while." Ok, fair enough.
We ran into each other a couple months later at an event (we have similar interests) and we had a good hour-long talk about the future of our friendship. She even made plans for us to hang out a couple days later, then when the day came, she canceled and said she didn't want to see me. Needless to say I was a bit confused.
I haven't heard from her since. That was 2.5 months ago. I tried calling her twice, leaving friendly voicemails, but have not gotten any response.
I know "people need time" and all that, but I heard she has a new boyfriend (I'm not jealous, I swear, I'm over the relationship with her) --- to me this must mean she has moved past our relationship. So I can't understand why she is ignoring me, especially if she is supposed to be my best friend. It has been 10 months since we originally broke up, and 5 months since we tried to make it work again and broke up for good. To me that's a long time.
Oh, and her birthday is in a few weeks. I'm guessing it's a bad idea to send her a birthday card?