When announcing a wedding is more like "breaking the news"
February 7, 2009 7:25 PM Subscribe
I am getting married on May 12th. How do I break the news to my family?
posted by anonymous to human relations (15 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
I am engaged to a wonderful man, and at the beginning of February, we finally nailed down the date we want to be married -- May 12th. I have met his extended family, and he mine. Problem: his family loves me and is thrilled about our marriage, mine does not feel the same at all. My family is, at best, unenthusiastic, and at worst, totally opposed.
Considering how unsupportive they have been over these last several months (though I do love them dearly, and don't want to hurt them), how best to tell them I definitely AM getting married, and here is when? The kicker: my fiance and I simply cannot justify to ourselves spending the money on a wedding that could go towards our new home, especially considering that my family has been so negative about the whole thing.
Only my mother and brother live in the immediate area. What is the etiquette in this situation? My fiance and I would like to have a private ceremony and then spend the next week or so settling into our new home (we have already chosen it and gotten the paperwork started). I was thinking of sending out wedding announcements something along the line of: So-and-so and such-and-such will be married in a private ceremony on May 12th, 2009. Please join us on thus-and-such-date for...??? I do not want to hurt anyone's feelings, but I can't let their desire to see me not marry my love control me either. If they all lived in the area, I would love to say "join us for dinner and drinks," or something along those lines, but since everyone besides my mother and brother lives states away, that doesn't seem right. Would it be better for us to perhaps take separate trips to visit our families after the wedding? Please advise on how you would handle this, and I would love to hear anecdotes about similar situations.