December 2017 Archives
December 31
Can I re-vacuum-seal meat?
If I have opened a vacuum sealed package of steaks (bought that way from the supermarket), removed two steaks, then put the remaining steaks in a new package and vacuum sealed them - can I rely on the use by date on the original package of steaks? Or will it depend on how long the steaks were out of package before re-sealing?
Yes, they were having sex.
I wish to find the space whales. (they were having sex) [more inside]
posted by Evilspork at 7:03 PM PST - 3 comments
posted by Evilspork at 7:03 PM PST - 3 comments
Finding company for Lucha Libre in Mexico City on short notice
I'm in Mexico City for the next few days and I'm dying to catch the Lucha Libre show at Arena Mexico tomorrow (01/01). Given that I'm a solo female traveler with poor Spanish skills, what are the best, safest, and most immediate ways to find cool (and English speaking) strangers in Mexico City who want to get hype over sweaty mostly naked dudes doing muscle ballet together? [more inside]
posted by brieche at 6:25 PM PST - 1 comment
posted by brieche at 6:25 PM PST - 1 comment
Restoring my childhood image
Is it even possible to restore the paper a portrait in charcoal and white highlights was drawn on in 1960? [more inside]
Recurrent ear infections in newborns?
Our very cute son will be seven weeks tomorrow. He's currently on ear infection number... five, I think? Any advice/experiences with this in a newborn? [more inside]
Online musical collaboration with strangers?
I know there are sites and apps where strangers upload half-finished tracks and other people can add instruments and vocals. This sounds like fun. Have you used one and which would you recommend? [more inside]
Quarter-life crisis - Who am I?
I'm at this stage in my life where I'm questioning everything. Help me figure it out. [more inside]
posted by Spiderwoman at 4:23 PM PST - 11 comments
posted by Spiderwoman at 4:23 PM PST - 11 comments
Questions about signing an agreement for a parking space
We're renting a parking spot from someone at their house and they've asked us for a copy of our id and car registration. Is this normal? Or something we should be wary of? [more inside]
posted by Proginoskes at 4:09 PM PST - 2 comments
posted by Proginoskes at 4:09 PM PST - 2 comments
What's (the) one thing I can do to become a better man?
Both personal and societal changes have made me wonder - what can I do to become the best man I can be? [more inside]
posted by Desertshore at 3:56 PM PST - 16 comments
posted by Desertshore at 3:56 PM PST - 16 comments
How to go out alone as a woman on NYE?
It’s New Years Eve, I’m recently single, all my close friends are partnered and busy. I feel like I need to be out among the city tonight. How do I bar hop and have fun, safely on NYE alone? I’ve spent much of my life partnered and away from the bar scene. What should I know? [more inside]
What racial justice organizations should I donate to?
I'm looking for effective, nonprofit racial justice organizations to donate to, along the lines of NAACP, SPLC, or the smaller organizations on this list of black-led racial justice organizations. Are there organizations on that list or otherwise that you particularly recommend?
Can you identify this building?
Do you know what this building is? I've tried Google Images and TinEye to identify this building but had no luck. I think it's on the east coast, but I'm not sure. Thanks.
posted by Jackson at 1:33 PM PST - 2 comments
posted by Jackson at 1:33 PM PST - 2 comments
Open, Sez Me
I want to try out the Sesame Enable app to see if I can control a smartphone with my limited head movement, but I've queried my network and no one I know has an Android 7 or newer phone; only iPhones or older Android models. Are there any stores in the NYC/NJ area that would let me try it out before buying? [more inside]
Can I eat this? Thawed frozen spinach edition.
I put a block of frozen spinach in the fridge a week ago. It’s still sealed in its original bag. Can I use it to make a baked spinach bread appetizer? Or will it end in tears?
Best paint by numbers app for iPad
I recently discovered I really enjoy paint-by-numbers apps like Pixel Art. Pixel Art, however, is riddled with tons of ads, and you can’t purchase the game outright, only sign up for a $7/week (!) subscription. It seems like this is th per case for most of the other apps I see in the App Store. Does anyone know of a similar app I can buy, without having to pay an ongoing subscription fee?
posted by itsamermaid at 12:52 PM PST - 3 comments
posted by itsamermaid at 12:52 PM PST - 3 comments
Defining "Vegetarian"
I have a question about the definition of "vegetarian." [more inside]
Give my tshirt new life
Twenty years ago, my brother gave me a tshirt on which he had printed a design that he'd drawn himself, in color. Twenty years later, it's quite yellowed, faded, and dingy. Help me resurrect it in a new form. [more inside]
Learning a Second Language as an Adult
I’m an English-only speaker who has relatively recently begun working for a multinational corporation. This year I’d like to learn to read and understand spoken Spanish. I have the Duolingo app, which is already helping a lot. But what should I do after that? [more inside]
What does getting an auto salvage title mean to me?
I recently made an appointment with GEICO to get repair on some hail damage (large cracks in windshield, many dings) on my seven-year old Hyundai Accent. After about an hour and a half of assessment, the agent proclaimed that the damage was greater than the value of the car. [more inside]
Thanks, but no thanks!
How do folks with food intolerances and allergies navigate dinner parties? [more inside]
How do I get rid of these search suggestions?
When I click on the address bar in Safari on my iPhone, I’m given suggested search terms based on the content of the page. I’m a recent survivor of sexual assault, and sometimes the suggested search terms are distressing to me, as in this example. How do I turn these suggestions off? I do not want to turn off typing suggestions in general, as I use those extensively.
Looking for some happy creative projects
I'd like to do as many as possible lighthearted creative projects this year, so I'm looking for (adult) project ideas/tutorials. I thought making a bunch of critters would be fun, robots, aliens, dinosaurs, monsters, fairies, octopuses, etc...non-critter project ideas welcome also! [more inside]
How to not ANGRY at mildly wrong spouse?
I’m at the (hopefully) tail end of a complicated and grueling case of PPD/PPA. One of the symptoms was reactiveness and anger towards my spouse who I love very much in real life.
Today, we had a small spat and I feel huge anger and sadness. He’s not here now but as soon as he walks in the front door I know the feelings will come back. Help me manage appropriately? [more inside]
posted by jeszac at 8:41 AM PST - 14 comments
posted by jeszac at 8:41 AM PST - 14 comments
How do I make my drone more visible?
Bought the kids a quadcopter for xmas. The trouble is, when it's more than 20 or 30 yards away, it's hard to tell which direction it's facing, so it's hard to fly it back. I've got some ideas for how to remedy this, but heaps of questions about those. [more inside]
Please help me stop yelling
I yell at my six year old in specific situations (see inside). I am determined to stop. Please help me with alternatives. [more inside]
You all have convinced me to buy a refurb Lenovo - question re options
Should I wait until there's something appropriate on the Lenovo outlet page and pay more for a refurbished laptop with a 1 year warranty or go with a lower price and 90 day warranty at Newegg? Details within. [more inside]
posted by she's not there at 12:36 AM PST - 10 comments
posted by she's not there at 12:36 AM PST - 10 comments
What’s the etiquette when dating casually?
I just got out of a long relationship and I’m enjoying seeing who’s out there on apps like Tinder. I’m a cis woman in her late 30s, dating men from 35-42ish. I’ve never explored casual sex before and I feel like I don’t really understand the etiquette. [more inside]
How do I accurately describe this familial relationship?
Hi. I'm wondering how I accurately describe this 19th century dude's relationship to me. Detail inside. [more inside]
posted by angrycat at 12:04 AM PST - 6 comments
posted by angrycat at 12:04 AM PST - 6 comments
December 30
Moving on from old memories Marie Kondo Style
In honor of my 30th birthday + New Year's falling around the same time, I am doing my annual cleaning of the closets and am trying to decide whether I want to go full Kondo or not on some of my childhood treasures. What did you gain the most satisfaction from throwing away, and what do you regret getting rid of after doing a similar purge? [more inside]
Risks of self identification in Canada
Are there are risks to self identifying as Aboriginal/Indigenous in Canada? [more inside]
What's New in New Orleans?
I'm off to visit New Orleans for a while in the near future and I'd like an overview of what's new, what's changed, and what's not to miss. I've been a bunch of times but not recently and I'll be staying in the CBD- We like theater, eating, history, art, engineering projects, menswear (secondhand and thrift) and general homosexual bonhomie. Excellent tours ideal.
Recommendations for anime without sexism?
I've been wanting to watch some good anime, but most of what I've seen is pretty misogynistic, both in terms of all the boob/butt shots and portraying female characters as less capable/sillier than their male counterparts. Probably the only anime I've watched in which I haven't been bothered by this is Fullmetal Alchemist: Brotherhood. I've also started Silver Spoon and I like it so far. I'm open to pretty much any genre, but I do like good characterization and interesting plot development.
How do I disable touch screen on a kindle fire 7?
I’d like to disable the touch screen on our kindle fire 7, so our toddler can’t randomly click on things while he’s watching a video. [more inside]
Tarrying too long at a “frog wedding”?
A person of my acquaintance heard a saying used jokingly when a person is taking a long time to return from somewhere, like the restroom: “[person] must be going to a frog wedding.” Have you heard this expression? Where does it come from? [more inside]
Help me find a cool stone mousepad
I'm thinking about buying one of these tiles to use as a mousepad, because I love the way black galaxy granite looks, and I want a stone mousepad. That said, it's a little thick and heavy (3/8 inch thick and 6 pounds!), and I'm waiting to hear back about how sharp or rough the edges are. Can you recommend anything similar that has rounded edges, is available as a one-off, doesn't have anything glued onto it, and isn't prohibitively expensive? [more inside]
To Mattress or Not to Mattress
We hate our mattress because it is way too firm. Is it worth it to try out a mattress topper that will cost a few hundred dollars, or should we bite the bullet and buy a new mattress? [more inside]
posted by just_ducky at 6:12 PM PST - 10 comments
posted by just_ducky at 6:12 PM PST - 10 comments
Google Voice number being marked as a landline
I have a Google Voice number instead of a landline and I give it out in general where I don't really need to talk to someone so our mobile numbers don't get into the hands of marketers. It's worked quite well so far, but I'm running into issues where websites claim the number is a landline and can't receive SMS, which is not true. Is there a way to fix this? [more inside]
Legal speculation: State agencies in conflict; how might it play out?
Legal types: What happens when two state agencies come into conflict with respect to interpreting state and federal law? Precedent? How might this play out? Under discussion: Commonwealth of Pennsylvania's Dept. of Health vs. Pennsylvania State Police, and medical marijuana vs. Second Amendment. [Please note: not a joke or a hypothetical. Looking for legal perspectives, please.] [more inside]
How do I find a CPA who specializes in dealing with authors?
My wife and I both expect to be in the writing biz in a few years, which means dealing with the publishing industry (and therefore variable income) as well as freelance projects as they come along. We would like an account who will make the most of the good, the bad, and the ugly of this situation. How do we go about finding a CPA with that specialty? We're in the Pioneer Valley, western Massachusetts.
posted by Alex Haist at 5:20 PM PST - 2 comments
posted by Alex Haist at 5:20 PM PST - 2 comments
Changed my full name legally, how to explain?
Ive had a 5 name full legal name since i was born. Ive always wanted to change it and i really had to change my sons middle name so i finally just filed the paperwork to do both. I chose brand new first and middle names and kept only my biological fathers last name rip.
I dont want to have to get into the heavy and serious reasons i changed everything but my bio fathers last name with every1 i know or will meet. I was thinking of just saying i felt my name never suit me and leaving it at that. Does anyone have any quick one liners i can say? [more inside]
posted by livelikegold6 at 4:49 PM PST - 19 comments
posted by livelikegold6 at 4:49 PM PST - 19 comments
What is a name for writing that communicates on two different levels?
Is there a name for a type of writing that can be read one way, but is also indirectly meant to be read with a deeper meaning, for those who know what's going on? [more inside]
posted by SpacemanStix at 3:49 PM PST - 36 comments
posted by SpacemanStix at 3:49 PM PST - 36 comments
Your favourite "This Year in History" source(s)?
I'd like to download for reference, for every year of my 43 years of life, a page that has a reader-friendly summary of major events in Canada and around the world (new Prime Minister voted in, Arab Spring, etc.), as well as what popular media (books, movies) came out and any scientific advances/daily life game-changers (e.g. iPhone, Facebook introduced). [more inside]
Looking for a discontinued dog toy
Hi everyone. I am asking for help finding a discontinued dog toy that I bought from Target about a year or so ago. Here is a link of a picture of it. It was blue monster toy, with a somewhat harder interior with a soft, cloth cover. My dog loves this little guy and takes it to bed with him every night, but unfortunately each day it ages a bit more and I don't know how much longer it will last. Thank you for any help you all can offer!
Looking for a sub-36mm hybrid smartwatch
I have a tiny (6") wrist and any watch with a face bigger than 36mm in diameter looks cartoonish and ridiculous. I was gifted a Fitbit Ionic for Christmas, and I'm really grateful for the generous gift, but I just can't wear it. It's way too big and I'm really lukewarm about wearing a screen on my wrist. It's just not my style. I realized that a hybrid watch is the best option for me... but most sizes are in the 40mm-and-over range. Help me find one that will fit my petite wrist! [more inside]
I'm self-teaching math. Help me pick out a graphing calculator! (+more)
I always hated math growing up. It didn't come to me naturally, took a lot of work, and I didn't have the most supportive teachers. As an adult, I'm giving myself a second chance at learning this stuff! Help me pick out a graphing calculator – and I'd love any tips or advice from anyone who may have done this too. [more inside]
posted by caitcadieux at 1:12 PM PST - 17 comments
posted by caitcadieux at 1:12 PM PST - 17 comments
It's Just So Warm In There.
As someone who struggles mightily with getting out of the (outdoor) hot tub on a cold winter night, please tell me what would happen if.. I didn't. Obviously, this question is hypothetical and I realize that I cannot actually live in the hot tub from now until spring (for many reasons). [more inside]
posted by VioletU at 12:09 PM PST - 9 comments
posted by VioletU at 12:09 PM PST - 9 comments
It's not Alicia Dragoon
Schoolgirl in purple dress fighting wormy dragons and plant things. What is the name of this vaguely remembered Japanese Sega Megadrive game? [more inside]
posted by popcassady at 10:59 AM PST - 4 comments
posted by popcassady at 10:59 AM PST - 4 comments
Meditative walking...in winterpocalypse?
walking is an important part of my routine to keep my anxiety at bay. I walk between 40-50 km a week. It's been too cold and snowy-slushy outside to walk that much. Any ideas? [more inside]
Help my son draw space rockets and dragons
My almost-11yo son is super into learning drawing techniques from books. He’s got a bunch of manga related books but is looking for recommendations for books about drawing fantasy or SF...stuff.
Looking for personal recommendations...both parents are trained as librarians with Internet access and a robust library network at our disposal so assume that we can identify many books in this area! We just don’t have a good way to identify the good ones!
What other home “kits” can I assemble?
What all-in-one home “kits” could I assemble? [more inside]
posted by timetoevolve at 10:41 AM PST - 37 comments
posted by timetoevolve at 10:41 AM PST - 37 comments
Why do people in the UK lock themselves INTO their houses?
I'm hoping to boost the security for my flat. It seems that people in the UK prefer to use a key to lock themselves into houses rather than a standard deadbolt. Why??? [more inside]
posted by caoimhe at 10:16 AM PST - 46 comments
posted by caoimhe at 10:16 AM PST - 46 comments
Help me find a plant for desert shade
My parents live in St. George, Utah (Sunset zone 10, USDA zone 9?) and have tasked me with choosing a plant for their desert landscape. [more inside]
Age Appropriate Fiction for Children of Divorce
My sister is going through her second divorce. This is the second for my nephew (almost 10 years old) and the first for my neice (almost 7 years old). What books can I include in my monthly packages to help my nebblings through this? [more inside]
OTC topical antihistamine without propylene glycol?
Last time I spent time reading labels at the drug store, the only topical antihistamine without propylene glycol was Allegra cream. Now it's discontinued, and I only have a tiny bit left -- and it's cold, and scarves and stuff around my neck seem to be irritating it. Any suggestions? [more inside]
Remote Interviewing Equipment Suggestions
I'm recording lots of folks who are all over and using the recordings for a podcast. Tape sync (where I pay someone else to record the interviewee in person) isn't affordable, so I'm exploring what equipment I could send the interviewee in advance. Could it be as simple as sending them a USB mic (so I'm not relying on audio recorded on my end via google hangout or Skype)? Would any software be needed to capture the audio on their part? [more inside]
Readings on consumerism and moral extremism
My wife and daughter are having a girls' night with my MIL and SIL tonight, so I find myself with time for some light, enjoyable reading. I was just reading the comments on the FPP about clean eating, and I'd like more of that. [more inside]
Help me add vocal effects for D&D over Discord, on a Mac
I'm running a D&D game on Roll20 and would love to use voice effects for dragons and such. Using Discord for voice, a mic headset, and a Mac desktop that has Garageband, but I'm not sure how to make my affected vocal output go through Discord. Looking for a way to do this, or, another option that can be heard by my players over Discord.
posted by Mikey51 at 8:28 AM PST - 2 comments
posted by Mikey51 at 8:28 AM PST - 2 comments
YANMD but should I be worried?
Is this eyelid swelling something I should be concerned about? Pics inside [more inside]
posted by xicana63 at 8:19 AM PST - 9 comments
posted by xicana63 at 8:19 AM PST - 9 comments
What's it like living in Denver/Aurora, & where to stay while visiting?
I have a job interview in Aurora in March. I'm interested in finding out more about what it would be like to live there, and also want to know where I should stay and what I should see/ do during my brief visit there. [more inside]
It was awful - and then?
Please help me find words to better express feelings of isolation and sadness felt during my childhood and teenage years. [more inside]
posted by any_name_in_a_storm at 7:18 AM PST - 14 comments
posted by any_name_in_a_storm at 7:18 AM PST - 14 comments
A holiday feast for tender stomachs
My family's New Year's Eve tradition is to make a very fancy dinner at home. After a Christmas with the stomach flu, we're not feeling up to the rich, heavy menu we had planned. What can we make that is light but still festive? [more inside]
posted by sputzie at 6:33 AM PST - 14 comments
posted by sputzie at 6:33 AM PST - 14 comments
Tell me about portable wifi hotspots
I have an apartment that I'm only in a couple days of every week. While I'm there I do usual internet stuff, streaming Netflix & the like, gaming, downloading games, streaming spotify etc. I hate having to pay for internet that I rarely use. I would like to have a portable wifi hotspot. Can anyone tell me the current pros & cons? Recommend any particular services? I'm in the US.
Help me de-deathtrap this wrought-iron fence/barrier.
We recently purchased a new house which has an amazing verandah/porch featuring a wrought-iron barrier which could decapitate a small person just by looking at it. I'd obviously like to avoid this. What can I affix or adjust to have the desired effect here? [more inside]
posted by LongDrive at 1:01 AM PST - 16 comments
posted by LongDrive at 1:01 AM PST - 16 comments
How on earth do you get through the toddler years?
