Girlfriend still on OKCupid
June 14, 2009 1:40 PM Subscribe
We met on OKCupid and started dating. I deleted my profile... she didn't. What to do?
posted by anonymous to human relations (49 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
Everything else in our relationship is going great. I guess I really don't expect her to delete it. She's changed her status on OKCupid to 'seeing someone' and is now only looking for 'new friends'. Still, something about it makes me uncomfortable - it is a dating site, after all.
I've tried to bring it up once or twice, with her reassuring me that she's only ever replied to two or three guys on the site, and I shouldn't be worried. But I am worried! Occasionally I peek at her profile discreetly. It seems like she logs on every few days, and her page says "Replies Often". From what I hear, attractive girls get messages a lot, so this doesn't seem to jibe with the "hardly ever replying" thing.
I've always thought the whole "oh, i'm just on OKCupid for the quizzes/for fun" thing was just a clever way to make people uncomfortable with dating sites be able to excuse themselves for being on a dating site.
I'm trying not to go crazy-jealous-boyfriend here... but do I have a reason to be? I trust her and want to believe her. Maybe she's telling the truth and OKCupid's "how often user X replies" indicator is broken? I know most of the answers to this will be 'talk to her about it', but I've tried!