How do you find someone to talk to?
March 18, 2009 6:56 AM Subscribe
I'm not a social person, but I really need to build some relationships. How do people do this? This isn't taught in schools, or I must have skipped that day.
posted by anonymous to human relations (20 answers total) 39 users marked this as a favorite
I'm dealing with some serious feelings of isolation, and also going through a number of issues in my personal life and need someone to talk to. (If it makes any difference, I'm a straight guy.)
I have a lot of "work friends" but no one I consider truly close. My SO and I have a pretty rocky relationship lately, and go through periods of detachment. (We don't live together, and occasionally go through periods of almost zero communication.) I've been getting the cold shoulder for days now and I'm about to go nuts.
How do you find someone to talk to, short of going to a shrink? I moved recently, and don't have any local friends. I work from home, and don't have much of an opportunity to meet people. Plus, it'd probably be best to not unload on someone a few days or hours after meeting them. But, it's not just about having a shoulder to whine on -- it'd be really helpful if I just had a solid friendly relationship with someone close to my own age. (Late 30s)
I'd consider writing about my issues, but I don't do journals and blogging is out because I don't want to be airing my issues publicly. (Not eager to pursue anonymous blogging. Yes, I see the irony...) Besides, I'd like some feedback.
It's affecting my sleep and my work. It's not a healthy situation, but I'm not sure how to change things. Any suggestions?