We are expats in a country we don't love and have no family support to speak of. We have 2 very small children- a 1.5 year old and a 2.5 year old- and I am very curious to hear ways other mefites have managed to deal with any similar situation. I pretty much feel like I suck at toddlers. So basically: does this get better? When? What did you do? Other details below. [more inside]
December 29
American needs advice about where to buy a present for a British friend
I am American and I would like to buy a present for an English friend. It is a Presto Heat Dish, a kind of space heater. There is a listing for this product on Amazon UK, but it is out of stock.
What British online retail outlet do you recommend that I buy this product from? I see that it is available on eBay, and I'm willing to buy there if there is no other choice, but I would prefer a more conventional retailer.
Find this post-apocalyptic love story?
Can you help me find an FPP about a webcomic with post-apocalyptic vibes? It was a one-shot, vertical-scrolling piece about a couple who are trapped in a house after a mysterious event makes it impossible to go outside. [more inside]
posted by a sourceless light at 8:59 PM PST - 4 comments
posted by a sourceless light at 8:59 PM PST - 4 comments
How do I bed?
So, I'm thinking of buying a bed. I'd use it for sleep and lounging around on any time I'm at home. Budget is probably under 500$.
I have... No idea what I'm doing! [more inside]
What is there to do in Peoria, IL (and why is it so hard to spell)?
Why do I always think Peoria is spelled with an extra I somewhere in the middle? And what can we do there on a Friday afternoon in early March (my husband, I, and our 3 year old son)? Also need reccs for dinner that night and breakfast the next day. Cities of comparable size in MO and IL and IN have been a big disappointment. Help us find the best of Peoria.
posted by rglass at 7:45 PM PST - 5 comments
posted by rglass at 7:45 PM PST - 5 comments
What brand is this fleecy vest?
Hearty meal-y vegetable heavy soups/stews: difficulty: I am picky
Now that winter has arrived, I'm craving warm hearty things to eat. I want to make more tasty soup and stew-y things for a complete lunch. The difficulty is that I want a large proportion to veggies to other stuff but I don't like some of the common vegetables in soup, mainly celery and carrots. [more inside]
How to do Hawai'i cheap (and what about visiting the Volcano there?)
How's the volcano-watching on the Big Island these days? Thinking about a week in Hawaii for Spring Break and would love to hear any of your tips and tricks. Will it be worth it (or too expensive) to fly into HNL and then out of KOA on the Big Island; or should we just give up on any Kilauea sight-seeing and spend all of our time on Oahu? [more inside]
Full size duvet cover: actual size???
What is the normal size of a "full" size duvet cover? I've measured and checked online and either I can't measure, my duvets are weird, or sheets have imaginary nominal sizing I was never aware of. [more inside]
posted by annie o at 6:06 PM PST - 4 comments
posted by annie o at 6:06 PM PST - 4 comments
What recipes should I use on these cuts of venison?
What does Metafilter suggest we do with this deer meat? [more inside]
How to find comfortable ankle boots?
I'm having trouble finding comfortable women's ankle boots. Any suggestions? Any shopping tips? Am I doomed to discomfort if i continue hoping for one with a small heel? [more inside]
Help with Gmail forwarding/account authentication issues
I currently have a secondary Gmail account auto-forward to my main Gmail account. On December 25th I added 2-factor authentication to that secondary account. Suddenly today in my primary account, I'm getting a notification in the "Accounts and Import" tab, next to "Check mail from other accounts" that my secondary Gmail address (POP3) has an "Authentication error. Mail from this account has not been retrieved since Dec 25." [more inside]
Ricotta? I hardly knew ya!
I've just discovered ricotta cheese and it's rocking my world! Please share with me your favorite ricotta recipes--sweet, savory, fresh, baked, etc. I can't get enough of that creamy stuff. Ideally without meat as I'm a vegetarian, but do cook fish and happy to sub veggies/tofu for meat if needed. Thank you!
posted by stillmoving at 4:38 PM PST - 27 comments
posted by stillmoving at 4:38 PM PST - 27 comments
my alternative technologies advisory commission wants to know
I'm looking for "all known instances" of home-built 5-gallon bucket compost systems with separate composting chambers. Point me to links online, cite a book, tell me about yours, send me a memail. The more details the merrier. I will be sharing this information with my local government. [more inside]
What's a nice first-time DIY guitar pedal I can build for myself?
I've recently started guitar lessons and it occurred to me that I have all kinds of components and tools around from when I used to tinker with Arduinos and Rasberry Pi stuff. I've probably got most of what I need to build a pedal of some kind. So what's a useful pedal to start with, and can anyone point me to a source of reliable schematics?
posted by pipeski at 3:25 PM PST - 7 comments
posted by pipeski at 3:25 PM PST - 7 comments
How To: Date in your 30s when you want children?
I am a woman. Unfortunately, against my wishes and plans, it looks like I'm about to be back on the dating scene at age 33 (after a long relationship that I anticipated would end in marriage and children). I was last single in my mid-to-late-20s. Leaving aside the logistics of finding a date (perhaps for a future AskMe), my question is about when and how to bring up with my future date(s) the fact that I want children - ideally in the next couple/few years. [more inside]
Help me TV again
With everything going on in the world, lately I just haven’t had the spoons available to get emotionally invested in a new TV show. I get all wrapped up in the plots and worried about the characters, and usually that’s what makes the TV show engaging, but I’m completely worried-out with everything going on in reality. But I miss TV! Please help me find shows to watch that don’t stress me out. Examples inside. [more inside]
Looking for an iOS podcast app that plays episodes sequentially
I want an iOS podcasting app that allows me to choose an old episode of a subscribed podcast and play that and automatically play the remaining episodes in sequential order - without me having to create a playlist. I just want to be able to tap an episode and have the app play the following episodes for hours without any intervention. The old iOS podcast app did this, but as of iOS 11, it doesn't. I tried a few other podcasting apps, but haven't found one that does it as simply as the old iOS app, or I haven't figured out how to use or configure the apps to do it. [more inside]
Muchas grassy ass!
Wheat grass growing and juicing at home suggestions please! [more inside]
Kanban / Trello - Do I need a board for Boss and a board for Me?
I'd like to start using Trello to create a Kanboard board my boss can view to see what I'm working on. However, I want to be able to restrict what he sees. How do I do this? [more inside]
What is the best way to get rid of unwanted upper lip hair?
I'm trying to decide what the best way is to get rid of upper lip hair. I always heard that shaving or waxing just makes the hair grow back thicker. I'm not sure if that is true. I have saved up money to do the expensive laser removal, but I wonder if it really is worth it? Does it really get all the hairs eventually, over time? If any of you have experience with this, please help! Thanks in advance!
Looking for a guest room sofa bed
I've had it with the IKEA sofa bed in our guest room because the hinged frame makes it awkward to move, and the high back blocks the window. I'm looking for a small, reasonably comfortable sofa bed to take its place. [more inside]
Weird Jill Barad Chair
Netflix's series "The Toys That Made Us" dedicates an episode to the history of Barbie. This epsiode has multiple shots from an interview with former Mattel CEO Jill Barad. In the background of that interview is a (NSFW, sculptural, weird nudity) very singular chair/objet.
Does anyone have any knowledge, background, or color on what that Melted Chair Lady object is?
posted by sandettie light vessel automatic at 11:02 AM PST - 4 comments
posted by sandettie light vessel automatic at 11:02 AM PST - 4 comments
Time to sue, but who?
So, for the first time in my multi-decade career as a writer, I have a client who isn't paying. But who should I be sueing? [more inside]
Tell me about the Tales from the Crypt comic's lettering
How the lettering of the old Tales from the Crypt comic was made? [more inside]
posted by TheGoodBlood at 9:20 AM PST - 5 comments
posted by TheGoodBlood at 9:20 AM PST - 5 comments
Best dining chair cushions?
Please recommend your favorite dining chair pads/cushions. Tiebacks are strongly preferred.
Something that is comfy and won't flatten after a month. Price is not an issue, but I'm not exactly looking to drop 1K on chair pads.
Motion sensor light won't come on
I have this Motion sensor light. It comes on when initially turning on the switch as usual, but won't come back on with motion. Help me get it fixed.
In Search of Freezer Container Unicorn
As part of an ongoing effort to better manage food in my life, I'm going to start doing more freezing of leftovers - when I make a soup or a stew (which I do a lot), I'd like to start freezing it in single-serve containers, so I can grab something in the morning for a work lunch. But what should I freeze them in? (Picky commentary inside.) [more inside]
posted by EmpressCallipygos at 6:40 AM PST - 29 comments
posted by EmpressCallipygos at 6:40 AM PST - 29 comments
Beautiful and/or Yummy Plants for the Garden
I spent summer and fall preparing a 20x40 space for a garden on the in-laws farm. I plan to divide the space up into 9 beds. But what should I plant in them? [more inside]
posted by songs_about_rainbows at 6:13 AM PST - 14 comments
posted by songs_about_rainbows at 6:13 AM PST - 14 comments
December 28
Larger than expected pulmonary artery during ultrasound
We're expecting a second child, and just went for the regular second-trimester detailed ultrasound. The ultrasound picked up an anomaly in the baby: the pulmonary artery is larger than it should be, in comparison to other major artery (the aorta I think?). What should we make of this? [more inside]
Pentax K-7 knob has a mind of its own
My Pentax K-7 DSLR is broken and I can’t find someone to repair it. I would prefer repairing it over purchasing a new model. It is about 7 years old I think. I have sent it to Precision Camera but they said it is too old to repair. Is there a company that repairs these?
If I get an otherwise broken K7 for parts is it possible for me to repair it? Are there guides online to take it apart? [more inside]
Can You Have a Virus Without Sore Throat/Cough/Fever?
I’ve been sick the last few days, but with one catch: no sore throat, runny nose, or fever. The only symptom is that I feel completely exhausted, and can sleep for 10 - 12 hours a day. [more inside]
posted by AfterAlbuquerque at 8:30 PM PST - 20 comments
posted by AfterAlbuquerque at 8:30 PM PST - 20 comments
Sustainability for our corporate overlords
I currently work in a respectably-sized megacorp. All employees, including me, have recently received an email seeking "suggestions for our next sustainability initiative". [more inside]
Can encryption be reverse engineered from before-and-after files?
I have a large selection of encrypted files along with their original unencrypted versions.
Given enough of these pairs, is it possible to derive the process used to transform one into the other? And (preferably) reverse it to decrypt other files encoded the same way? [more inside]
Secure doormat
No, this isn't a personal question. Problem is, floor mat at front entrance will not stay put. Largely due to energetic dawg. [more inside]
ISO DIY CBT workbooks for OCD
I need recommendations for DIY workbooks (preferably things I can literally write in, but not mandatory) to learn about CBT tactics, particularly for OCD. Additionally, am interested in any recommendations for books (and especially audiobooks) that cover these topics, and referrals in NYC for CBT professionals. [more inside]
What should I be looking at for building a steel frame building?
I am in the planning stages for building my own home and I'd like to do so out of steel instead of the traditional wood. I know there are kit buildings but for the cost of a kit and the results I would prefer to put it together myself and get exactly what I want for about the same cost. I know how to weld but what are some things I need to know/research before doing this that I may not already know? [more inside]
seeking first tattoo advice
I am going to get my first tattoo and want to do it right. Seeking your general suggestions and specific artists (NYC). [more inside]
Is there anything useful to do with an old iMac?
In my mum's attic I apparently have an old iMac. It's strawberry pink, so my best guess is that it's a 266mhz G3 from 1999.
Obviously this is a really old computer, but is there anything useful I can do with it? It seems a shame to just throw it away.
posted by A Robot Ninja at 5:51 PM PST - 14 comments
posted by A Robot Ninja at 5:51 PM PST - 14 comments
Why do my bathroom sinks clog so often?
The sinks in my upstairs bathrooms (two bathrooms, three sinks) clog all the freaking time. Is there something I should be doing differently? [more inside]
posted by The corpse in the library at 5:20 PM PST - 24 comments
posted by The corpse in the library at 5:20 PM PST - 24 comments
TV no cable
Helping parents move. They watch TV like, once a week (dad watches the game, very rarely something else). Is it still possible to just get local TV service without cable? [more inside]
posted by latkes at 3:07 PM PST - 7 comments
posted by latkes at 3:07 PM PST - 7 comments
Stop Smoking App for Android
Looking for a cigarette smoking tracker app for Android that has one specific feature: track partially smoked cigarettes. [more inside]
Seeking comfiest oversized shawl neck cable knit cardigan
About 20 years ago my dad received a super cozy 100% acrylic cream colored shawl neck cardigan. It would have been from Walmart most likely, or possibly Penney's or Sears. He passed it down to me a few years ago and I love it but it has reached the end of its life cycle, so I'm looking for a replacement. Do you have any suggestions? [more inside]
Samana Bay whale watching
We would like to travel to the Dominican Republic in the last two weeks of February, specifically to see the whale activity in Samana Bay. We have a LOT of questions! [more inside]
Intermittent Fasting, experiences and software used
For those who have done or doing intermittent fasting, which way did you try? What worked and did not work? Any apps, software or any organizational tools used? [more inside]
Hesitant to insert myself into messy family issue
Am I obligated to involve myself in this awful family drama? Is there anything I can do to help without being pulled into it? [more inside]
How to format a PO box address in Canada? Do I need to include all info?
I just got a PO box in Canada. I got it because I need to include the address in emails I sent, to comply with spam laws and/or mailchimp policies. What info do I need to include? [more inside]
posted by ManInSuit at 1:29 PM PST - 5 comments
posted by ManInSuit at 1:29 PM PST - 5 comments
Yeah, they just texted that we should pull the plug
The relatives who would take care of my medical decisions and funeral arrangements live far away. People who live close to me who could help are not relatives. Now what? How do I plan for an emergency? Are there any agencies/services who could serve as a link? Who would I talk to about figuring this out? [more inside]
Is there a property of toilets that make them stickier than others?
This is a question about toilets and home renovations that includes a little bit about poop - TMI alert. [more inside]
Best shampoo for removing hair product?
I have thick, coarse hair and use pomade or cream to style it. What's a good shampoo I can use to clean out hair product buildup? It seems I have to shampoo two or three times for my hair to feel clean again. I generally shampoo every two or three days, but regardless of frequency, it's hard to wash hair product out.
Why won't one of my heating zones heat?
We have four heating zones in our (new to us) house, using gas-powered baseboard heating. We've only just turned on the fourth zone today since temperatures have nosedived, and the baseboards won't turn on. Help me troubleshoot? [more inside]
posted by olinerd at 12:13 PM PST - 10 comments
posted by olinerd at 12:13 PM PST - 10 comments
Special materials to repair crock pot lid?
I need to repair one of the lid handles on my MiL's crock pot. Because it is close to high temperatures and above food, do I need to use special materials? [more inside]
posted by wenestvedt at 11:59 AM PST - 9 comments
posted by wenestvedt at 11:59 AM PST - 9 comments
MPP/MPA program concentrations, plus a question on program 'prestige'
A question for those who have this degree or those who hire them (or are in any position to shed some light): how important is your chosen concentration (i.e., Environmental Policy, Global Policy, Economic Development, etc.) when it comes to job hunting? The programs I'm looking at have a variety of concentrations available, and I'm curious how important they really are when it comes to the skills you develop and who will hire you when you graduate. [more inside]
posted by imalaowai at 11:50 AM PST - 8 comments
posted by imalaowai at 11:50 AM PST - 8 comments
What can I do to stop my life from spiralling further out of control?
Lately I feel like my life (and myself) are spiralling out of control and I can't keep up. Things are moving way too fast and I don't know how to slow down and prevent them from getting worse.
What can I do to slow things down? To get back up? How do I just relax and prevent things from escalating further? Relaxing feels more impossible the older I get. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:37 AM PST - 7 comments
posted by anonymous at 11:37 AM PST - 7 comments
Whites, even whiter
How do I keep my white clothes bright white, instead of dingy, off-white? Give me all the laundry tips.
How do I combine my nutrition and exercise tracking using an Apple Watch
How do I combine my nutrition and exercise tracking using an Apple Watch? [more inside]
Let there be electrolyte
I have found Nuun effervescing tablets to be effective for two very separate things: Hydrating while bike riding, and ridding myself of occasional headaches. But there's something about the drink that's making the inside of my mouth (near the front sides of my teeth) feel raw for several days after drinking. I would like to try to make my own electrolyte drink that includes all the useful ingredients of Nuun, without the other stuff. Can I do this? [more inside]
posted by oxisos at 11:01 AM PST - 13 comments
posted by oxisos at 11:01 AM PST - 13 comments
When does exercise stop making me want to crawl into the grave?
If you're one of those people who can't wait to go to the gym because it makes you feel so damn great, go live your happy life and don't read this question. [more inside]
Best network and plan for a tween's Nokia 3310 3G?
Our tween kid received an unlocked Nokia 3310 3G for Christmas, which she loves the design of and we are pretty happy about feature-wise as . However our family is on Verizon, which does not seem to support it, and a brief foray into alternative networks has only turned up very expensive plans so far. Looking for advice on the bets network and plan to get this thing on, ideally low cost and just voice and text. We are based in the US.
Too cold to fly
Is there an official temperature below which they would automatically shut down an airport? [more inside]
posted by Grither at 10:29 AM PST - 14 comments
posted by Grither at 10:29 AM PST - 14 comments
Necromodem?
I want to buy a replacement modem for my Mac LC II. Before ordering the same external Global Village 56k that I had before, is there some other option I'm not considering? Also, back in the day I had some alternate modem scripts that made it work faster. Any idea on where to find these? Thank you for any ideas!
posted by 8603 at 10:17 AM PST - 7 comments
posted by 8603 at 10:17 AM PST - 7 comments
Give me your best freezer meals, please!
I'm part of a Meal Train for a school family that's had a big disaster. We've specifically been instructed to make large (like 9x13) casseroles that are to be delivered already frozen. There are no food restrictions for the family. Please point me to specific recipes I can make. [more inside]
give me your best casserole recipes!
It's freezing cold in NYC and I yearn to make some kind of rich, hearty casserole. Do you have some recipes you like? [more inside]
posted by cakelite at 9:11 AM PST - 19 comments
posted by cakelite at 9:11 AM PST - 19 comments
Vegan or vegetarian equivalent of bo ssam?
For years, Momofoku's bo ssam has been my go to for omnivore dinner parties, because it's super easy, fairly cheap, and given the effort and cost of ingredients, shockingly, absurdly, it-should-not-be-this delicious. Are there any special occasion vegetarian or vegan main dish recipes with a similar payoff?
Roadtripfilter: Midwest/Southern edition
My partner and I are driving Forth Worth, TX, to Milwaukee, WI. What should we stop at along the way? Extra points for weird, offbeat, and tacky. [more inside]
Calling all calendaring wizards!
I have been tasked with designing and implementing a calendaring solution for my team's needs. We are 4 engineers, 1 QA person, and 1 project manager. We need a calendar that allows us to schedule 6 weeks (1 development cycle) of discrete engineering tasks in a manner that allows an at-a-glance view of the entire cycle.
Ultimately, we want to use the calendar as a visual organizational tool that allows us to see whether our scheduled tasks will overload our QA person at any point in the cycle and adjust accordingly. More details below. [more inside]
posted by sevensnowflakes at 8:02 AM PST - 15 comments
posted by sevensnowflakes at 8:02 AM PST - 15 comments
Best Book on Sketching for an absolute beginner
I want to learn to sketch. Not interested in color per sé. I just want to learn to draw on a basic level with a pen or pencil. Nothing fancy. Any book suggestions with an easy learning curve?
