Can you "help" an alcoholic friend?
January 17, 2009 3:30 PM Subscribe
How do I help a friend who is an alcoholic?
posted by uxo to human relations (19 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
I've made friends with someone over the year who has some serious alcohol and alcohol-related issues. (Drinks a lot every night, depression, got fired from last job because of it, DUIs, etc.)
I really like this person--there are many wonderful things about her. It is very clear that she wishes to continue drinking, and doesn't see it as a problem if you ask her about it.
Do you have any words of wisdom or any experiences you could share with me? Either as a friend of an alcoholic or as someone who is a recovering one? Just stay out of her way and let life take its course? Recommend therapy for her? Just chill, and avoid ever talking about it? I'm hesitant to ever bring up the issue with her because I foresee it will just result in an argument: I will sound judgmental and she will sound defensive.