Help me get over my affair, please?
August 8, 2010 3:36 PM Subscribe
So I cheated on my husband, but before things went too far (i.e., beyond kissing), I confessed and ended the affair. My husband has forgiven me. My friends are sympathetic. All in all, I got off easy.
The problem: I can't stop thinking about the other guy. How do I get over him?
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (20 answers total) 9 users marked this as a favorite
I've removed him from my social networking sites, deleted his number from my phone, etc. He himself has made it fairly clear that he doesn't want to be the object of my crazy obsession any longer (he initiated the relationship, but clearly had no idea how enthusiastically I would reciprocate).
But I can't stop writing poetry about him, crying every time I hear a song that reminds me of him, etc. Every day, at least once, I have to sit on my hands to keep from contacting him.
I'm meditating, seeing a therapist, etc. - doing all of the things I should to help heal myself and my marriage. I just want to know how long this searing emotional pain is going to last. Because it kind of sucks.