If I could just care less about my work, I'd do a better job.
March 24, 2014 7:53 AM Subscribe
I'm the kind of person who gets worried enough they'll do their work not well, or make a mistake, that they end up either not starting or working too slowly and filled with dread.
Last week, I had to work late on a project. I had two beers in the process, found I cared less about the anxiety and dread and perfectionism, and just did a better, less stressful job. I want to do this without drinking.
posted by Ash3000 to Work & Money (14 answers total) 33 users marked this as a favorite
To nip this in the bud: I don't drink very often, and when I do I usually don't drink very much - very much a social drinker if that.
In this particular case, I'd had a particularly stressful work day, treated myself to a beer, got the call that something came up requiring more effort, and treated myself to an (unusual for me) second beer.
I all of a sudden just felt I had less riding on it, like it was something that required less emotional investment - and I could just, well, take a crack at it and finish it up. (I'm still struggling to articulate why everything felt easier, so it's entirely possible I'll have to clarify this in the comments.) I finished it in less time than I was thinking it'd take, and went on to do something fun with my evening.
I want that feeling of just *caring* less about what I do - and part of the problem is I work for an advocacy group whose politics are very much my own, and which I believe in, and that also has something of a stressful staff dynamic, where it feels cliquey at times. It's hard for this not to feel like there's always a lot riding on what I do. Paradoxically, when I feel that weight, the work is less likely to happen, and less likely to happen well.
So, how do I treat it just like a job, that I can just handle tasks without a lot of thought? How do I just let myself feel that way in the morning? Without drinking?
(In case it matters, I currently work out of home doing New/Online Media work, and see staff members in person a few times a month.)