I need computer help boiled down to stupid levels
I have an HP stream chromebook running windows 8.1 and it's having issues. I cannot afford to hand it to a computer fixer, so I need some sort of for dummies instruction help to fix it. [more inside]
Anyone had (good/bad) experiences with Conspiracy theorist?
Dealings with a "conspiracy theorist," is this a red flag? [more inside]
posted by MamaBee223 at 6:29 AM PST - 43 comments
posted by MamaBee223 at 6:29 AM PST - 43 comments
Need help with a financial plan of attack
In the spirit of the New Year, I would like to face my financial circumstances, which are quite dire at the moment. Help? [more inside]
A DNA test, a surprise relationship, and an ethical quandry
I took a DNA test, and found an unexpectedly close relationship with a total stranger; now I'm wondering what I should do about it. [more inside]
financial advice for non-profit with $250k in the bank?
I volunteer for a non-profit which apparently just realized that it's got $250k in the bank and no real idea what to do with it. I'm wondering if the hive mind can recommend them any resources for figuring this out. Is there an Idiot's Guide for this? Financial advisers? This is in NYC. [more inside]
What light through yonder window breaks?
My neighbor is unintentionally shining a light into my room and I need to find the best course of action to take here... [more inside]
December 27
What to ask the doctors?
My ex-husband had a stroke a couple of days ago. My son is his next of kin. We are both somewhat at a loss to work out what questions we should be asking, especially as it is early days. [more inside]
The good red road (figuring out my cycle on Mirena)
Hi, I'm trying to understand how to figure out my cycle/hormonal fluctuations while using Mirena. [more inside]
posted by fairlynearlyready at 10:30 PM PST - 8 comments
posted by fairlynearlyready at 10:30 PM PST - 8 comments
Mac app to slice images and re-assemble them randomly?
I am wondering if there is a Mac app (or automation) that could take a folder of images, cut the images into equally-wide strips, and then reassemble the strips next to each other randomly to make new collage-like images. [more inside]
Wikify us
My partner and I could really use a personal wiki that syncronizes an online copy with offline versions on multiple devices. What are our best options? [more inside]
Asian characters on iPad lock screen
My four-year-old was playing with my iPad and now there are some Asian characters (I am not sure of the language) appearing on the lock screen below the date. My searching has found a few references to this being the result of the calendar being set to Japanese or Buddhist in the Language & Region settings, but mine is set to Gregorian. (I've tried switching it around but it has had no effect.) Help!
posted by synecdoche at 8:44 PM PST - 3 comments
posted by synecdoche at 8:44 PM PST - 3 comments
Help me make my legs untasty to mosquitoes!
Help me make my legs untasty to mozzies without marinating them in DEET? [more inside]
posted by whitelotus at 7:47 PM PST - 29 comments
posted by whitelotus at 7:47 PM PST - 29 comments
Can't Amazon on my Fire
Yay, Santa brought me a new Fire 7" 7th gen tablet to replace my aging first gen Kindle! And in a matter of hours, I've managed to mess it up by overwriting the Amazon shopping app. Help??? [more inside]
posted by peakcomm at 4:53 PM PST - 6 comments
posted by peakcomm at 4:53 PM PST - 6 comments
Help me find a half read and quarter remembered book
I am trying to find a book I would very much like to finish, unfortunately I can’t remember the title, author, or any detail that doesn’t pull up too much chaff when I search for it. Hazy details below the fold. [more inside]
posted by lepus at 4:25 PM PST - 7 comments
posted by lepus at 4:25 PM PST - 7 comments
Does movie hitman stuff happen in real life?
I just read a novel where people bilk a large corporation out of $70mn and the corporation sends really bad guys after them. Does this happen in real life, in the US?
posted by ftm at 4:12 PM PST - 21 comments
posted by ftm at 4:12 PM PST - 21 comments
Catching up on Doctor Who before the new doctor?
I'd like to start watching Doctor Who again with the new doctor. Which, if any, of the past episodes am I likely to need to see for it to make sense? [more inside]
posted by une_heure_pleine at 3:58 PM PST - 14 comments
posted by une_heure_pleine at 3:58 PM PST - 14 comments
Great American Road Trip, Weird Stuff edition
We're in the preliminary stages of figuring out if a road trip from Salem, MA to Roswell and Area 51 is bananas or potentially fun. The biggest hurdle is trying to figure out what, if anything, is worth stopping to see in the vast expanse of country that's between here and there. Are there any fun paranormal / supernatural stops you can recommend? Kitschy/cheesey is totally fine, we do live in Salem, after all. [more inside]
posted by banjo_and_the_pork at 3:29 PM PST - 25 comments
posted by banjo_and_the_pork at 3:29 PM PST - 25 comments
A way to compare price lists in Excel?
We get price updates from a couple of vendors who are not fully integrated with our POS sytem. I get the files as an XLS or a CSV that are basically setup so Column A is SKU#, Column B is Price. I need a way to compare a new list to an old list and see which prices have changed. [more inside]
posted by xedrik at 2:57 PM PST - 7 comments
posted by xedrik at 2:57 PM PST - 7 comments
Where to stay in Phoenix/Tucson?
I'm looking for recommendations for where to stay in Phoenix/Tucson this month. [more inside]
Accentuate the positive?
I have 12 old roll film (I think) negatives, each approx 3 1/2 ins x 2 1/4 ins. Can I scan them using my Canon 3-in-1 printer and then convert them to positives? Irfanview does not seem to do this.
Need help please.
posted by lungtaworld at 2:29 PM PST - 5 comments
posted by lungtaworld at 2:29 PM PST - 5 comments
Giftfilter: small lovely portable *thing* for departing climbing partner
My climbing partner of the last 5 years is finally jumping ship and leaving the UK for Australia. I'm gonna miss him, and I want to get him something tremendous. Suggestions needed, hivemind! Thoughts within: [more inside]
Cutting ties with Wells Fargo
My mortgage was sold to Wells Fargo. I'd like to vote with my wallet by cutting these new ties with Wells Fargo. I'd prefer not to reset the 30 year term since I've done that a couple of times already refinancing. We've owned the house for 15 years and our current mortgage has 25 years until maturity. Maybe I'm wrong about wanting to avoid that. I'm 51, if it matters.
What's my best next step?
posted by humboldt32 at 1:33 PM PST - 12 comments
posted by humboldt32 at 1:33 PM PST - 12 comments
Why not fuel rockets externally during liftoff?
Given the tyranny of the rocket equation, why not save mass by pumping fuel and oxidizer into the engines from an external source during liftoff? [more inside]
posted by jedicus at 1:21 PM PST - 9 comments
posted by jedicus at 1:21 PM PST - 9 comments
split the Super Mario World 2: Yoshi's Island cartridge in half
What is the highest dollar-value video game collection the exact value of which was either ascertained or independently confirmed by a court of law in a divorce proceeding?
Board games for practicing math skills
Can you recommend some board games for teaching/practicing elementary-aged math skills or mathematical thinking to our 7yo? Bonus points if they're also interesting for adults, double bonus points if they're not also explicitly about teaching math skills. [more inside]
Why Can't I Get Channel 12 in Richmond VA?
Last week my TV stopped receiving the local NBC affiliate via antenna. I live 10 miles from the NBC transmitter, at 199 degrees, and 12 miles from the other major networks at 225 degrees. That close I shouldn't need anything more than a basic antenna, and I actually have a indoor amplified antenna. [more inside]
Seeking book suggestions for Read Harder 2018 challenge.
Bookriot has an annual "Read Harder" challenge, suggesting 24 categories of books to read. I need good recommendations for 10 of them. [more inside]
posted by kensington314 at 12:59 PM PST - 29 comments
posted by kensington314 at 12:59 PM PST - 29 comments
Hope me Google Home?
So my partner got a Google Home Mini in the family holiday gift swap. I am... not a fan of home assistants, to put it mildly, but my partner is as thrilled as a giddy child, so I'm reluctantly letting this thing into our lives. Two questions I have:
a) What do we do with it?
b) Can you convince me not to force it to live in a Faraday cage when it's not in active use? [more inside]
How many civil servants live in each Canadian federal electoral riding?
I've been trying to find the number of federal civil servants who live in each federal riding in Canada. I've scoured through StatsCan and Google and just can't find anything. But it seems to me that there MUST be numbers out there on this. Help?
Looking for a different Nutcracker
The past three years I have taken my older son to the National Ballet's Nutcracker in Toronto. He loves the sparkle and dancing. However, I do not like the Kudelka version that the National Ballet seems determined to perform every. single. year. I hope that someone here could recommend another reasonably nearby performance. [more inside]
posted by biggreenplant at 11:10 AM PST - 6 comments
posted by biggreenplant at 11:10 AM PST - 6 comments
Help me find a 3 panel Scooby Doo joke I saw on Twitter
Can anyone find this for me - I've not been able to google it. It was on Twitter - a simply drawn, 3 panel cartoon of a Scooby Doo reveal - the joke is they pull the guy's face off and then say "a skellington!" as the punchline.
posted by crocomancer at 11:09 AM PST - 2 comments
posted by crocomancer at 11:09 AM PST - 2 comments
Good dog cartoon
Anybody see a cartoon online of a dog with a caption along the lines of "Don't have to be best dog, just have to be good dog"? I could swear I texted this to somebody but can't find it anywhere on my phone nor via Google image search.
posted by ootsocsid at 10:56 AM PST - 2 comments
posted by ootsocsid at 10:56 AM PST - 2 comments
Modern sewing pattern designers
I'm looking for sewing patterns. But not the Simplicity or McCall's patterns my mom used...modern ones. [more inside]
Dealing with the guilt of not being there
My father ended up in hospital on Christmas eve after suffering from seizures and becoming confused and disoriented. He's still there but seems to be recovering, we have been told he hasn't had a stroke and he's being tested for meningitis. I live overseas and have decided not to rush back home to be with him right now but I need help knowing whether this is the right decision and dealing with the guilt. [more inside]
Please advise on auto shop guarantee problem
A well-regarded auto shop installed a new head gasket on our Subaru. Less than a month later, it failed, causing radiator fluid to seep in and wreck the engine. The shop offered us free labor but said we should pay for the parts. How do we address this? [more inside]
posted by ragtimepiano at 10:09 AM PST - 7 comments
posted by ragtimepiano at 10:09 AM PST - 7 comments
DIY Meditation Retreat
I'm planning on hosting a part-day meditation retreat for friends at my house. Goal is nothing fancy, just to offer some solid hours of mindfulness. Have you ever done this or attended one led by a non-expert? Would appreciate your advice on devising a schedule and finding good resources. [more inside]
posted by estlin at 10:00 AM PST - 3 comments
posted by estlin at 10:00 AM PST - 3 comments
How do I report a half working elevator in Los Angeles, California?
The elevator in my apartment building has been having problems all year and even now that it's "working" it's still acting up. The landlord is avoiding upgrading the unit despite being unable to fix it to full capacity. The license to operate the elevator in my apartment building is past the expiration date. Many people have complained but it's not doing anything. Do you know how to get the housing authorities involved? My googling has left me more confused than empowered to deal with this.
Help Designing a Web Index/Nexus
I'd like to build a site indexing my carefully curated art links, to connect people with good info out there. Please suggest pre-existing index-of-links sites in other realms that might serve as (coarse) design inspiration. [more inside]
Best journal software.... in the CLOUD?!?!!
I am looking for a journaling program/website where I can do free-writing on a more regular basis. Do you have any suggestions? Wants/needs inside. [more inside]
posted by miltthetank at 9:16 AM PST - 9 comments
posted by miltthetank at 9:16 AM PST - 9 comments
Parts List for Video Editing PC Build
I'm looking for some recent parts lists with links to buying and building a PC primarily for video editing. [more inside]
Home monitoring solution on the cheap
Do you use any sort of home security app where you pair your phone with a tablet or old phone at home? I'm hoping for recommendations for apps. I'm also concerned about the safety of leaving the tablet or phone at home plugged in all day, so am wondering if there are any Android tablets out there that would be able to run such an app on battery power for 8-9 hours a day. [more inside]
Questions about hiking in Patagonia
For various reasons, we are getting the chance to spend some time in Patagonia in early to mid January, and intend to spend some of it hiking. We are finalizing our plans -- but we have questions, specifically about the Perito Moreno Glacier and Torres del Paine. [more inside]
Best way to travel with a couple of cocktails in carryon?
I'm a student and I travel a lot. I would love to be able to have 2-3 cocktails/drinks on hand when I arrive at my destination, since bars are pricey for me right now. What's the best way to travel with a mini-bar in my carryon liquid allotment (not to drink on the plane)? [more inside]
posted by beccasaurus at 7:52 AM PST - 16 comments
posted by beccasaurus at 7:52 AM PST - 16 comments
Things that ground us, things that lift us
What are the external props, prompts, and practices that remind you to be mindful and return to center when life’s little details overshadow your intention? [more inside]
posted by A Terrible Llama at 6:40 AM PST - 19 comments
posted by A Terrible Llama at 6:40 AM PST - 19 comments
Converting iTunes Library to mp3?
Is there a way to convert songs in an iTunes library (not purchased from iTunes) to an mp3 format to play on another non-Apple mp3 player? [more inside]
Just worked out my gas oven can do a clever thing...
I've just discovered my gas oven can come on and stay on for a set duration then turn itself off! I am over the moon as I've been getting up early to (for example) turn the baked porridge on so it's ready when the whole family gets up. Are there other dishes that lend themselves well to this?
The thing with the baked porridge is it's so bloody convenient and cosy to have such a nice, warming dish ready for you when rising to a cold house. Doesn't have to be breakfast could also be evening meal etc.
Can I ask my MIL if she has her sh** together?
The last time my MIL was here for a visit, we were all going to confront her about her continued “relationship” with Nigerian scammers. It didn’t really happen until the end of her visit. She seemed to hear that these folks were scammers, not her friends, and that she would never get her money back. [more inside]
posted by amanda at 6:09 AM PST - 20 comments
posted by amanda at 6:09 AM PST - 20 comments
please tell me about tagging your mp3s with multiple genres
I have ~50GB music collection, and have recently invested in software that will let me meticulously edit all the metadata. I'd love to extend the existing genre tags to include multiple genres; my hope is that this will help me make better playlists, and that it will make the software's smart playlists smarter too. Since this will be a big project, I want to know more about potential pitfalls and helpful hints... [more inside]
posted by heatvision at 4:40 AM PST - 11 comments
posted by heatvision at 4:40 AM PST - 11 comments
Seeking a pre-internet company called "Training Media Services"
The inventor of the Newton household robot from the 80s is my uncle, and as the CEO of his now-folded company, he gave me permission to publish the super cornball promo video, but I am trying to do my due diligence to see whether the production company of the video might still have some rights to it, if it even still exists. [more inside]
Dutch Oven Gift - Should I keep it or exchange for a larger size?
I was gifted a 4 quart Dutch Oven for Christmas. Is this size adequate or would upgrading to a 5.5 quart be a better choice for longevity and cooking diversity? [more inside]
posted by Thirty7Degrees at 2:42 AM PST - 31 comments
posted by Thirty7Degrees at 2:42 AM PST - 31 comments
Frustrating head pain
Looking for perspectives on my headaches/dizziness/head pressure and stomach irritation (and possible connection), as the doctor has so far not been much help [more inside]
December 26
Help us “do what we want” when we don’t know what we want!
After months of trying to wedding plan (and taking a break), I realize that my fiancé and I cannot do much without first deciding: what kind of wedding are we having? Please help, voices of reason! [more inside]
posted by metacognition at 10:34 PM PST - 39 comments
posted by metacognition at 10:34 PM PST - 39 comments
How effective is a quickly-repaid car loan at fixing bad credit?
We're about to buy a new car, and are considering getting an auto loan purely for the purposes of boosting my wife's credit (which is currently around 670). [more inside]
posted by splitpeasoup at 10:01 PM PST - 7 comments
posted by splitpeasoup at 10:01 PM PST - 7 comments
Who are characters who were punished?
I'd like to read old (pre-Industrial Revolution) stories that represent views of punishment. Can you tell me what books I should be reading, or what characters? [more inside]
Pahk the Cah well outside of Hahvahd Yahd
Boston parking filter: I'll be visiting Boston for 7 days (and one overnight tomorrow, with a two day break after) around New Year's. I'm staying in town and looking for a place I can park my car for most/all of the time for a low cost (i.e. obviously not at my hotels). Where would you recommend I leave the car? [more inside]
posted by AthenaPolias at 3:52 PM PST - 6 comments
posted by AthenaPolias at 3:52 PM PST - 6 comments
Oof. How do you legally and safely get rid of a katana?
Asking for a friend! In Brooklyn.
No but seriously, how. The usual Brooklyn Stoop System seems both irresponsible and possibly illegal, because it is, uh, a sharpened actual weapon. So.
Seriously, it’s a friend.
What's this piano piece, please?
What was this research paper about academia?
Fairly recently I saw somewhere that there had been research to indicate that the initial competence of a student starting out was a much better indicator of later success than the prestige of the graduate school attended. I am finding this to be very difficult to google. Can you point me to it or similar research?
posted by cmoj at 2:23 PM PST - 2 comments
posted by cmoj at 2:23 PM PST - 2 comments
Need help with roof and deck repair
Seeking a builder on Washington's Olympic Peninsula. [more inside]
Changing major from CS to stats: career advice?
Changing major from CS to stats: career advice? [more inside]
MacBook Pro replacement battery -- worth it?
I have a MacBook Pro (Retina, 13-inch, Late 2013). A little slower it seems than at purchase, but otherwise fine. I'm considering taking it to the Genius Bar to have them replace the battery -- I believe it will cost $200. Has anyone done this? Is it worthwhile? Note: I'm planning to purchase a new MacBook Pro mid-year (if they come out with something worthwhile).
Editing events created by others in Google Calendar
After Google Calendar's latest rash of changes, I can no longer edit the titles of events that are added to my calendar by other people. I'm losing my damn mind. Are there any good workarounds? [more inside]
Batting/stuffing/wadding for tufted floor cushions
I'm going to make some floor cushions like this out of heavy cotton drill fabric. Help me stuff 'em . [more inside]
Help me with ideas to renovate my bathroom?
My bathroom is looking kind of old. I'm looking for ways to freshen it up as inexpensively as possible. Here are some photos. [more inside]
Fermi paradox & Drake equation 101
Looking for accessible readings or videos about the Fermi paradox and/or the Drake equation, geared toward an adult layperson, especially someone unfamiliar with either concept. Thank you!
posted by Conrad Cornelius o'Donald o'Dell at 10:10 AM PST - 5 comments
posted by Conrad Cornelius o'Donald o'Dell at 10:10 AM PST - 5 comments
if you can think of a good place let minnow
Looking for places to rent poles and go fishing in or around Jacksonville/St. Augustine, Florida! [more inside]
swap the jewels or lose your fingers
I'm looking for a Bejeweled clone for iOS. [more inside]
iPhone app for quickly adding up price quote
I'm an undertaker and I'll frequently get calls asking for price estimates on a funeral or cremation. There are so many variables with each that I have to tabulate them all by hand. Is there an iPhone app that will set up a list with checkboxes that I can quickly tabulate a price? I've found apps that create invoices or price quotes, but it requires me to enter all the prices myself. Basically, I'm looking for the "McDonald's cash register" approach. Hit some buttons, it gives me a price. Is there an app like this?
