Garfield may hate Mondays, but I hate Sundays...
April 4, 2010 1:51 PM Subscribe
Almost every weekend, I end up depressed and feeling useless at the end of Sunday night. No matter how I try to fix the pattern leading up to it, it always seems to end up in the same place. If you have a problem like this, how do you solve it? Or, if you don't, how do I keep myself from falling into this cycle every week?
posted by SNWidget to human relations (28 answers total) 78 users marked this as a favorite
The situation generally goes like this: I make a resolution to get a bunch of stuff done over a weekend. I have lists! I clear time! I make sure that I have some fun activities spread out so that it's not just a giant block of work.
I'm a graduate student, so the things that need to get done have actual deadlines. It's not so much stuff like "I should paint the house" but "I need to get these graded so my kids know how they're doing." There are some of the other type on there as well, and those weight heavily on me as more things on my list that seem to never get accomplished.
Friday, I don't do anything, because hey, it's Friday.
Saturday, I try to do things, but I end up running errands, and saying, "No worries, I'll get it done on Sunday."
Then Sunday comes. I start feeling guilty for not having done more over the weekend. The apartment starts to look like more and more of a mess. I start getting into a negative thinking spiral which ends up with me feeling useless and like a complete failure.
Sunday nights are awful - I just beat up on myself for hours, frustrating my wife and myself. I'll try to do things like clean the apartment before I start working, but then I just get mad that I didn't do that earlier. No matter what I do, it doesn't feel like enough, and I never feel like I start the weekend with a good start as opposed to starting yet another week behind, perhaps even further behind than I was last week.
What do I do? How do I change this process and get out of this self-fulfilling rut?