How can I get rid of these awful feelings?
June 2, 2010 1:44 PM Subscribe
How do I deal with feelings of guilt and shame after drinking? I admit to a drinking problem; that's a different question. What I would like to know is specific strategies for making the morning after less hard on my conscience. Or do I need to just suck it up and deal with it as the natural consequence of my drinking?
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After drinking I feel a lot of shame and guilt. This is partly due to my conscience telling me that I have not yet managed to find the motivation to stay sober. But it's also partly this cringey sort of feeling where I replay in my head various conversations, exchanges with people, stupid things I did or said, dumb text messages etc. Pretty routine and immature stuff. But it all compounds into a kind of retrospective social anxiety, that seriously makes the next day a real trial. What I'm asking for is specific strategies, for example tips from cognitive behaviourial therapy, for dealing with these feelings.
I drink heavily between 1 and 3 times per week with friends and have done for years (I'm a 28yo female), I am quite gregarious anyway but become loud and occasionally obnoxious when drinking.
On and off I make various attempts to quit, eg with therapy, but overall I am really still in the "contemplation" phase of dealing with what definitely seems to be an addiction. Everything else in my life at the moment is pretty great, eg job, living situation, relationship etc.
So while I am still drinking, what can I do to forgive myself and not be crippled mentally by feelings of shame the next day? Or do I need to suck it up and somehow channel it into motivating the next quit attempt? (easier said than done...)
All advice or thoughts appreciated! thanks