Things to do with a 9 yr old around Stroud / Cotswolds
As a Dutchman I'm visiting a 9 yr old girl in Stroud. And I don't know what would be fun in that area to do with her. [more inside]
New dishwasher, install question
I am buying a new dishwasher. Can the shop installer deal with my snowflake-y situation? [more inside]
posted by sailoreagle at 3:21 AM PST - 16 comments
posted by sailoreagle at 3:21 AM PST - 16 comments
December 25
Unlearning Helplessness
I'm four days away from turning 28. I'm still, largely, here, here, and here.
I still don't have a job, five years after college. I *think* I'm interested in medicine, psychology, research and writing am generally well-spoken and written, even through what can be a severe stutter, and have tried to network in my own way. But I'm not finding work. Realistically? It's likely because I'm not looking for it anymore. I've been worn down by a torrent of rejection and cannot get myself to take initiative with applications. Hope me? [more inside]
posted by marsbar77 at 11:46 PM PST - 24 comments
posted by marsbar77 at 11:46 PM PST - 24 comments
I have a fetish. Is it normal?
I'm a 26 year old male from the USA. I will try to keep this as short as possible but I have this certain sexual fetish that I have always had, ever since I was first going through puberty and I don't know if it's quite "normal". [more inside]
posted by Thorium123 at 9:18 PM PST - 22 comments
posted by Thorium123 at 9:18 PM PST - 22 comments
The right to wear
I want the thickest leggings that you know of. I live in New England and I'd like to spend most of the winter in single pairs of leggings, preferably housing normal underwear within. I'm willing to pay top dollar for high quality, VERY THICK leggings. Ideally just black or gray -- athletic or any other toned-down style is totally fine. Any recommendations? [more inside]
posted by miniraptor at 8:59 PM PST - 11 comments
posted by miniraptor at 8:59 PM PST - 11 comments
Phone interview for social services job
I've read the previous posts on phone interviews, but I'd like to know the actual job requirements. [more inside]
Reliable source for hearing aid reviews?
Is there an online source for independent hearing aid reviews? I will getting a pair soon for my moderate to severe hearing loss and would like to understand which companies have reputations for durable, high quality hearing aids, and which hearing aids have well implemented features. Thanks. [more inside]
One-third life crisis: assistance plz
Hello, Metafilter. I have a history of making Big Decisions over Christmas. This year, help me decide if I should move careers, cities, or even countries. [more inside]
posted by aihal at 3:10 PM PST - 7 comments
posted by aihal at 3:10 PM PST - 7 comments
How to stay motivated once you reach a plateau and stop improving?
I've noticed that I really enjoy the feelings that come with growth and improvement, but don't get nearly the same satisfaction from just maintaining my level. I feel like I lose my sense of purpose and positive feedback if I stop progressing. Is there some mental trick I can use to stay motivated to maintain my fitness level even if, for example, I'm not losing ever more body weight each week or running an even faster mile pace on a treadmill with each workout?
How to fix elderly knee pain without a doctor?
My beloved grandmother is facing terrible knee pain that prevents her from even getting out of bed sometimes. She will try almost anything I suggest and anything I buy her, EXCEPT seeing a doctor. What is the best way to help her? [more inside]
Removing poster folds - possible?
I received the REM "Automatic for the People" reissue as a gift and I'd like to frame or plaque mount the included folded poster. Can frame shops completely remove the folds? Can I do it somehow?
posted by davebush at 12:45 PM PST - 7 comments
posted by davebush at 12:45 PM PST - 7 comments
I'm buying a 13" MacBook Pro. Confused & need help with specs.
I absolutely have to replace my mid-2009 MacBook Pro. For the first time in a 30-year relationship with Apple, I'm not sure what all of the numbers and initialisms mean, or which model is best for the things that I do (TouchBar y/n?). Please lend your experience and knowledge to help me. Detailed questions inside. [more inside]
posted by tzikeh at 12:22 PM PST - 23 comments
posted by tzikeh at 12:22 PM PST - 23 comments
What is a "turner" in old-timey acrobat terminology?
My father was just telling me about my grandfather (born in 1910) who did acrobatics and played banjo during the Great Depression. He wasn't with a circus, just local entertainment. Apparently he was a "turner" in terms of acrobatics - what does that mean? Where can I read more about this (fiction or non)? What other search terms would be helpful if I wanted to try to find newspaper listings from the time period that might have mentioned these performances?
On the day of Christmas, my loving and misguided grandmother gave to me
My grandmother insists that I need a new, "stylish, modern, sophisticated" coat. She's been insisting this for years, but this time she's practically forcing me to go shopping with her so she can buy me one. I live in Vermont, not New York City. I work in construction, not an office job. Most problematically, I already have a wonderful wool coat that I love that I think is legitimately stylish and many people give me genuine compliments on it the few times a year I do wear it - this is the coat that my grandmother says is hideous. [more inside]
Can you be friends with someone who was attracted to you?
Recently, I made friends with this guy who I know likes me romantically. I want to stay friends with him but don't think this is possible. This question is to ask for strategies for sidestepping this problem, or at least to get a weigh-in on if such problems are inevitable between straight women and men. [more inside]
December 24
unsafe living situation forces me to vacate, more problems ensue
I turned to my best friend who lives just up the road for help in a situation that was completely unpredictable, and things just keep spiraling. Her new bf is creating emotional chaos for everyone as well. Help... [more inside]
posted by a knot unknown at 10:26 PM PST - 21 comments
posted by a knot unknown at 10:26 PM PST - 21 comments
Looking for a compassionate therapist in Philadelphia
Who is the kindest, most compassionate, most anti-tough love therapist in the Philly area? [more inside]
Can I/how do I get a home equity loan on a low value property?
I talked to a lending company and went through the process for getting a home equity loan up 'til the appraisal (didn't do the appraisal yet). It seems like everything else is in order, but I have no idea how the house is going to appraise - possibly under $50,000. Whatever the value is, we'd like to get a loan if we can...but the next steps are crucial. What should I know about choosing a lending company and any other considerations before paying $500 for an appraisal that may or may not result in a loan? Is there a standard value below which it will be tough to get a loan?
Stomach bug: symptoms have abated, but are we still contagious?
Our adult son is due to visit tomorrow for a couple days, for Christmas. Is that safe, when the rest of us in the household had a stomach bug this week? [more inside]
SF Bay Area artists and performers to check out
Now that I'm middle aged, I do not have my finger on the pulse of the Bay Area art scene. What is is? Have all the artists been driven out cuz the rent is too darned high, or is there stuff I should check out? I'm especially interested in artists of color, queers, & political stuff, but I'm pretty wide open in terms of genre from electronic music to circus performance to visual art to cabaret to... I don't know, puppetry? Graffiti? Turn offs include open mics, cliche, or extremely heavy handed political messaging (I know confusing because I do like political art but it's nice if it's fresh or a bit subtle).
the real vs the purported purpose of write-ups
What is the purpose of write-ups, specifically in regards to retail employees? [more inside]
posted by Crystal Fox at 4:40 PM PST - 26 comments
posted by Crystal Fox at 4:40 PM PST - 26 comments
Utterly Frivolous Holiday Movie Question
It's Christmas Eve, and so our thoughts turn to cheesy Brit romantic comedies... [more inside]
Looking for cheap quiet meetup place in Philadelphia
I'm in group that meets to talk with each other, so a quiet venue is essential. In addition, we want cheap, good food. And in center city, Philadelphia. Vegetarian options would be nice. [more inside]
Los Angeles to Hong Kong Flight Routing Conundrum
This month my wife and I visited Hong Kong and China. It was a great 10 day trip. On the flight out to HKG we flew up over Siberia and then south over Mongolia, China and eventually to our destination. [more inside]
A pointy right elbow vs. sweaters
I have dozens of sweaters. It seems like half have holes at the right elbow. Is there anything I can have done to "restore" these to something which is acceptable to wear in public? [more inside]
Best Way to Learn Bengali?
Having immense difficulty finding reliable resources to study Bengali, even paid tutors. I am in greater LA area for what it is worth. [more inside]
posted by sidi hamet at 11:03 AM PST - 4 comments
posted by sidi hamet at 11:03 AM PST - 4 comments
Christmas Eve Mystery
Question of burning festive importance: what is Perry Como holding on the cover of his "Season's Greetings" Christmas album? [more inside]
Vietnam Me: Rails Edition
I'll be flying my family to Vietnam in late March (so after the lunar New Year celebrations). I need your recommendations. [more inside]
Can a Chromebox work sucking data through a tiny, tiny straw?
Considering a new PC for my mom, as her current one is a six-year-old Win 7 machine that is increasingly twonky, and not convenient for me to maintain. All she uses it for is Facebook, the occasional email, and light web browsing. We'd kind of like to get her set up with a webcam for facetime with the granddaughter. I'm considering a Chromebox. But... [more inside]
Where to source quality bulk ethernet cable?
I'm helping to wire a home for Ethernet. We'd like to have the cabling be of high enough quality to eventually support 10Gb Ethernet, which means Cat6 or Cat6A. Unfortunately, it looks like a lot of network cabling is mislabeled and not up to spec. Who are some trustworthy suppliers of Cat6 and Cat6A bulk cable? [more inside]
posted by cosmic.osmo at 8:16 AM PST - 9 comments
posted by cosmic.osmo at 8:16 AM PST - 9 comments
Recipes for a 3-qt. slow cooker?
I enjoy using my slow cooker, but it’s hard to find recipes designed for it. Any recommendations for books/food blogs/your own recipes for a 3-quart slow cooker? No food restrictions.
posted by cozenedindigo at 2:44 AM PST - 4 comments
posted by cozenedindigo at 2:44 AM PST - 4 comments
How to find a place to move in the US where my Dem vote will count.
I love where I live but the rent is too damn high and my liberal vote doesn't count. Where can I find a list of areas I could move to where I could actually make a difference with my vote? [more inside]
posted by greermahoney at 1:05 AM PST - 27 comments
posted by greermahoney at 1:05 AM PST - 27 comments
Teach me about modern labeling adhesives
This ask from 2010 gets after what I'm curious about: When I was growing up, soaking a glass jar or bottle in warm, soapy water generally sufficed to de-adhere the label and remove (at least most) of the glue from the vessel. Lately, though, this seems just to disintegrate the label and leave a tacky, gunky residue. What changed? [more inside]
December 23
How do I get rid of a mouse in my wall? Sub-zero temp edition
Last night we heard a mouse (?) scratching in our bedroom wall between the drywall and the exterior siding. This morning we plugged two suspicious holes along our foundation/window frame with steel wool. The scratching resumed tonight. What do we do? [more inside]
posted by Maarika at 10:12 PM PST - 11 comments
posted by Maarika at 10:12 PM PST - 11 comments
How to send a letter so only recipient opens?
I am a writer/editor and will launch a personal delivery snail mail marketing campaign. I live in Europe (but am American) and will have someone in the US do the mailing. [more inside]
posted by lometogo at 6:26 PM PST - 15 comments
posted by lometogo at 6:26 PM PST - 15 comments
fancy ball-- what do?
I'm a working class hero that got invited to a black tie event-- what do I wear? How do I act? [more inside]
posted by dogheart at 6:06 PM PST - 31 comments
posted by dogheart at 6:06 PM PST - 31 comments
Buying Women's Clothing Online -- Show Your Work
I'm delighted at the great answers to clothing questions here. Can you teach me how you do it? I want to get beyond "just Google it." Are there useful metasearch sites? What strategies fail? Do you pick a designer and then search for different sellers? I'm looking for wool trousers. But I'm not asking you to tell me where to buy these pants, but discuss how you would go about finding them, or any other women's clothing. [more inside]
posted by Jesse the K at 5:15 PM PST - 9 comments
posted by Jesse the K at 5:15 PM PST - 9 comments
What caused this small scratch or bite that bruised?
Yesterday morning I went for a casual walk. When I got home and undressed I noticed this strange cut about three inches below my collarbone, and it was already starting to bruise. Could this be some kind of very straight bug bite? [more inside]
posted by Room 641-A at 3:14 PM PST - 12 comments
posted by Room 641-A at 3:14 PM PST - 12 comments
Searching for literary mystery/crime books
I've burned through all of James Ellroy and I'm looking for new literary mystery/crime books in the same vein. [more inside]
What is the text on this Indian miniature painting?
I bought an Indian miniature painting that had been painted on pages of an old book. What is the text? [more inside]
Recovering nailhead leather chair
I'm buying two old nailhead chairs with torn leather upholstery. Is this something I can replace myself? I love the thick leather that marks with a fingernail from places like Saddleback, where should I get leather material?
Girl seeks wishlist app to end all wishlist apps
I'm looking for a wishlist app that has two things: a Chrome extension for desktop and the ability to be integrated into the 'activities' menu on my iPhone so that I can add items from various shopping apps. Does such a wonder exist?
Trying to find a software mp3 player with a certain feature...
Anybody know a software mp3 player that can be set to skip to the next song after a certain amount of seconds? [more inside]
The serenity prayer?
Solve a debate for me (between me and my editor): If I say "the serenity prayer" do you know what I mean and can you recite it.
The context is whether a Canadian demographic between the ages of 45 and 60 would be likely to immediately know what was being referred to upon reading the phrase "the serenity prayer."
One Slide To Scan.
I have a very small number of slides to scan, perhaps only one. How best to get this done? [more inside]
posted by SemiSalt at 12:15 PM PST - 12 comments
posted by SemiSalt at 12:15 PM PST - 12 comments
Walking / hiking vacation - Can you help me figure out how to do this?
I have a very odd set of vacation requirements that I would love some help with!
I'd like to take a vacation for the next two weeks somewhere in the world where I can walk or hike for 8 hours a day, but sleep in a bed most nights and have access to internet every day. My partner wants a feeling of "lock-in" like you get on a backpacking trip, where you have to keep walking to get to the next place. Can you help us find something that works? [more inside]
You are my bodybuilding consultant
I have been lifting weights for about 5 months now and I want to know if what I am doing is the optimal towards my goals. Below is the upper body part of my workout. [more inside]
Best camera + lens for archiving photos in a light box?
I'm about to archive all my families photo albums. I explored using a scanner but have decided for a few reasons that taking photos is best for me, using a tripod and a lightbox. That said, what is a good camera and lens to use for this for this project? [more inside]
I Want To Take My Girl To See Classical Piano in NY - Where?
I want to take my girlfriend to see live classical piano music in NYC or within 50 miles north.
Details inside [more inside]
Winter Driving in New England
I'm thinking of visiting a friend in Western Massachusetts next week, driving from Philadelphia. I'm nervous/not experienced at winter driving and am generally terrified of skidding/having my brakes lock (I don't have ABS or snow tires). What can I expect *highways* to be like both if there's some kind of small snowstorm AND if there's not specifically a snowstorm but just transient bits of precipitation/snow showers at below-freezing temperatures? Do major highways get slippery or icy?
Wordsmith help with holiday greetings requested
My mom died in October, help me write my holiday cards. [more inside]
posted by NoraCharles at 6:19 AM PST - 11 comments
posted by NoraCharles at 6:19 AM PST - 11 comments
Proof that Chicago is alive and kicking
We need stuff to do in Chicago for this coming week. Our group isn't really into the Xmas stuff and we're looking for things we haven't done before. Transportation is not an issue so we're open to driving around. [more inside]
What is the name of this (post-rock?) track, and who is it by?
I have a (post-rock?) song in my library that I downloaded years ago, and would love to know who it's by, so that I can purchase it, and maybe the album it's from and, oh, possibly their entire back catalog. [more inside]
How do I friend?
I cannot believe I'm asking this question at (almost) 30, but how do I keep and maintain friendships with different groups of people without ripping my hair out? Dramz inside. [more inside]
How to dress well (as a therapist)
I recently started working as a therapist and am wondering: How would you like your therapist to dress? [more inside]
Do you cry when you poop?
It's almost Christmas so let's talk about our bathroom habits. [more inside]
Staying in room that smells like cat pee
Should we get a hotel room because sister in law's room we're staying at smells like cat pee? [more inside]
December 22
Why was someone taking pictures of our house?
Someone drove up to our house, took some pictures of it, and drove away. [more inside]
posted by matildatakesovertheworld at 11:46 PM PST - 25 comments
posted by matildatakesovertheworld at 11:46 PM PST - 25 comments
Help me get rid of damaged/low-value stuff
I have trouble getting rid of damaged or low-value things since I picture them moldering in a landfill for 500 years. Are there resources for getting rid of a household items in a somewhat ethical way? Services that will sort through my stuff and do this for me? [more inside]
Optimistic "chosen family" books?
I just reread the delightful The Goblin Emperor, and was struck among other things by how Maia essentially starts out with no one and ends up with a positive, close-knit chosen family. I was wondering what other books might strike a similar note, and thought I'd ask here for suggestions. [more inside]
posted by Alensin at 8:21 PM PST - 16 comments
posted by Alensin at 8:21 PM PST - 16 comments
best photography magazines
What is the best photography magazine now? [more inside]
Book: People can switch with animals
What I remember: There's a boy who can switch places with animals in so far as he can suddenly swim like a fish, etc. [more inside]
posted by one4themoment at 6:22 PM PST - 8 comments
posted by one4themoment at 6:22 PM PST - 8 comments
What's that song? Mefi post edition
OK I just went thru 3 years of the music tag trying to find this thing. Metafilter post about a band that dropped an album, a pop-ish band that referenced militant politics and had gospel samples. One of the music videos was shot in what looked like a warehouse basement with revolutionary group detritus in it -- -posters, pamphlets, later on weapons? My Google has failed me and I want to buy their album, pls help, thanks in advance.
posted by nixon's meatloaf at 5:12 PM PST - 2 comments
posted by nixon's meatloaf at 5:12 PM PST - 2 comments
At what bitrate does Groove app play?
I have an android smartphone. I play music files from my OneDrive, all ripped at different bitrates from CDs. Does the Groove app play at the bitrates I used, or convert down, and to what? Thanks.
posted by noelpratt2nd at 3:39 PM PST - 9 comments
posted by noelpratt2nd at 3:39 PM PST - 9 comments
Help with sending sensitive information over the Net
My relatives are going to help me with a large purchase; the trouble is, we are on a time frame (due to someone's unprofessionalism) and they'd like me to e-mail them a scan of the check with all the numbers in order to make the transfer. [more inside]
A Day In The Life Of The Soviet Union
I would like some non-fiction books about daily life throughout the USSR, particularly post-Stalin. [more inside]
What is a life-changing realization you wish you had sooner? (2017 ed.)
This question is my favorite AskMefi post of all time and I find myself revisiting it every year or so. As I've since graduated college and entered the adult world some of these realizations have become much clearer. It's been years since that post and there are a lot of new official Mefites here, myself included.
So, wise people of the green, what are some life-changing realizations you've had as you've aged? [more inside]
Our small house reeks of fish -- help!
Last week, my housemate cooked perhaps the most putrid cod I have ever smelled. When I came home, every part of the house smelled of fish -- even upstairs where my room is. I immediately opened all the windows to air the place out, but the next morning, the house still smelled as strongly as it had the night before. I have tried to get rid of the smell, and am at my wit's end. What can I do to rid our house of this odoriferous demon? [more inside]
Could you help me translate a short sentence into Latin?
