He wants to be "friends" but still likes me? Did I kill the attraction?
September 27, 2008 2:23 PM Subscribe
He likes me.. says I'm cute, smart and does want to be intimate.. but doesn't want a relationship. What is wrong?
posted by freshsprout to Human Relations (38 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
I'm 30 from Ca., he's 36 originally from the UK now also in Ca. We dated intensely for 4 weeks, had an amazing time and connected very well - physically and mentally. He's even introduced me to his friends. But after having a few beers, we got intimate (did not go all the way, I did tell him I can't sleep w/ someone until I got a commitment.. maybe that was a bad idea) and a week later, he broke up with me, asking to be friends saying he didn't "feel it."
I refused to talk to him for 3 wks. After a while, I gave in as a test and he was happy to hear from me. So now we're building as "friends". But the weird thing is, he still cares for me, and has said that I'm smart, cute, everything he is looking for. We hung out at a museum last week and he never left my side, he kept looking at me and I still felt that spark. Recently he admitted that he still thought of me, even sexually but he doesn't know if he sees us long term. I don't understand?
Do other men on here understand what's going on? I'm totally lost. I thought maybe the attraction died, but apparently it hasn't? Or did it? Did I initially scare him off? We plan on talking about things this week, as I want to make this work, but I don't want to be put in a compromising position.