Dad, please stop beating a dead horse.
January 6, 2010 6:43 PM Subscribe
I am a paralegal. No matter what I say, my father continually reminds me that if I went to law school I would have a better job, make more money, etc. If I say anything remotely intelligent, he automatically responds, "See, you should go to law school." Please help me make him understand that I don't want to go back to school, and his nonstop pestering only makes me feel stupid and inadequate.
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Attaining my B.A. snowballed me into a never-ending cycle of anxiety-ridden depression. In college, I was extremely stressed out, lonely, and depressed. I spent many nights wired on caffeine and sleep-deprived, because I procrastinated like crazy. Now that I've been working for three years, I have financial independence, my own apartment, and even a couple of boyfriends here and there. I don't want to go back to school. The stress and increased isolation due to studying are not helpful for someone prone to anxiety-related depression like myself. My father is a physician, and the only member of his family who completed a post-graduate degree. He grew up in an impoverished country, and to his credit, his ambitious nature propelled him out of poverty. But how do I make him understand, that I'm NOT him, that I have no desire to go back to school, and my frustration with him for dwelling on the subject?