I need to translate a simple sentence into Latin as part of a mock Medieval tapestry, but Google Translate is throwing up weird results. [more inside]
posted by shapes that haunt the dusk at 12:59 PM PST - 3 comments
posted by shapes that haunt the dusk at 12:59 PM PST - 3 comments
Lead-Free Crystal
I need to find a *lead-free* crystal decanter for liquor (bourbon/cognac/etc, not wine) storage. Help me navigate through all of the BS/deceptive labeling and find a decanter that is legitimately lead free. [more inside]
posted by nightrecordings at 12:53 PM PST - 5 comments
posted by nightrecordings at 12:53 PM PST - 5 comments
Am I nuts or is this charge for app support absurd?
8 hours and counting of code "re-familiarization" with nothing to show for it. [more inside]
posted by sapere aude at 12:46 PM PST - 16 comments
posted by sapere aude at 12:46 PM PST - 16 comments
What's the best retail spot carpet cleaner?
I don't have pets but have cream carpeting and kids.
posted by qsysopr at 11:09 AM PST - 15 comments
posted by qsysopr at 11:09 AM PST - 15 comments
List of Publishers still publishing new works of 'Great Literature'
Looking for a list of Publishing Houses / Presses around the world that seek to publish new works of 'great literature' (aka, in today's parlance, high quality 'literary fiction') [more inside]
tchotchkes to watch out for
Looking for stocking stuffer ideas for hipster queer women. **Ignore this thread if you are a hipster queer woman who is related to me.** [more inside]
posted by roger ackroyd at 10:05 AM PST - 16 comments
posted by roger ackroyd at 10:05 AM PST - 16 comments
Which stove top waffle iron should I buy?
I'm looking for a stove top (non-electric) waffle maker. I would prefer a standard (versus Belgian) size, cast iron (will also accept cast aluminum but prefer no non-stick) and made in the U.S.A.
I've seen the Rome one, but prefer not made in China. NordicWare has several options and I'm overwhelmed trying to pick the right one.
Price is not a consideration within reason (I do not want to buy a $200 waffle maker).
Please point me in the right direction!
posted by assenav at 9:39 AM PST - 3 comments
posted by assenav at 9:39 AM PST - 3 comments
Podcasts that are lighthearted but interesting
I’m looking for podcasts to listen to while relaxing that are not too deep or intense, but still engaging. [more inside]
Buying a 6-month-old MacBook Pro from craigslist. What do I look for?
I've set up a craiglist buy/sell meeting for later this afternoon. The computer for sale is the exact configuration I was planning to buy at the Apple Store, where a new one costs $500 more than he's asking (plus tax which is over $100). What do I want to ask/check/test before I hand over my cash? Specs and questions inside. [more inside]
posted by tzikeh at 8:36 AM PST - 21 comments
posted by tzikeh at 8:36 AM PST - 21 comments
Is this a shower arm? Shower neck? Shower torso?
What is this piece of shower hardware called, and how do I remove it? [more inside]
How to destroy a rear projection TV?
How I destroy/break/sabotage a rear projection TV? [more inside]
I’m not really a journalist, but they don’t know that. Some tips?
I got a writing assignment and the editor thinks I have much more journalistic experience than I do. I know how to write and have lots of experience interviewing people, but in all my work, the interviewees have been selected for me; I haven’t had to find them myself. But for this article, I do. [more inside]
Bon voyage gifts for departing staff
I manage a small team of research assistants (RAs). They are typically just out of college and stay with us for 2 years before going off to grad school (or, rarely, a non-academic job). My first crop of RAs is departing this year in the spring/summer and I'd like to get each of them a little farewell gift. [more inside]
Florida total loss for a car: Avoiding a salvage title
Is there a way to avoid having to obtain a salvage title after my insurance company declared my car a total loss? [more inside]
How to approach software resellers with a new product?
Has anyone had any experience trying to place a new software product with consulting firm resellers who then sell directly to corporations? More questions within... [more inside]
Make My Daughter Cry (over a good book)
My daughter, age 11 and a strong and enthusiastic reader, is looking for “sad” fiction books. [more inside]
Have the Portlandia writers already covered this one?
Help a guy help his wife plan a shower on the other side of the country. [more inside]
Is Durham discontinuous? Are other cities?
I was looking at the Wikipedia page for Durham, NC and I noticed that the city appears to be discontinuous. What's the cause of this? Are there other cities that are not geographically continuous?
posted by LSK at 12:03 AM PST - 26 comments
posted by LSK at 12:03 AM PST - 26 comments
December 21
No Student Teacher Placement; Need One By Next Month
I was given a student teaching placement 10 days ago, but the teacher changed her mind today. School is out until January 8th at which point I have to start teaching. What do I do? [more inside]
posted by bluekazoo at 8:56 PM PST - 5 comments
posted by bluekazoo at 8:56 PM PST - 5 comments
How do you survive without a real family?
So, earlier this year my dad died. My mom is still alive, but she is a complete mess (basically a mentally ill alcoholic, see past questions for details). Aside from her, I really have no family. Most of my family kind of disconnected from us once my mom became more difficult. I'm an only child who is nearing 30 and I just feel so. fucking. alone. How do you cope without a family? Who do you lean on? [more inside]
How do I make my Christmas roast keep in the refrigerator?
I just got home from Costco with a beautiful USDA Prime bone-in rib roast for Christmas with a sell-by date of 12/24. How do I ensure that it keeps until I cook it on Monday? [more inside]
posted by Special Agent Dale Cooper at 7:53 PM PST - 8 comments
posted by Special Agent Dale Cooper at 7:53 PM PST - 8 comments
I Want My Own Charity
Can I create and fund my own non-profit/charitable foundation to help people in my community? [more inside]
What is this novel about a man traveling to a distant society?
What is the title of this novel I thought looked interesting when I saw it in a bookstore a few months ago? A man travels to a distant and very foreign place - maybe to study the culture or maybe to help or educate the people. I feel like the title was along the lines of The [Something] World or All the [Something] Things, where [Something] is a word or phrase with positive connotations. [more inside]
posted by Redstart at 5:43 PM PST - 5 comments
posted by Redstart at 5:43 PM PST - 5 comments
Artist iPad accessories
What's a gift that an artist working on an iPad would appreciate? [more inside]
posted by acidic at 5:27 PM PST - 4 comments
posted by acidic at 5:27 PM PST - 4 comments
I'M NOT ANGRY!!!
How do you deal with a person who acts angry, sounds, angry, looks angry, but vehemently denies being angry? [more inside]
posted by keep it under cover at 5:25 PM PST - 32 comments
posted by keep it under cover at 5:25 PM PST - 32 comments
Amazon Marketplace scam charges?
New credit card scam? How does it work? [more inside]
posted by BillyAnne at 4:37 PM PST - 11 comments
posted by BillyAnne at 4:37 PM PST - 11 comments
I was drunk. The characters were drunk. I'm drinking now.
Man stops over at woman's vineyard. They chat, drink wine. What is this film please? [more inside]
posted by popcassady at 4:13 PM PST - 4 comments
posted by popcassady at 4:13 PM PST - 4 comments
"Conscious" IV sedation failed at the dentist - what now?
Yesterday I had two root canals and two extractions at the dentist while under IV sedation. But I never fell "asleep" and I remember pretty much everything that happened and now I'm even more terrified of going back...which is bad, because I have two more root canals and an incredible amount of fillings left to do. What now?
(CW: there's a lot of traumatic dental work details within - most folks will probably be fine with it, but if you're like me then you probably don't want to read it.) [more inside]
Phone SIM games
I have recently played and enjoyed A Lost Phone and Another Lost Phone and am wondering if anyone knows any more games like them perhaps with better puzzles. [more inside]
posted by edbles at 2:37 PM PST - 4 comments
posted by edbles at 2:37 PM PST - 4 comments
Can I please have pretty pear and apple slices?
I'm making a fruit and cheese board for Christmas Eve. I just found some lovely Harry and David pears and some Granny Smith apples at Trader Joes. I would like to serve these sliced on the cheeseboard. Is there a best way to keep them from browning? Lemon juice? FruitFresh? We have to travel 45 minutes to get to the party, ideally, I would slice them at home, plate them and just whip off the plastic wrap at the party. Am I doomed to brown pear and apple slices?
posted by sarajane at 2:31 PM PST - 8 comments
posted by sarajane at 2:31 PM PST - 8 comments
Last minute Stocking Stuffer present ideas needed for an 18 yo girl.
My niece is staying with me this Christmas, like a good Aunt & Uncle we're giving her what every teenager wants, a chunk of cash for Christmas. But her pile of presents looks bare with just the envelope & card so I'want to put together a Christmas stockings full of little things so she has something to actually open on the morning when everyone else is opening things. [more inside]
posted by wwax at 2:30 PM PST - 27 comments
posted by wwax at 2:30 PM PST - 27 comments
Replace innard of Macbook 2012 or buy new?
I water-fried the logic board of my mid-2012 Macbook Pro 2012 (when I took it apart, all other parts looked fine). It had slowed down over the last 5 years, but worked okay enough. Is it smarter to invest in a brand new machine or to pay the $800 Apple quotes me to replace the logicboard? [more inside]
posted by Kombucha3452 at 2:08 PM PST - 17 comments
posted by Kombucha3452 at 2:08 PM PST - 17 comments
OWWWW. Leather sole slippers and other ways to deter static electricity?
I recently moved and am getting shocked like crazy in this dry environment. I'm at a point where I'm scared to pet my dog. [more inside]
Name that book #999...
I read a fiction book about a former child detective with a famous dead mother who lived in a small town which hosted a celebration of their family's adventures in an annual sort-of Bloomsday event. There was a lot of snow, which is what's triggered my question. An old enemy returned. Maybe the famous dead mother wasn't dead after all? Everybody had ennui. [more inside]
posted by theweasel at 1:30 PM PST - 9 comments
posted by theweasel at 1:30 PM PST - 9 comments
How to stop resenting a wedding
Last year, I very happily agreed to be the maid of honor for my best friend's wedding. But now the wedding is only a month away, and I'm having a hard time getting over feeling cranky about the details. How do I swallow my feelings so they don't leak through during her wedding weekend? [more inside]
posted by Neely O'Hara at 1:12 PM PST - 18 comments
posted by Neely O'Hara at 1:12 PM PST - 18 comments
Not an OEM certificate...
The (small-ish) company I work for is being asked for an OEM certificate from one of our customers. Thing is, we don't have one. However, [more inside]
posted by Laura in Canada at 11:55 AM PST - 3 comments
posted by Laura in Canada at 11:55 AM PST - 3 comments
Helping kids whose father has terminal cancer
A dear friend has stage IV prostate cancer and has been given 2-3 months. He's predictably in a lot of pain and heavily medicated. His wife has asked if I can think of something happy the kids (boys 17 and 11 and girl 14) can do with him to make some good memories or just to distract them. I'm pretty devastated by this myself as they are family to me and I'm having a hard time thinking creatively..or thinking at all. Please help, dear MeFites.
posted by Preserver at 11:32 AM PST - 13 comments
posted by Preserver at 11:32 AM PST - 13 comments
"Film Look" with apple products
I've been obsessed with "Film Look" since it's been a thing in the 90s-- where video has been modified to look like cinematic film. I want to make some clips that look like this. How do I do this with an iPhone 7 and a MacBook Pro, for pretty cheap (<$20).?
Kid friendly tours in Port Limón, Costa Rica?
Yay - we're going to Costa Rica! Sad panda - we'll only be there for one day .What would be the most kid friendly way to make the of our little time there? [more inside]
Authoritative text in business continuity/disaster recovery?
Is there an authoritative or foundational text in business continuity/disaster recovery? I'm an instructional designer working on writing a foundational e-learning course in business continuity but my source material is inadequate. [more inside]
Can I move and then give notice? Explosive Landlord/Roommate Ed.
I rent a room in a two bedroom apartment from my landlord/roommate. She's started yelling and blaming me for things and I need to move, but do I need to tell her in advance? [more inside]
posted by perrouno at 9:32 AM PST - 28 comments
posted by perrouno at 9:32 AM PST - 28 comments
Tattoo Location
I'm trying to figure out where a tattoo would look good. Read on if that's the kind of thing you have opinions on! [more inside]
local people insisting that I called them
The answer to this is probably obvious, and yet - I don't answer my phone if it is a number I don't know, *except* if it has my area code. Then it could be someone from school, or a doctor's office, or something.
This is usually fine, except that occasionally I get someone who insists that they are calling me back. And yet I did not call them. is my number just going through some scammer's spoofed number generator, or are the people calling me part of some scam? It's so odd.
posted by 41swans at 9:07 AM PST - 11 comments
posted by 41swans at 9:07 AM PST - 11 comments
I wanted a demotion, but I guess I didn't?
I was a junior employee with some frustratingly under-managed projects. Then the projects got a new manager. Yay! But this much-wanted transition feels like a demotion. Help? [more inside]
posted by mosst at 8:41 AM PST - 6 comments
posted by mosst at 8:41 AM PST - 6 comments
Single guys that wear button-up shirts to work -- help?
Is there a way to wear dress up shirts without ironing or dry cleaning? Is there a special brand that you can just wash yourself? If so, can you please explain in detail how you accomplish the washing/drying part - washer settings, dryer settings, brand of soap or weird dryer stuff - whatever.
No cheating. I'm single and gay, so no wife here to help.
posted by Craig at 8:23 AM PST - 44 comments
posted by Craig at 8:23 AM PST - 44 comments
Benadryl for traveling 18 month old - safety and, if it's safe, dosing?
I am thinking about giving my toddler Benadryl to help her sleep on a plane ride and at my parents' house over Christmas. She is 18 months old and I want to make sure it's safe; the website says you're not supposed to do it but is that a liability thing or a "no really, don't do this" thing? If it is safe, what dose should I give an approximately 28 lb 18 month old? [more inside]
How do I faucet (obsessive research edition)
After a silly amount of research, I have determined that a Chicago Faucet is for me, due to sturdiness. I would like to buy this one, because I like the double-jointed spout, but I don't know whether the spout is the right size for my kitchen sink. This kind of spout comes in different sizes, though, and spouts and bases can be bought separately. What size spout? Which base (scroll down)? Would I need extra fittings to connect the two? Does a ceramic cartridge matter? HALP
Springsteen on Broadway, now what?
I can't believe it, but I scored 2 tickets to Springsteen on Broadway in June 2018. [more inside]
posted by Bourbonesque at 7:29 AM PST - 12 comments
posted by Bourbonesque at 7:29 AM PST - 12 comments
Fostering and engaging with face-to-face communities and activism
I want to get involved in local issues in a way that will have me talking and interacting with people in person. What can I do to foster a sense of community rooted in the local and physical? I'm in Oakland, but I'd be happy to hear more generally applicable ideas, too. [more inside]
posted by shapes that haunt the dusk at 6:45 AM PST - 7 comments
posted by shapes that haunt the dusk at 6:45 AM PST - 7 comments
Divorce filter: how do I disentangle our possessions?
My marriage is ending. I thought we were separating with the option of reconciliation, but it's become clear that divorce is the only end to this. We're working with a mediator but haven't reached lawyer time yet, and I'm moving out in two months. How do we split up what we own? More details within. [more inside]
Easy delicious meals for depressed, fatigued spinster
I'm looking for recipes that are remarkably delicious and sophisticated given the low effort required to make them. No-knead bread would fit into this category, and so would this red cabbage salad. [more inside]
posted by bunderful at 5:44 AM PST - 35 comments
posted by bunderful at 5:44 AM PST - 35 comments
Are there any hotplates with large heating areas?
I will be without a kitchen for months and would like to be able to cook on a portable burner/hotplate/induction plate. Ideally I would like something that can work with a 12" skillet but all the options I see have a small hot area that would be more suitable for a smaller skillet. Any suggestions for hotplates with a decent sized hot area?
What are the most active fandoms?
I'm doing research for a project - what are the most active and passionate fandoms online? I'm in my 30s so all the things I come across in my social media bubble are things from 10-20 years ago like Buffy and the obvious things like Harry Potter and Dr. Who. What other stories / people inspire such intense participation & recontextualization online that an old like me might not be aware of?
What to be when I grow up: Assassin's Creed alternatives
My almost-14-year-old son has asked for Assassin's Creed Origins for our Xbox One. I'm very reluctant to buy it for him, after reading about the sexual content and the killing of bystanders. Does anyone have an alternative? I thought Zelda Breath of the Wild but it doesn't exist for Xbox One. Thanks!
posted by bwonder2 at 3:51 AM PST - 18 comments
posted by bwonder2 at 3:51 AM PST - 18 comments
December 20
Can you fail to graduate high school and not know? If so, how to fix it?
My partner is trying to negotiate going back to school, and has just abruptly discovered that their high school transcript does not actually state a graduation date or diploma type. They do actually have a diploma issued from the high school, and they had attended a few semesters of college in Ontario after [they thought!] graduating high school. How do we fix this in case anyone demands to see proof of graduation somewhere down the line? Difficulty level: rural Canada, high school no longer exists. [more inside]
What are some good fiction titles for the budding engineer/scientist?
Looking for some fun fiction for my 11-year old nephews to give for Xmas. Stories that feature kids being inventive, solving puzzles and mysteries and exploring the real world of science, engineering or invention. Bonus for stories that adults too will enjoy! [more inside]
Coordinating many people across state or national borders
I’ve been thinking deeply about global climate response. The need to act is existential, more than merely urgent. How can we as citizens of Earth care for our planet despite forces resisting change. How can many people's actions be coordinated? (more inside) [more inside]
Can my baby eat this: Puree of steamed but unpeeled okra
So I bought okra I steamed it for 15 minutes (including water heat up time) in a babyfood maker and pureed it. Then I learned it's supposed to be peeled first. Is this ok for baby to eat or should I chuck it? [more inside]
posted by If only I had a penguin... at 7:23 PM PST - 18 comments
posted by If only I had a penguin... at 7:23 PM PST - 18 comments
How do I revive my website?
How do I get my website converting again? [more inside]
The Post-Coffee Blues
For various health reasons I'm trying to give up coffee and caffeine for good. Life without them is a real drag. I'm looking for alternatives and advice. [more inside]
Heathrow to London on 26 December advice
We're landing in Heathrow at 5am on the 26th, and the fast train's closed. London transport says there'll be a coach into central London where I can switch to the tube (our Airbnb is near Poplar station), or I can book a taxi directly. Plan C is to take the coach to central London and stow our big bag at a luggage drop off place, get brunch and wander around for a while, then go to the Airbnb after lunch. I'm travelling with a 6 year old and a moderate budget - which option would work best?
Alternative to USAA
I need to move my business from USAA to another insurer and/or banker. They've gone down hill...
more inside... [more inside]
posted by drthom at 3:17 PM PST - 8 comments
posted by drthom at 3:17 PM PST - 8 comments
Insulating the very cold bunker under the porch?
