How to keep stalker at bay?
March 15, 2010 7:57 PM Subscribe
Tell me what I can do to protect my house and my wife from a creepy guy who has previously had run of our house, but hasn't broken any laws.
posted by robokevin to Human Relations (65 answers total) 6 users marked this as a favorite
So to make a long story short, my wife works for a commercial flooring company as a liason between installers (who work as contractors) and the flooring vendor. We decided to re-tile our kitchen and hired the work out to one of the contractors whom she's had good experience with in the past.
He did a great job. Unfortunately, when he was done (I was out of town) and came back to return his key, he propositioned my wife. When she deflected, he attempted to physically engage her (hugged and kissed her). She told him to leave.
This was on Saturday. Since then he has called her cell phone every day, including leaving voicemails saying that he is going to come over and bring tamales. She has not responded, and has blocked his number. He called twice today.
She is getting extremely nervous about this.
The thing, he hasn't really done anything illegal. I'm not sure if she can get a restraining order (I know that "stalking" is a means to get a restraining order, but does this really constitute stalking?).
I am going to be staying home from work tomorrow and re-keying the locks. Considering that this guy had run of the house for a week while we were at work, is there anything else that I need to do?
I guess one of the main reasons that I am posting this is that I am halfway considering buying a gun. I am a liberal hippy pacifist and don't even know how to shoot a gun, but I am thinking that this guy may come back, and in a threatening way. I'd like to be able to intimidate him enough such that he leaves us alone. Thing is, I don't have any idea how to use a gun, and I think it would be quite obvious.
99 chances out of 100 this guy is harmless, but we (especially my wife) have no peace of mind right now.
I am really frustrated and not quite sure what to do.