Dreams vs Responsibility: How can I balance my life?
August 19, 2010 6:29 PM Subscribe
How can I become a responsible adult without getting my dreams lost in the process? Can they be one and the same?
posted by vienaragis to work & money (14 answers total) 8 users marked this as a favorite
I'm 24 and living with my parents. We get along well, but I do need to move out eventually. For the record, their response to all this is, "Just write a book! It'll be a best seller because you're awesome and you'll be rich forever." I have evidence suggesting they're blinded by parental love.
-- Stable hand during high school. Basic horse care. Nothing fancy.
-- After college, I was hired out of an internship as a QA engineer. I did test work, but also made all the tutorials and instructions for their software. Draining job. Three hour commute. Agonized before quitting.
-- Fretting, I bought into the idea that internet business was the key to surviving this economy. I made back my investment and even a small profit, but loathed it. I added nothing of value to the world and was working longer than before.
Education wise, I have a bachelor's degree in game design, which applies to an industry that's grown more social than I expected. I'd love to make independent games on my own for a living, but I'd love to be a full time novelist too, if we're being radical dreamers today.
One option I've tossed around is private commissions, as art is also near and dear to me. I've been approached by others asking if I'd do this for them, but I JUST played the "toy with self-employment while not earning an actual living" game. Granted, I don't have an immediate need for extra funds. But it feels irresponsible.
The last time I applied for jobs, that itself was a full time job, and I was begging for an unpaid position at the time. I've sent out applications recently, but not the 10-15 a day I did then. It's difficult to be that aggressive without a sense of what I'm looking for.
It feels there's not enough time for everything. I want to write my fiction, work on my art, learn languages... but I don't want to neglect my responsibility as an adult. Maybe I just need a lesson in time management; I feel all over the place.
tl;dr... I think my situation boils down to these questions:
A) What day jobs fit my education/experience that would also be well suited to an introvert?
B) Am I completely crazy for entertaining the idea of going freelance with art, continuing writing, and seeing where that gets me even if it lacks the guarantee of a steady paycheck? Some days I feel like job hunting lacks that guarantee, too.
Any insight offered is appreciated, no matter how small. Thanks!