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September 7, 2010 2:36 PM Subscribe
Help me, I am an academic chair. How do I not get annoyed and frustrated at work?
posted by wandering_not_lost to work & money (8 answers total) 6 users marked this as a favorite
I am an academic chair at a small college. It is like being a middle manger with no actual authority, but a lot of responsibility and work.
This situation just came up. I work with someone I really like a lot. If I had subordinates, he would be a subordinate (he is not faculty). But being a faculty chair, I don't actually have subordinates. Anyway, this person knows quite a bit about what is happening on campus, but always holds back quite a bit. I find myself asking an irritating version of 21 questions, just to squeeze out a little tiny bit of helpful information. This is not gossip, it is actual relevant work information. He also tends to try to be neutral and to not actually identify anyone. It is maddening. It is not part of this person's job to share this information with me, so I cannot "demand" that he do so.
I realize this person is like this, so how can I not get annoyed. I kind of go into this barrage of questions, kind of like perverse Socratic questioning. This annoys both of us, and I end up feeling like a jerk. I really prefer to put things out in the open, discuss them and loath the kind of cryptic responses I get. My alternative is to not engage in this dialog, but then I would miss learning something I should know.
So do any of you have experience with something/someone like this? What do you do?