In the basement of my Canadian house, there is a freezing cold, uninsulated "Cold Room" - it's the hollow interior of a concrete/cinderblock porch. How can it be insulated to create a nice living space? [more inside]
Family things to do with a dog near Great Yarmouth, UK
Family members are holidaying near Great Yarmouth over New Year. They like walking, sports, children's attractions and a bit of history. Oh, and food. They will have a car with them, and also a small dog. The latter is limiting what they can find to do, apart from boat trips. Any suggestions about activities, places to go etc would be great - thank you.
posted by paduasoy at 2:51 PM PST - 2 comments
posted by paduasoy at 2:51 PM PST - 2 comments
So this is how it really works.
I have completed scrum master training and am now certified as a CSM. I still haven't experienced
scrum in the field which I know is more complicated than the theoretical scrum I've been taught. I'm already starting to receive interest from recruiters on LinkedIn. Help me devise a strategy to find an internship/shadowing opportunity with an existing scrum master/scrum team before I jump actively into the job market. [more inside]
Long distance gift ideas near Amsterdam
My fabulous young-adult niece is nannying near Amsterdam, in Amstelveen. We very belatedly remembered that we hadn’t sent her a gift-it’s her first Christmas away from her folks and we’d like to let her know we are thinking of her. We are in the US. When asked, the only thing her mom could suggest is iTunes gift cards-any other ideas? Anything local we can buy from afar? She loves music, the arts (dance and theater) and has really enjoyed exploring Europe.
What To Do In Paso Robles, CA - not involving wine, and child-friendly
A post-Christmas adventure with friends is taking us to Paso Robles, CA next week. We've never been, so I'm looking for ideas on what to see and do in (and around) Paso Robles, beyond the obvious trips to wineries and the 805 Brewery - both of which are destinations of interest for us, but we're going to be there for three days, and my days of drinking for three days straight are long past. [more inside]
posted by armoir from antproof case at 2:08 PM PST - 6 comments
posted by armoir from antproof case at 2:08 PM PST - 6 comments
How can I find what happened to a domain I bought two years ago?
I bought a domain on sale two years ago. I since forgot and just remembered. I went to check up on it, then realized I don't remember what registrar I bought it through. I searched my various email accounts and can't find anything about it. I also tried logging into old registrars I used to use. I am fairly sure I bought it. Various whois sites say that it's reserved by the registrar and that's it. Any ideas about what else I can search?
posted by ignignokt at 1:38 PM PST - 8 comments
posted by ignignokt at 1:38 PM PST - 8 comments
Medicaid Rules Definition of "Congregate Care"?
Does a HUD subsidized apartment sponsored by a non-profit organization that automatically provides case management services to a disabled tenant qualify as "congregate care" under Medicaid rules? If so, what are the consequences for qualifying for services from Medicaid Waiver Programs such as TBI Waiver? [more inside]
Need last minute help on a strange Christmas gift
My wife and I are big fans of My Favorite Murder and by proxy, Mind Hunter. She brought up the fact that Ed Kemper at one point recorded a lot of audiobooks and that it would be so neat and creepy to have. [more inside]
Getting on parent's insurance under 26
My mother lost her job and now has to get a Marketplace insurance plan. I was under the impression that as long as I'm under 26 I can be on her plan. She says two people on the ACA hotline have told her she can't add me unless I'm a dependent on her tax return. Can I be on her insurance or not? [more inside]
large, quality, value priced rainfall shower head
I am searching for a large, 12 inch or larger, rainfall shower head, of better quality than the $30 to $75 ones on amazon and less expensive than the $700+ ones from Kohler and the like.
Anybody know of a product I should consider?
What was that stop-motion music video with the bulldozer?
I saw this video within the past 7-8 years. It was by an indie-type rock band, and was all stop-motion animation, prominently featuring a bulldozer digging around. For the life of me, Google can't tell me. Maybe you can? [more inside]
if at first you don't succeed, pan & scan again
I'd like to find more instances of the trope of finding hidden content on video in movies/tv/books. NOT the "enhance!" trope. PLEASE DO NOT LINK ME TO INSTANCES OF "enhance!" because I'm not interested in those. [more inside]
My cat died. How do I help my other cat cope?
My beloved cat died suddenly yesterday due to a very short illness.
My other cat is upset. She keeps crying and looking for him. How can I best help her while dealing with my own grief? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 10:36 AM PST - 14 comments
posted by anonymous at 10:36 AM PST - 14 comments
Easy morning activism from bed
So for over a year now, I have woken up angry. What is a peaceful morning activist activity I can do from bed besides angry commenting on Facebook? Something that makes a difference and doesn’t depress me. [more inside]
Trying to ID an episode of a medical drama involving a crush injury
I was just reading about crush injuries and reperfusion syndrome, and it reminded me of an episode of a TV medical drama where a woman is trapped between ... something (I feel like it involved a train or car?), develops what I believe is crush syndrome, and ultimately dies when she is released. [more inside]
posted by Defying Gravity at 9:43 AM PST - 14 comments
posted by Defying Gravity at 9:43 AM PST - 14 comments
Found art online. Lost the link. Can you help me find it again?
I'm looking for a set of five framed prints. They are fake comic book covers featuring the "Big Five" African game animals. Each of the five animals has it's own print and is depicted as a superhero with a super talent (lion had a supersonic roar, maybe?). These are very cartoony and done in pastel colors, suitable for a child's nursery. If it helps, I think the artist also sold prints with Star Wars characters, too. Long ago, I found them for sale online but I've since misplaced the link. Can you help?
posted by jtfowl0 at 9:35 AM PST - 2 comments
posted by jtfowl0 at 9:35 AM PST - 2 comments
Modern/revisionist/postcolonial WW2 Podcasts/Documentaries?
Looking for recommendations of world war 2 podcast or documentary series I can stream online. I would like something which features modern historiography and a global/postcolonial perspective. [more inside]
Where would you go if you could go anywhere? Why?
We have 3 months and a generous stash of money for travelling. Where should we go? Why? [more inside]
posted by mkdirusername at 9:12 AM PST - 25 comments
posted by mkdirusername at 9:12 AM PST - 25 comments
Is there a way to run Steam on a Mac without it taking over my computer?
I enjoy Steam games as much as everyone else, but I had to uninstall it recently on my Mac with High Sierra as it kept on opening itself to update. Despite unchecking every "run at startup" option I could find, the dumb thing insisted on opening EVERY time I restarted the computer. Is there a way to guarantee Steam will never open without my consent?
posted by Seeking Direction at 8:33 AM PST - 3 comments
posted by Seeking Direction at 8:33 AM PST - 3 comments
Ergonomic set-up for art tablet?
I'm thinking about getting an art tablet, presumably a small or medium Wacom, but I've been concerned about the ergonomics. [more inside]
Weed filter: Help me find the vaporizer of my snowflake-y dreams
I’m looking for a tabletop vaporizer that works best with a whip not a bag. Is hands free. Isn’t super finicky- I don’t want to have to stir or refill the bowl frequently. Isn’t harsh and is good for a social experience- two people using it hookah style. This is my holiday gift to myself so I’m not super price sensitive. Just want it to be awesome. Recommendations? [more inside]
posted by jeszac at 6:33 AM PST - 4 comments
posted by jeszac at 6:33 AM PST - 4 comments
Can you identify this plug or connector?
Moving into a new flat in Spain, has these on the wall...
TV is obvious, can anyone identify the one labeled R? R bottles stand for red, which means network or web in Spanish, if that helps. Cheers!
posted by conifer at 12:21 AM PST - 5 comments
posted by conifer at 12:21 AM PST - 5 comments
Book request for a couple with both partners having ADHD
I'm looking for a book about ADHD for couples that works with either a.) (in a heteranormative cis-gendered relationship) the female half of the couple being the one with ADHD or even better, b.) both partners having ADHD [more inside]
RoomShare niceties in Madrid are... not so nice
my daughter has been living in Spain for 6 years but last yr moved to Madrid. Her room mates are throwing her out just before Christmas because her work schedule means she can no longer be as active in the apartment as she once was, even though this wass not a requirement. [more inside]
Bogus Teacher Reviews-How to Keep Going?
I'm a pre-professional status teacher (this is the year where tenure will be given) with two years of outstanding reviews. I recently received a very negative (and completely ridiculous and inaccurate) review and it looks like I won't be offered tenure. How do I proceed? [more inside]
December 19
Pressure canning: convert from 16oz jars to 4oz jars?
Friend of mine is canning some low-acid veg from raw, and the recipe she has recommends, let's say 20 minutes in the pressure canner for 16oz jars, and 25 minutes for quart jars. She wants to can this stuff in 4oz jars. The recipe relies on cooking time in the pressure canner, so presumably overcooking it would be Bad Somehow. What's the algorithm she would use to find out how long to pressure can 4oz jars?
posted by All hands bury the dead at 8:58 PM PST - 5 comments
posted by All hands bury the dead at 8:58 PM PST - 5 comments
Exercise routine using chores. Eg. Cleaning the shower is squats
Can you think of any ways to integrate exercise and physical chores? I find it easier to exercise with a goal in mind, and I don't want to pay for the gym.
What I have so far:
- Cleaning the shower walls and floor feels like the equivalent of squats.
- Sweeping under furniture is stretching.
- Hanging clothes is stretching and lifting.
posted by A4 at 8:51 PM PST - 13 comments
posted by A4 at 8:51 PM PST - 13 comments
How to cope with holidays and changing family dynamics (loss)?
My grandma, a core part of the family and someone I was very close with, passed away. I'm visiting my family for Christmas and everything seems to have changed. It's threw me a loop. [more inside]
How to send push notifications to a large group of volunteers?
A friend of mine wants to find a way to send push notifications to a large group of volunteers (around 10,000). I'm looking for an app that can handle this, without having to create a new app. [more inside]
What show about young artists/loft squatters did I watch on PBS in 84/85
When I was in high school I saw a few episodes of a show on PBS (in the U.S.) that was taped in, I think, the UK. This was based on my interpretation of the character's accents so I could be off on exact location. [more inside]
posted by stagewhisper at 8:05 PM PST - 5 comments
posted by stagewhisper at 8:05 PM PST - 5 comments
Interesting lunch spot near I-80/I-90 between Cleveland and Toledo
I'm thinking to make the 12-hour annual pilgrimage from Murland to the midwestern homeland this Saturday in a single day, and would like to find a wortwhile/interesting place for a leisurely lunch somewhere in and/or between south of Cleveland and Toledoish. I'm willing to deviate up to 20 minutes or so off the interstate but not farther than that and definitely not into downtown Cleveland. No dietary restrictions.
Stopover Suggestions in the Middle of America
I am driving down from Toronto to a wedding that will be taking place in Louisville, Kentucky and Little Rock, Arkansas over the Christmas holidays. I have small kids and will need to stop the car every 90 minutes or so. Where are the best places to stop? [more inside]
iPhone upgrade: Explain it like I'm 5
My iPhone 5S has become a sad panda. I would like to replace it. I've never done anything but the straight 2-year contract new phone upgrade through the Verizon plan I've had for at least 15 years. Please help me understand the current landscape of options. I'm generally tech savvy but this is an aspect of the world I have paid literally no attention to in years. [more inside]
C'est la faute à who?!
In the French Les Mis soundtrack, Gavroche sings about how Voltaire and Rousseau are to blame for society's problems. In the English version, he sings about how he'll grow up and punch everyone. Both of these just feel right. What are some other interesting changes that have been made to musicals as they cross languages and cultures? [more inside]
Can’t Stop Crying (Not Like That)
Husband and I have been sharing a cold. He’s had it worse as my symptoms have mostly been limited to a sore throat and watery eyes. Well, now my eyes won’t stop watering. [more inside]
None of us ever want to go to the doctor: Lymph Node Edition
So I still have this lymph node situation. Provisionally diagnosed with a Bartonella infection and prescribed antibiotics. The testing came back negative for B. henselae, though. Testing also came back negative for, like, literally everything else. I got a referral for a biopsy, but I kind of don't want one? Can it wait another month? [more inside]
Looking for someone to help resurrect a water damaged computer from 2010
I have a real jacked up laptop (MacBook Pro, 13-inch, Mid 2010) that might have some tantalizing information on it It is a rough , but I need to be able to boot the computer up - it won't suffice to just get the files off of it. I am curious if there is someone in the NYC area that might be able to help me to get this thing up and running even if for a short time. Thank you.
Washington State At-Will Employment Law
My partner has been applying for a new job since her hours were reduced at her current job. She found full-time employment pretty quickly and gave her two weeks at her current employer. A day later she was fired. Is there any recourse besides living well? [more inside]
How much folic acid is enough folic acid?
My husband and I have decided to start trying for a baby soon. Yay!
I've read that women who are trying to get pregnant should take folic acid even before conception.
I've already been taking a multivitamin for general health purposes for about a month now.
It says it has 600 mcg of folate (150% of the RDA). Compare this to a prenatal vitamin which says it has 1 mg of folate. [more inside]
posted by spicytunaroll at 1:09 PM PST - 19 comments
posted by spicytunaroll at 1:09 PM PST - 19 comments
Watching Mariners games without cable
My parents only have their expensive Comcast cable subscription because my dad likes to watch Mariners baseball games. What are his other options? [more inside]
in what order to bake these, and how to pack them?
I plan to give Christmas cookies and candy to relatives this year. This will be onsite, not mailed. Although I've made cookies and candy many times in the past, I've only ever brought things to be eaten on the spot, and I'm not sure how best to pack these or in what order to make them. [more inside]
I'd love to talk but I just can't.
I have a visible enough profile through social media and community activities that people always want to reach out and chat on the phone or in person. I love meeting people but I've been getting really overwhelmed by this demand for my attention. Especially because I've put in a lot of effort to make myself visible in order to get paid work, but almost none of these conversations actually lead to paid work. [more inside]
posted by cacao at 11:07 AM PST - 11 comments
posted by cacao at 11:07 AM PST - 11 comments
Can we talk about something more pleasant?
What are some good strategies for dealing with a relentlessly negative person? [more inside]
What could be causing this smell in my kitchen?
What could be causing this intermittent, faint kerosene-ish (maybe) smell in my kitchen? [more inside]
Christmas Cakes
I am not cooking the meal this year, but am in charge of desserts. I have celiac disease, so cookies are difficult, but I can usually easily convert cakes to gluten free. Does anyone have any Christmas cakes they love? [more inside]
posted by OneSmartMonkey at 10:19 AM PST - 23 comments
posted by OneSmartMonkey at 10:19 AM PST - 23 comments
Looking for 2018 wall calendars
Please give me your interesting and unusual 2018 wall calendars. [more inside]
Help me find this Star Wars t-shirt, please!
My wife would dearly love to have this t-shirt but I can't seem to find anywhere to buy it. Help me! [more inside]
posted by dellsolace at 9:30 AM PST - 4 comments
posted by dellsolace at 9:30 AM PST - 4 comments
Mail-Order Mochi in the US?
I am traveling to the US and I want Mochi sweets. Particularly, I want daifuku mochi - that delicious sweet red bean paste wrapped up in white rice flour dough.
There are no local sources of Mochi where I will be staying.
Who sells really good mochi sweets by post?
I need classic red-bean-paste treats, but am happy to hear about sources for other varieties as well!
(please assume that a) pre-fab factory stuff from a supermarket does not interest me and b) making my own is not an option.)
posted by tabubilgirl at 9:14 AM PST - 10 comments
posted by tabubilgirl at 9:14 AM PST - 10 comments
How to quell pesky morning anxiety?
I've realized that I have a very morning-specific anxiety, especially mornings when I'm getting ready for work, but even on my days off. I've also realized that I have had morning anxiety for as long as I can remember, but I may be noticing it more lately because it's ramped up a notch or two. More within, apologies if it's all over the place! [more inside]
posted by sweetpotato at 8:59 AM PST - 23 comments
posted by sweetpotato at 8:59 AM PST - 23 comments
Birth experiences with Kaiser in CA?
I'm looking for experiences from others who have had their babies with Kaiser in CA, specifically the Women and Children's Center in Roseville. On paper, the center looks great. Their website describes an "empowered birth experience...family centered...healing environment" which all sound exactly like what I'm looking for. Of course I will do the tour in the third trimester, but I'd like to hear from others who have had positive (or not) experiences with them. [more inside]
Gift from a distance to support a friend who is a mom and exhausted?
My good friend has two young children and is going through alot of stuff right now and is exhausted. Any ideas on what I could get her as a gift to support her? Complications, limited budget ($25) and from a distance. [more inside]
How Do I find a PI Outside of the Country?
Are there any great obscure US or non-US detective shows from the 50s-70s that will scratch this itch? [more inside]
Look, I Made a Chain
I’m working on some habits which external motivation would be helpful for. I’ve got a friend who has volunteered to help motivate me. I’d like something like dontbreakthechain.com, but that has a function where I can share a link to it or an image of the calendar with my friend. [more inside]
Looking for a grief/crisis child counselor in Austin
My 16 year old daughters boyfriend unexpectedly passed away Sunday morning. [more inside]
posted by Annika Cicada at 7:51 AM PST - 10 comments
posted by Annika Cicada at 7:51 AM PST - 10 comments
I need a fluffy hug of a book
I tutor twin 15 year old girls who are sophomores in high school. They're fantastic readers and writers, but are struggling a bit in English class right now because the books they're reading are just so dark and depressing. (Such as The Kite Runner, Night, and The Handmaid's Tale.) They were even in tears telling me how hard it is to read such emotionally grueling books every day and not be able to get a break. So I'm looking for book suggestions to give them that will be a lighthearted, optimistic, happy, warm, fuzzy, cuddly read - the complete opposite of what they're reading now. [more inside]
posted by Neely O'Hara at 7:13 AM PST - 54 comments
posted by Neely O'Hara at 7:13 AM PST - 54 comments
Best Android Phone on Verizon
I'm getting an Android smartphone that runs on Verizon. I overwhelmed myself with comparison sites and reviews, and need some guidance. Budget: Under $600, preferably under $400. [more inside]
What hangs where
We bought a new house. We love it. But it's been nearly four months since we moved in and all of our pictures are still sitting on the floor. What was your strategy for deciding what hangs where? [more inside]
posted by chimpsonfilm at 6:28 AM PST - 17 comments
posted by chimpsonfilm at 6:28 AM PST - 17 comments
(middle) name this baby!
Help us find a fun middle name for a boy that starts with an “S”? [more inside]
What to do if 3 lb of fresh cranberries
These fruits are less appetizing than I thought, I'd like to do something nice with them. [more inside]
posted by tedious at 5:42 AM PST - 49 comments
posted by tedious at 5:42 AM PST - 49 comments
Having trouble articulating this question (GFTA-3)?
My 3 year old son was evaluated for speech articulation delays and got a GFTA-3 percentile of 21% (no raw score was given to us). The school is saying this is within normal range and are denying support. This seems.... surprising? Can anyone help me understand how a score of 21% is ok?
posted by papergirl at 5:32 AM PST - 11 comments
posted by papergirl at 5:32 AM PST - 11 comments
Looking for the name of a play about using the toilet and eating
I am looking for the name of the play about people who go off privately to eat but use the toilet at a table together. [more inside]
posted by Quillcards at 4:57 AM PST - 4 comments
posted by Quillcards at 4:57 AM PST - 4 comments
Overly cautious type: Can I Eat It? Frozen veggie bags
I am extremely overly cautious about food as I have chronic illness and stomach problems. When frozen veggies have small pinholes in the bag, are they safe to eat? [more inside]
My ex boyfriend won't leave me alone. What should I do?
