How to quit my stressful job?
January 7, 2010 12:42 PM Subscribe
How do I quit my over-the-top stressful job? (More complicated than that, obviously.)
posted by anonymous to Work & Money (20 answers total) 5 users marked this as a favorite
I started this job by being poached by my current boss, who I worked with as a colleague at a previous organization which we both left because the leadership was terrible. I spent 10 months working so hard here, but now I see I've jumped form the frying pan into the fire. I've now been here for 14 months.
The job itself was misrepresented to me - I thought I'd be doing a lot of professional work related to my specialization, but in reality, I've found myself being a glorified assistant. My boss regularly changes deadlines and the essential qualities of projects. For example, I had a policy book to write - something I'd been looking forward to - and in the workplan for the new fiscal year back in July, we'd broken out different parts for me to work on monthly until it was slated to be done in June 2010. In December, she says she expects it to be done by Christmas. 60-hour weeks later... you get the idea.
She tells me she doesn't want to "have" to manage me, and I should be proactive about telling her what I am capable of doing when she gives me tasks, but it becomes clear when I try and ask for direction on how to prioritize the twelve projects I suddenly have due tomorrow, she expects nothing less than exactly what she wants, exactly when she wants it, and expects me to know that before she tells me (if she tells me at all).
Bosslady isn't even the core of the problem. The core is the Fearless Leader, who is mercurial, flaky, and only works part-time. She has no concept of what I do all day and no interest in learning, and it is my understanding that she makes similar demands of my boss that my boss does to me. I feel like my boss has Stockholm Syndrome, and is a total loss.
Meanwhile, I'm trying to get a new job. I've got a few good leads on the horizon, and with my skill set, I won't have trouble finding one. But in an environment where taking a sick day is cause for retribution and scheduling a doctor's appointment results in obvious punishment, getting to interviews is not going to be easy. That being said, I know I'm going to have to suck it up and do that.
The result of all of this, of course, is a massive amount of stress. I have had a headache for three weeks, from clenching my jaw. I have what I think are panic attacks on Sundays. I cry more mornings than not upon waking up because I know that I have to go to work. I had a miscarriage last week, and I don't know if it was due to the stress I am under but it can't have helped.
In this economy, I can't just quit my job without something else lined up. I'm working on lining something up, but I don't know how to quit here. HR isn't very effective at my workplace, but I'm thinking of going to them first upon my and telling them that this job is negatively affecting my health and I have no choice but to quit, and going together to my boss to break the news so I feel more protected. But regardless, I think my last two weeks would be hell. I don't know what to do and this is all so overwhelming. A step-by-step, or just some tips, would be helpful.
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