I regret quitting my job. What does it mean?
July 8, 2010 8:36 PM Subscribe
I spent several days debating the pros and the cons of accepting a new job offer. I accepted the new job, quit my current job, and am in the middle of my 'last two weeks'. And I think I really regret quitting. Help.
posted by Kololo to Work & Money (17 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
[For context: i work at a mid-size marketing agency with an excellent reputation, i'm moving to a small agency that's been around a couple years and that's still building its reputation. I live in Toronto, which has decent number of agencies, but its still a pretty small community.]
I've been in my current job for a bit less than two years. There have been some rough patches, but overall i've been pretty successful, my boss has been making an effort to give me the development opportunities i've wanted, and has been making an effort to put me on the types of projects she knows i'm interested in. I've made a few good friends, and i've become really central, both professionally and personally, to the project team i work on, and very important to the clients we serve, who i love working for. A lot of the difficulties i'd had in the job really feel like they're in the past.
I was offered a job for more money (although i don't really need more money, to be honest), with a better title, at a smaller company, in a field i'm not as familiar with. There's a lot of "on paper" upside to moving to this new job. I'm moving from a mid- level job at a big office to a 'director' title at a small office. Its a good 'career progression'. But because i didn't really feel ready to leave my current job, it took a lot of advice and pro/con lists and reassurance from others for me to feel ready to quit. And so i did.
I assumed that after I quit that i'd feel a sense of relief at making the decision, and excitement about the new challenge. But instead all i feel is regret. I'm going to miss my project team and my co-workers. I feel i've let down my boss who was making a real effort to invest in me. I feel regretful that i'm not going to work on the projects that were lined up for me, and that i'm going to be disappointing the current clients i work with. I have the 'i had made a mistake feeling' in my stomach, instead of excitment.
So! An actual question: Is this weird version of buyers remorse semi-normal? Has anyone else ever felt this way? Can you tell me its just nervousness? Or is this totally abnormal? Should i assume that my regret 'means something', and i should consider trying to 'unquit'? Is un-quitting even possible? Like legally? and in the 'looking like a jackass' sense? And what about quitting the new job that i've accepted but haven't started yet? What would the implications be?