I broke up with my boyfriend a month ago. He won't leave me alone. What should I do? [more inside]
Projector help...
I'm looking to buy a used projector for showing my children a Christmas slideshow of the year that has just passed. I'd also like to be able to show movies on it now and then. I'm not that bothered about it being the most up to date tech even last year - we have a Macbook Pro from 2013 so I doubt the 'source' can even send a particularly high definition image to the projector. [more inside]
Can you recommend a novel that's both gripping and meaningful?
Gripping because the internet has done a number on my attention span. Meaningful because I have Trump Related Affective Disorder and need hearty/substantial new thoughts in my brain. I like: detectives and people who are on mad quests, books where people care about things and each other, oddness/surrealness, good stylists, rollicking epics, relative ease of comprehension, really good YA. [more inside]
December 18
Make a room feel / become warmer?
There's a very cold room in my house that I'd like to "warm up", both literally and psychologically. Can I do this without adding lots of textiles that will cause allergies? [more inside]
Nemesis is too strong of a word, but...
I am not in the habit of having dinner with people who I don't get along with. I try to get along with most people so I don't end up in these situations. But tomorrow, my old friend is coming into town and has organized an intimate dinner with his close friends (6 people). One of his close friends is someone who I don't like to interact with (aka my "nemesis"). I'm going. My nemesis is going. What is the best way to handle the situation? [more inside]
posted by Buddy_Boy at 7:43 PM PST - 20 comments
posted by Buddy_Boy at 7:43 PM PST - 20 comments
Cream(y) soup (base) to make for the week?
I've rediscovered my love for creamy things with a soft texture, and I especially love soup in the mornings. However, I don't have time to make it every morning, and I'm not sure if the recipes I'm seeing will keep for the week. So what I've been doing is portioning out Campbell's soup for the week in the freezer and using them as base. Does anyone have any suggestions or tips for healthier (ie not tinned) creamy soup base that I can either keep in the fridge for the week or in the freezer? I basically add vegetables for a morning soup. [more inside]
posted by cendawanita at 6:51 PM PST - 24 comments
posted by cendawanita at 6:51 PM PST - 24 comments
Migraines from high-frequency flicker (above normal fusion rate)
My office moved locations recently, into somewhere which has been refitted with some surprisingly white and bright LED panels on the ceiling. These have a flicker on them which I can't see directly, but causes me eyestrain fairly fast, and nausea, auras, and taste disturbances after a day. Two questions: 1) How do I communicate this to the Facilities Management ("Looks pretty bright, but it's not flickering. We'll change it for a warmer white"). 2) Do I need to see a doctor about this? [more inside]
posted by food of the sock gods at 5:58 PM PST - 14 comments
posted by food of the sock gods at 5:58 PM PST - 14 comments
A very old sci-fi short story, memory triggered by Oumuamua
A long time ago in a childhood far, far away, I read a short story about an astronaut spacewalking alone - doing some menial repair task, I think - when a huge object whizzes close by at tremendous speed. It's gone in the blink of an eye, but for a fraction of a second he sees jagged corroded metal and shattered portholes. A derelict alien ship, adrift for millenia, and he is the only human to have ever witnessed it.
posted by CynicalKnight at 5:56 PM PST - 2 comments
posted by CynicalKnight at 5:56 PM PST - 2 comments
Why does my phone murder USB cables?
My Oneplus One android phone works with a new USB cable for about three weeks, and then it starts charging only intermittently, then stops charging altogether. A brand new cable works again for three weeks or so, then repeats. This is true of both cheap cables and expensive ones. What is going on? [more inside]
posted by lollusc at 5:21 PM PST - 20 comments
posted by lollusc at 5:21 PM PST - 20 comments
Do I Have To Go To The Doctor; I Fell Down edition.
On Saturday, I slipped on my wood stairs, and fell down 5 or 6 stairs on my backside. I bruise my butt and a little of my hip good, but I also nailed my ribs pretty damn good. No head involvement. I bruised my ribs, and could have possibly broke them. But given that treatment for bruised and broken ribs is the same, RICE, do I need to go to the doctor? [more inside]
posted by [insert clever name here] at 4:39 PM PST - 10 comments
posted by [insert clever name here] at 4:39 PM PST - 10 comments
Winging it in Wyoming
I've got a road trip planned for the first 2 weeks of June from STL to Nebraska, SD, and Wyoming. The trip out is solid and my last booked stop is in Jackson, leaving there on the 13th, but then... [more inside]
Fleet Vehicle Tracking via iPhone
Can anyone recommend an iPhone app for fleet vehicle tracking? [more inside]
Pinterest replacement?
Is there a visual bookmarking app/service I can use instead of Pinterest? [more inside]
posted by lemonade at 3:14 PM PST - 2 comments
posted by lemonade at 3:14 PM PST - 2 comments
Spending my education allowance
The company I work for offers a generous education allowance. Please help me figure out what I should spend it on. I'm looking for online courses relevant to my role as a digital strategist. [more inside]
Help me corral the drama llama (car accident with neighbor)
My neighbor backed into my car, our insurance companies found her 90% at fault, and I'm afraid about potential harassment. What should I do to protect myself? [more inside]
posted by Automocar at 2:29 PM PST - 20 comments
posted by Automocar at 2:29 PM PST - 20 comments
last minute shopping help
I'm looking for a vegetarian or mostly vegetarian cookbook for a Christmas gift. Looking for some good recommendations. [more inside]
posted by john_snow at 1:44 PM PST - 40 comments
posted by john_snow at 1:44 PM PST - 40 comments
Making photograph-ish things with chemicals?
I'm fascinated by the technique Sarah Schönfeld's used for her work All You Can Feel and more generally the idea of manipulating negatives with chemicals to create art. Does this technique have a name? [more inside]
posted by snownoid at 1:43 PM PST - 2 comments
posted by snownoid at 1:43 PM PST - 2 comments
Sing to me of opera cakes
My wife has a craving for opera cake. Where in Chicago can I find her a slice? It's gotta be chocolatey, it's gotta be delicious, and ideally it'd be on the north side and available in individual portions. [more inside]
New black scab on tip of dog's ear?
My little pup has developed a funky black scab on the tip of his ear (the pinna, the corner bit at the end of his semi-erect pointy ears). It's small (~3-4 mm) and kind of looks like a scab or necrosed skin. There's no hair covering it. I've been watching it for a couple of weeks to see if it changes but it's stayed the same. We have a vet appt in a few days, but wondering if you have any insight you can share in the meantime? [more inside]
Help a pregnant Jewish lady make a nice Christmas for her husband please
We have been going through tough times so I would like to make a festive and pleasant holiday. He grew up in the Northeast and had plenty of lovely White Christmases with his family, and I would like to recreate those feelings if I can! [more inside]
posted by tatiana wishbone at 12:30 PM PST - 28 comments
posted by tatiana wishbone at 12:30 PM PST - 28 comments
Bromidrosis: The Collected Correspondence of Stinkfoot
I've recently grown concerned that, given the scattered and digital nature of my papers, scholars of the future will struggle to comprehensively compile my correspondence. I think it'd be a nice gesture to get some of those things organized in advance. To that end, I'd like to back up all of my iMessage, SMS, and GroupMe messages from two iPhones (4S and 6S) to my computer (Linux Mint). I'd prefer to be able to export to PDF and retain images as well. Looking for recommendations! [more inside]
find me a find/catch me a catch
Looking for some new podcasts to listen to; details inside. [more inside]
Finding a family medicine doc GP in NYC
I’ve gone at this backwards, but after seeing several specialists to deal with health stuff, I realize I should probably have one provider in NYC who keeps track of all of my stuff. [more inside]
What's the Quotation About Simplistic Solutions to Complex Problems?
There's a quotation going around these days, about the inclination to offer simplistic solutions to complex problems (e.g. "We just need to get strong with North Korea"). It's not an "old chestnut." This quotation is of recent origin, and oft-cited by poli-sci types and TV pundits.
posted by Quisp Lover at 10:15 AM PST - 3 comments
posted by Quisp Lover at 10:15 AM PST - 3 comments
small landlord insurance question
I am renting an attached studio at my house. How much insurance coverage do I need? [more inside]
posted by diode at 9:58 AM PST - 9 comments
posted by diode at 9:58 AM PST - 9 comments
Help me feel a sense of accomplishment
I'm about to complete a fairly major language-learning achievement (learning all the joyo kanji) that I've been working on daily since March. One thing I really loved about doing this was the feeling of having achieved something concrete every day, no matter what else was going on that day. I'd like to add a new habit or undertaking to my daily routine that will have this same effect. It'd be cool if this was related to learning Japanese, but it could also be something totally different. [more inside]
posted by sunset in snow country at 9:54 AM PST - 5 comments
posted by sunset in snow country at 9:54 AM PST - 5 comments
Best Food Delivery
Looking for ideas for great food I can have sent to my family cross country. Think beyond fruit and cheese baskets. [more inside]
Budgets and boundaries in gift-giving, "lunch buddy" edition
I have the opportunity to give my reading/lunch buddy the big gift on her Christmas list, but should I? [more inside]
“You can't just go round murdering people. There are rules, Nimona.”
Daughter, voracious reader, aged 11. I'd like some graphic novel suggestions. Read and enjoyed: Nimona, Amulet, Ghosts. Knows more about than anyone else on earth: Warrior Cats. Adored: Goodnight Stories for Rebel Girls.
I'd prefer stories that are age appropriate (so a lack of sex and drugs) and I'd also prefer to steer away from things based on cartoons (e.g. Adventure Time, even if I might be able to smuggle some Meredith Gran into her reading that way). What are the classics? What's new that she might enjoy?
How to deal with no acknowledgment of greeting cards
I read the answers in this similar thread, but it's more than a few years old. For the people who put in effort to making greeting cards and mailing them to people, but then get no responses at all, how do you deal? [more inside]
posted by echoplasm at 9:22 AM PST - 33 comments
posted by echoplasm at 9:22 AM PST - 33 comments
In Lieu of Avalon
Based on this FPP what are your favorite recommended books in a similar vein to Mists of Avalon, but without such a problematic author.
Are side-shave styles still cool?
I am looking for websites that will help me be aware of not just what is currently on trend (hairstyles, makeup, clothing, accessories, etc. ), but more so what trends are likely to popular in future years/seasons. I live in a bit of a style vacuum, so my info has to come from the internet. [more inside]
Tips for buying a hoodie for a shorter woman?
I love how my wife looks in hoodies. Unfortunately, many of her favorites are worn and also she's gained a little weight in the waist and chest (not hips, she is a classic apple shape). I'm worried that many hoodies for women — especially the ones described as fitted — will not look right on her. On the other hand, I'm worried that non-fitted hoodies will just look like a non-flattering box. She's also short — around 5'2" or 5'3". What hoodies should I be looking at? [more inside]
posted by nosh, daven, shtup at 8:49 AM PST - 35 comments
posted by nosh, daven, shtup at 8:49 AM PST - 35 comments
Tell a friend that she does know a serial harasser?
A friend of mine recently posted on Facebook that, in light of all the recent revelations of harassment and sexual assault, she is waiting anxiously for a revelation about someone she knows, or has a lot of respect for. I know, in fact, that a good friend of hers is a serial harasser. Do I tell her? [more inside]
posted by Orlop at 8:47 AM PST - 14 comments
posted by Orlop at 8:47 AM PST - 14 comments
How much of an emergency is my throbbing tooth?
A 12-year old crowned tooth is throbbing when I walk around; I have a dental appointment in ten days. Is it okay to wait? [more inside]
posted by sucre at 8:16 AM PST - 12 comments
posted by sucre at 8:16 AM PST - 12 comments
How to break into translation as a part -time freelancer?
(In Montreal) [more inside]
Ginger Carrot soup left out overnight, can I eat it?
So heres whats in it:
Carrot, ginger, potato, celery, onion, garlic, chicken stock (knorr concentrate), butter, splash of milk, grated parmesan. Pureed.
Left out overnight: ~12 hours @ 18c (64f) in sealed jars [more inside]
posted by axismundi at 7:58 AM PST - 14 comments
posted by axismundi at 7:58 AM PST - 14 comments
How do I fashion?
I'm a 42 year old male. Having spent the last decade or so extremely overweight, I'd completely stopped giving any thought to what I wore. In fact, I'd gone full Zuckerberg. Now I've lost 100 pounds and I'm thinking that maybe I should treat myself to nicer clothes, but I have no idea where to start. Help? [more inside]
Small curtain rods - do they exist?
I am having difficulty finding curtain rods for mounting on the outside of small sized windows. I have a pseudo bay window, with a 30” centre window flanked by two 19” windows. There isn’t much space between them or extra room to mount oversized rods. I want to find a design available in ie. 20-32”, or two separate size models of the same design. Total budget - $100 for the 3 rods. I’d like something plain but not flimsy, ideally in black. [more inside]
Late night - Stadio Euganeo to Venice
Probably a long shot, but does anyone know the best way to get from Stadio Euganeo outside Padua to Venice after a concert? Looks like the last trains from Padua's central station head to Venice early in the 11pm hour, so that may not be the best play. Anything run later? Is this going to be a taxi/Uber situation?
DevaCurl counterfeits and dupes
I like to use DevaCurl hair products, but they're expensive. They cost somewhat less on Amazon, but I'm not sure whether I'm getting the real thing. Are counterfeits improbable? Are there cheaper drugstore products similar to the ones I like? [more inside]
Printing copies of old book illustrations to hang on the wall
If I wanted to print out a copy of this image, or a similar old print illustration, to hang on the wall, what kind of print service would be best?
(hopefully that link goes to the right page in the book, you can see a smaller version of the same image on Flickr)
posted by Bloxworth Snout at 4:46 AM PST - 9 comments
posted by Bloxworth Snout at 4:46 AM PST - 9 comments
Right to resent pressure to participate in friend's relationship issue?
I need some perspective on a situation that has come up with a friend couple. The way the situation unfolded, I was left feeling uncomfortable, like I was being asked to participate in their dynamic when I didn't want to, but I am not sure if I'm overreacting. [more inside]
Partnership LLC to a married sole-proprietorship in another state
We recently moved to NYC from North Carolina where my now-wife and I had a partnership LLC (before we were married). We would like to dissolve (?) that LLC in North Carolina and reopen a sole-proprietorship/DBA in NYC. Need help. [more inside]
Birth control during menopause? (And general menopause anxiety)
How does one deal with birth control during menopause? I keep seeing that yes, you can get pregnant and need to keep using birth control - but you can't use HBC because it will mask menopause. So, what, is it back to condoms? [more inside]
Quieter train from London St Pancras to Luton Airport
I'll be travelling by train from London St Pancras station to Luton Airport (and back) over the holidays. Which train company is more likely to give me a less crowded train? [more inside]
How can I get over the anxiety of trying new things?
As of late I have been taking a lot of steps to leave my comfort zone. It hasn't been easy to say the least. However, I have been on a roll lately and I want to keep up the momentum. I have always wanted to expand my social circle through clubs and activities, I did not have the time before and I was sort of afraid. [more inside]
posted by Braxis at 12:18 AM PST - 8 comments
posted by Braxis at 12:18 AM PST - 8 comments
December 17
When will I kneel again?
I dislocated my kneecap last week in a freak accident. It's starting to feel like it's healing, but the ER doctors gave me very little idea of what to expect, and I won't get to see an orthopedist for several weeks. This is a really bad time for a disabling injury. I have a million things I need to do, but I'm worried about re-injuring myself. What can I expect for the next few weeks? [more inside]
posted by biogeo at 10:42 PM PST - 15 comments
posted by biogeo at 10:42 PM PST - 15 comments
What Philosophy to read for a former student long out of the field
What are all the cool philosophers reading nowadays? [more inside]
Work computer for....cheap?
Can you help me find a inexpensive computer for work? [more inside]
Golden Gate...Divisadero...Turk...Fillmore!
I'm heading up the coast to see TMBG do their two nights in San Francisco at the Fillmore in March. Where should I stay? [more inside]
posted by ovenmitt at 8:14 PM PST - 5 comments
posted by ovenmitt at 8:14 PM PST - 5 comments
NTSC color bars via Pantone?
We're making some promo items (hats, shirts, ect.) that will have color bars on them. The embroiderer wants the colors specified in Pantone numbers. I don't know... [more inside]
Depression, medication and expectations
I've been on antidepressants for a long time. When will I get beyond basic depression to actual happiness? [more inside]
Winter on Chincoteague and Assateague
First-time visitors would love your advice for winter activities and accommodations on the islands! [more inside]
posted by smorgasbord at 7:29 PM PST - 3 comments
posted by smorgasbord at 7:29 PM PST - 3 comments
Anyone seen a silver llama creamer?
One of the oft-used tropes in British light comedy is antics involving "silver cow creamers", those little silver pitchers used for dispensing cream into one's tea. Heck, most of the plot of an entire PG Wodehouse Novel involves such a creamer.
For gag gift reasons, I'm looking for a silver llama creamer, if such an item exists.
Any leads?
How can I buy wind-up mechanisms?
I want to make my own wind-up toys, by which I mean I want to make things and stick wind-up mechanisms inside them. Metal visible parts strongly preferred, but other than that I don't need anything fancy - fancy things I don't need include antique parts, expensive kits or wholesale quantities. I just know there are lots of cheap wind-up toys, so I'd like to think there's some way to buy the mechanism for a similar price.
Need to stick stuff to brick without drilling
I have fake Christmas garland with lights, and I need to stick it to brick without drilling. The methods I've tried so far are failing me. [more inside]
What are the best places for bedding and mattresses in Manhattan?
What are the best places for buying a mattresse and medium- to higher-end bedding in Manhattan and what should I know beforehand? [more inside]
In Forza 7 do I need to unlock cars and customization or buy them?
What I am looking for is a game that will let me customize cars for the fun of it. I don't want to have to spend countless hours struggling to win races or earn money to unlock cars and customization options, since I suck at video games and will likely never unlock everything anyway. [more inside]
Shared Space solutions in SF East Bay for a couple weeknight evenings
I'm looking to rent a small room to arrange English writing classes for a few kids (family and friends' kids). I cannot do this in anyone's garage due to various reasons. Are there any viable solutions? [more inside]
Are There Any Retailers That Don't Have Sales?
I'm compiling a list of retailers who don't hold sales. And it's surprisingly hard! [more inside]
Mi’kmaq winter holidays
Which winter holidays do the Mi’kmaq First Nations people of Nova Scotia celebrate? [more inside]
Fun Christmas morning food to order
I'm looking for ideas for things to eat on Christmas morning that are special, tasty, and that I can order in advance, for a party of 2. Does such a thing exist? No restrictions, doesn't even have to be
"breakfasty", just throw your ideas at me. [more inside]
sequence word random
I want to order custom refrigerator magnets with words I choose. I want them to be small magnets, like the ones you see commercially with words for various themes. When I google there are so many options. Does anyone know a place that I can have this done and delivered to me before Christmas? It's for about 10 to 20 magnets. USA.
Do we wanna be in pictures?
I work at a very small justice related non-profit.
A documentarian (with some good films behind him) has approached our ED and asked if he could do a film about our organization. Sounds great at first, but then we start thinking about what could go wrong.
Maybe he would edit it in such a way that our donors would be less likely to fund us. Maybe he would turn out to be trying to make us look bad. What questions should we ask and what actions should we take to make this possible endeavor a success, and what issues should we address to protect ourselves if we decide to do this?
Can you identity this or translate this Russian/other Cyrillic language?
I need help translating the Cyrillic-alphabet language used on these labels. The labels are attached to the hooves of a few painted wooden horses I inherited from a family member. They are allegedly from Russia, and allegedly produced circa the fall of the USSR; they could very well be from a former USSR country that is not Russia. I have very little information to go on. Any translation assistance, or help identifying these painted horses and where they may have originated, is greatly appreciated. [more inside]
posted by nightrecordings at 11:34 AM PST - 6 comments
posted by nightrecordings at 11:34 AM PST - 6 comments
Five identical apples, with five identical results?
Is there any difference between the five care providers (AmeriGroup, CHPW, CCW, Molina, United) offered under WA state Medicaid/Apple Health? [more inside]
How to remind a growing company about the benefits of diversity
I am a investor in a very cool and fast-growing creative company that is making a lot of key hires for their nationwide expansion. At their investor update presentation last week (watched remotely) I notice that all of the 7 or 8 key hires they mentioned in leadership roles are men.
They do have at least a couple women in top roles from their founding team but I was definitely struck by the long list of dudes they presented last week.
It is well understood that having diversity on a leadership team is beneficial to business.
How can I bring it up with them tactfully to ask after the actual balance of their leadership team and remind them that they should keep this stuff top of mind as they grow? [more inside]
posted by wowenthusiast at 10:40 AM PST - 14 comments
posted by wowenthusiast at 10:40 AM PST - 14 comments
Bird-friendly apartments in Central MA?
I have been searching and searching for a 1-bedroom apartment that will allow birds...and it has been difficult. Most will allow cats, and that is about it. You're lucky if you can get a small dog. And many realtors/landlords also ask for vet records as well.
However, what is the bird owner to do? Are there any tips/tricks to finding these hidden gems of the apartment world for pet owners? Have I missed something? [more inside]
Good apps for kids
Since my kids have asked for nothing for Xmas this year I am giving them itunes credits to buy ipad games. They pretty much only play lots of Toca Boca and Minecraft. There is so much junk out there, please give me your fun recommendations (educational is probably a reach, but appreciated). Girls ages 8 and 11.
posted by gryphonlover at 9:51 AM PST - 13 comments
posted by gryphonlover at 9:51 AM PST - 13 comments
Social media for someone who would prefer not to bother
I'm getting on social media for career purposes and am trying to find a way to be connected with as little time investment as possible. Any advice for creating efficiencies or services I could pay for to help me get set up? [more inside]
Quick way to keep up with current events when avoiding the news?
For the sake of my sanity, I've been avoiding the news sites and sources that I used to read/watch/listen to (even comedy like the Daily Show). This has been good for me (and I tend to hear about things from the people around me or through my work anyway). However, I'm also finding myself in the position sometimes of not knowing about important current events and I want to have at least an overview of what's going on to avoid "nodding along" in casual conversations... [more inside]
Why does Don Winslow get good reviews?
I was excited to pick up The Cartel by Don Winslow. And then I started reading it... [more inside]
Becoming the queer lady magician of everyone's dreams
I want to get back into my childhood passion of stage magic - and make it more aligned with the kind of political & highly personal art I already do. Where do I begin? [more inside]
posted by divabat at 3:32 AM PST - 18 comments
posted by divabat at 3:32 AM PST - 18 comments
Wearables and gifts for sufferers of back pain
Am looking to buy a wearable heat pad for back and shoulder pain... anyone have any particular brand you like? Any other gift ideas for sufferer of said back and shoulder pain also welcome...
In need of a quiet upright vacuum
As you might have figured out from the title, I'm in the market for a new upright vacuum cleaner. The quieter, the better. I'm tired of how loud and jarring my vacuum is. Most vacuum cleaner reviews don't mention noise levels so I'm having a hard time narrowing it down.
posted by cokelessrome at 1:28 AM PST - 13 comments
posted by cokelessrome at 1:28 AM PST - 13 comments
Report egg-damage to car to my insurance company?
Someone egged my car, and I didn't notice until it had pretty much baked in. It won't come off after much effort, and from what I've read, could cost hundreds of dollars to fix. Should I report this to my insurance? [more inside]
Anonymizing Facebook
I have a stalker so I avoid Facebook. But now I'm forced to be on Facebook. How do I do this without the stalker finding me? [more inside]
Couples therapy in Toronto?
Can you recommend a couples therapist in the Toronto area? Located in either North York or downtown is preferred. Our biggest issue is the decision to have children.
Non-awkward gift for an engineer-builder-contractor I don't really know
What's a nice gift for an engineer-builder-contractor guy in his mid-to-late-forties with a wife and child, who went out of his way to fix things in my place, which I rent, aside from the things he was contracted to by the owner? [more inside]
December 16
How do I Canada?
I will be making a business trip to Ottawa in January, and I have some questions about the logistics of dressing and acting professionally in extreme cold weather. [more inside]
What on earth can I get my uncle for Christmas?
What can I get my uncle for Christmas? He is house bound and does not have much mobility. He's feeling sad and restless these days and I would love to get him something to cheer him up and keep him entertained. Any suggestions? [more inside]
posted by silverstatue at 7:37 PM PST - 22 comments
posted by silverstatue at 7:37 PM PST - 22 comments
Baby doll shopping for parents who hate baby dolls - help!
My three-year-old desperately wants a baby doll. I'm a queer grouch who tries to avoid heavily gendered toys, and I'm totally thrown by this. Other parent is way more in the know, but we're in the middle of unhappily deciding whether to separate or just give up and divorce, so she's not a resource. Help? More details below. [more inside]
posted by centrifugal at 7:09 PM PST - 29 comments
posted by centrifugal at 7:09 PM PST - 29 comments
How can I sort out this housing and school conflict?
A supportive living program has been working with me to find an apartment. The social worker and I have been applying to buildings for disabled people. A manager for one of these buildings told me that they tend not to like housing students cuz they think that students should live with their parents, and that the rules about this change constantly. [more inside]
posted by Eevee at 6:43 PM PST - 6 comments
posted by Eevee at 6:43 PM PST - 6 comments
Take kitty outside without creating a monster?
I recently have welcomed into my home an adorable one year old cat. He is very interested in the outdoors. Is there a way to allow him to have limited access to the outdoors without creating a monster cat who is constantly howling to go outside? (which is what happened with a previous cat) [more inside]
Golfcourses and bars... Where can one find men of say 37 to 44?
Since turning 40, a couple of years ago, I'm finding that in online dating only 50+ men seem to be interested. I'd really prefer someone younger than that, because if at all possible, I'd still want to consider having a child/children and because I am already older an even older father wouldn't be great. Then in real life, people guess me to be 10 years younger and I mostly meet people of around 30 (political group, parttime studies, the gym). And that gap again is too wide for me and for them. [more inside]
posted by Litehouse at 5:46 PM PST - 9 comments
posted by Litehouse at 5:46 PM PST - 9 comments
Government Employee Experiences
I'm looking for books about government agencies and their operations by former employees of those agencies. "We Meant Well" by Peter Van Buren is a good example of what I'm looking for, but I would like as many such books suggestions as possible.
Saving Images from Google Image Search is Broken
When using ios on my iphone or ipad, I can no longer save images from Google image searches. It used to be that clicking on the image would enlarge it and I could then save it. That is no longer the case. Now when I click an image, I have the options to "visit" "share" or "save" and none of them appear to work. [more inside]
Friendship might fail because of second job that’s not going well
I’ve recently started moonlighting with a former employer, and it’s not going well for multiple reasons. A friend, and now a coworker again, hooked me up with this gig. I’m worried about the impact on our friendship. How can I salvage this? [more inside]
posted by Chkalovskaya at 3:24 PM PST - 12 comments
posted by Chkalovskaya at 3:24 PM PST - 12 comments
Where do the cool kids in NYC shop?
I'll be in NYC for a day trip in the spring and am looking for cool places for shopping. Think something like Colette (RIP) in Paris. [more inside]
posted by youcancallmeal at 2:45 PM PST - 5 comments
posted by youcancallmeal at 2:45 PM PST - 5 comments
In St. Paul until Dec. 20. Want to experience beautiful snowy nature.
I have four days to find something wonderful and lovely to do outside, preferably near St. Paul. If it were not winter, I'd go kayaking. Is there a lovely outdoor winter spot to walk, maybe near water or unique-to-me outdoor areas? A special snow-covered lake? Should I get skis even though I've never been on skis? [more inside]
posted by amtho at 2:36 PM PST - 7 comments
posted by amtho at 2:36 PM PST - 7 comments
Portland beer or wine place with online gift certificates
I need to buy a gift for my sister-in-law. She and my brother just moved to Portland, OR. They both like beer and wine, and trying new places, and so I'm thinking of a gift certificate to a local brewery, brewpub, winebar, or similar. I am open to other suggestions, but we have a $25(ish) limit. The only catch is that I am not in Portland, so it needs to be someplace that will sell me a gift certificate online.
posted by lazuli at 1:30 PM PST - 8 comments
posted by lazuli at 1:30 PM PST - 8 comments
Pesticides in meat and dairy?
In the 1990s, my biology prof told us that animal fat (in fish/meat/dairy/eggs) contains more pesticide residues than fresh produce. He explained that certain pesticides accumulate in the fatty tissues and are present in any foods containing animal fat.
Since then, all the media focus has been on the Dirty Dozen. Where can I find a comparison of pesticide residues that includes animal products, not just fresh produce?
posted by Frenchy67 at 12:51 PM PST - 3 comments
posted by Frenchy67 at 12:51 PM PST - 3 comments
Last Minute Over New Years Vacation Ideas
Any ideas for reasonable cost vacations to somewhere warm with outdoor activities over New Years? [more inside]
Smartphone reording apps for journalists?
What apps are used for recording quotes at press events? [more inside]
posted by werkzeuger at 11:03 AM PST - 5 comments
posted by werkzeuger at 11:03 AM PST - 5 comments
Quick latin translation.
So, wondering if any of you wonderful people out there could help with a tattoo I'd like.. Could you give me a translation for "hold my avocado" in latin?
posted by faustian slip at 10:56 AM PST - 10 comments
posted by faustian slip at 10:56 AM PST - 10 comments
I dream of wool leggings...
Do these wool leggings exist? I want ones that are any of these things: a) are fuzzy like terry-loop socks on the inside, b) contain elastane or spandex so they don't get baggy by the end of the day, or c) are high-waisted or cut more generously in the seat so they don't slide down when bending over. [more inside]
Supplies for making costumes and their accessories for a five year old
My 5-year-old nephew is really into making costumes right now. In particular, he enjoys making all the accoutrements: for a recent knight costume, he had a lot of fun making the sword, shield, and helmet. I’d like to give him raw materials that will be helpful to him as supplies for this sort of thing. My sister already has plenty of construction paper, cardboard, tinfoil and tape. What other supplies would make for great materials for helping his imagination flow?
Who do I hire to scan and organize my paperwork?
I have to prepare a large number of financial documents in a short amount of time. Who can I hire to help me with the legwork in a timely basis? [more inside]
Tasty but moderate-effort holiday dinner for a small crowd?
I'm hosting a Christmas Eve open house where anywhere from 5-25 people might show up over the course of the day. I've got drinks and snacky food covered, but I like to make real dinner, too. Doing the cooking makes me happy, but I don't want to spend ALL my energy on it. What can I make that's tasty, kinda special, suitable for serving ~8-10 people, and not too labor-intensive? (Prime rib + a couple key sides worked well last year.)
Will you help us with baby boy names? At an impasse!
Hi there, my husband and I are expecting our first child, and it’s a boy. We are on two completely different pages regarding names and we could use some outside help! [more inside]
posted by FireFountain at 10:31 AM PST - 131 comments
posted by FireFountain at 10:31 AM PST - 131 comments
Does a rainbow exist?
You'll often see/hear someone saying "Did you see the rainbow?" Or "Oh yeah I saw that same rainbow". But did they? [more inside]
posted by humboldt32 at 10:07 AM PST - 14 comments
posted by humboldt32 at 10:07 AM PST - 14 comments
Working with distractions
tl;dr I am expected to do exacting work. I have distractions and I'm not the kind of person who can "tune things out." [more inside]
posted by Rumi'sLeftSock at 10:05 AM PST - 12 comments
posted by Rumi'sLeftSock at 10:05 AM PST - 12 comments
Makeup for a lady of a certain age
So I am approaching my 67th birthday (just two weeks away!), and I have decided that it's time to start wearing makeup -- but very minimally. I could use some guidance! [more inside]
Insurance claim denied - any options besides a lawyer?
AFLAC has denied a claim on my cancer insurance. I appealed and just got another denial letter. It's $300, so not enough to be worth hiring a lawyer over, but I'd like to know if I have any other options. [more inside]
Toddler language development - sample sentences
I have limited experience but my toddler seems to have advanced language skills. Sample sentences ahead. Not going to do anything different about it but just curious. [more inside]
posted by St. Peepsburg at 8:20 AM PST - 12 comments
posted by St. Peepsburg at 8:20 AM PST - 12 comments
2018 Music Challenge
In the style of Book Riot's annual Read Harder challenge, I want to listen to 52 albums next year, 1 per week. I am looking for ideas for categories. I found this, which is a good start, but I need 21 more. Help. [more inside]
posted by Fig at 8:09 AM PST - 10 comments
posted by Fig at 8:09 AM PST - 10 comments
Toomey Bots
Senator Toomey regularly tweets about his tax bill. Generally the tweets get very few likes but in the past few days he's been getting maybe ten times as many likes. I suspect bots are responsible. How do I go about checking this theory? [more inside]
Good MA/southern NH doctor for managing psych medications?
Asking for a friend with a bipolar II diagnosis. My friend already has a therapist but needs someone to prescribe and manage medication. This could be anyone between Woburn MA and Nashua NH or that general area. Preferably someone empathetic and kind with a good understanding of individual differences and medication reactions. Thank you in advance!
Visiting LA in December
Ok, here goes: Hello, I am staying in Oakwood LA for a week with my family and need suggestions for cool things to do.
[posting for a friend] [more inside]
How to make DIY tonic less bitter?
For Xmas presents, I made a batch of tonic syrup from this website, but it has turned out unbearably bitter. How best to save it? [more inside]
posted by runincircles at 3:43 AM PST - 12 comments
posted by runincircles at 3:43 AM PST - 12 comments
Please explain voter ID to this non-American like I'm a 12 year old
After discovering Metafilter a few years ago I became increasingly interested in American social issues but there is still a lot of pretty basic stuff I do not fully understand. I have been watching a lot of liberal YouTube channels and political comedy and I recently came across one showing Bill O'R getting corrected live by his guests and it was very satisfying. [more inside]
posted by M. at 2:04 AM PST - 50 comments
posted by M. at 2:04 AM PST - 50 comments
December 15
My life dream is to be in a musical. Help, please?
Okay, ONE of my life dreams is to be in a musical. How can I make this happen and does anyone here have any experience with amateur musicals? [more inside]
posted by LoonyLovegood at 11:11 PM PST - 9 comments
posted by LoonyLovegood at 11:11 PM PST - 9 comments
Gender-gap salary correction -- I should be happy, but I feel worse
I started a new job as a senior software engineer early this year. My company did an annual review of salaries to correct for significant gender disparities. I was identified as one of a small handful of female employees whose salary was significantly below market rate, and got an automatic 25% bump. Yay! But now I'm slighted that I was lowballed by the hiring manager to begin with, and that my current manager knew for a year that my salary was low but didn't take any action to correct it until HR did. [more inside]
How do I ask for raise at my nonprofit when we're broke?
Not only do I want a raise and promotion at my nonprofit that is struggling financially, I know the money can ostensibly come from some bloat that we have with dead-weight colleagues. But how to make this case without throwing people under the bus? [more inside]
Therapists in the Bay Area
I want to get back into therapy but I don't know where to look geographically due to my weird commuting situation. Do you know of any spectacular therapists who take Cigna and are in the SF Bay area? [more inside]
I'm allergic to stuff. What natural lotion/oil/foundation should I try?
I'm allergic to new stuff (did the North American 80 patch test) and my previous lotions and foundation are no longer working. Please help me find face and body lotion and foundation that meet my criteria and don't make my skin want to part ways with my body! [more inside]
posted by limeonaire at 9:21 PM PST - 27 comments
posted by limeonaire at 9:21 PM PST - 27 comments
Help me battle the blues on New Year's Eve
I'll be alone in Seattle on New Year's Eve, which also happens to be my birthday. It's a tough time of year for me and I'm sad that I don't have friends around to celebrate with. I'd love some ideas of ways I could spend the day that would be fun and not depressing. [more inside]
What are the absolute best every day socks available in the UK?
For certain specific values of "best"...
The Good Lady Researcher Her Indoors, being disgustingly kind hearted and wholesome, does not want proper/expensive presents this year for Christmas, preferring to solicit donations to a charity she's volunteering with over the festive period.
Obviously I will be sending a hefty donation to said charity, but I'd also like to get her something small to unwrap (I've checked with her that this is OK and in line with her general thinking). She mentioned the other day that she was short of "nice" socks, so socks it is. [more inside]
Plz recommend a device to read Kindle books and fanfic on for hours!
What device would be best for reading Kindle books, and fanfic sites? I read for hours every day and I feel like my Android is too small; I get headaches and neck pain from squinting at it. (I do use a blue light filter.) [more inside]
posted by ShadePlant at 3:36 PM PST - 23 comments
posted by ShadePlant at 3:36 PM PST - 23 comments
DOS or Apple II game from late 80's - Famous explorers?
One of those childhood tip of your tongue things. I remember playing a game that felt very Oregon Trail like, only it involved naval exploration. I think there was trading and you had to try to go around the Cape of Good Hope. And even that, I am not 100% sure that I am remembering correctly. Hope this is enough to jog someone else's memory, because I am totally blank on a possible name, and my Googling is useless with such scant detail.
posted by imabanana at 3:18 PM PST - 7 comments
posted by imabanana at 3:18 PM PST - 7 comments
Bavarian Secret Santa?
My Secret Santa giftee this year is especially tricky, but he especially likes: German heritage stuff (his family holds a yearly Oktoberfest), German food, and Baltimore sports. There is cool stuff that I've found (like a german meat and cheese sampler), but none of it fits the $30 limit. I live in NYC, so I also have access to stores in Manhattan or the outer boroughs. What could I get that might fit these interests? [more inside]
Transporting Eggnog??
So I'm making a batch of eggnog using this recipe and I'll need to transport it day of. The whipping thing makes me wonder if the consistency will be the same if I let it sit for some time and take it from point A to point B-- any insight or tips??
This Media Could Not Be Played
This dialogue has begun showing up on videos in the last week. I have tried stopping Privacy Badger and/or U-block Origin. I have updated Flash Player. What do you suppose is happening? I'm used to the one saying you have to watch this on youtube, but haven't ever seen this uninformative "this media" before.
posted by MovableBookLady at 12:57 PM PST - 11 comments
posted by MovableBookLady at 12:57 PM PST - 11 comments
Christmas in New Orleans
Help this out-of-towner and complete naif survive Christmas in New Orleans. Priorities: getting around, eating on Christmas day itself. [more inside]
posted by Joey Buttafoucault at 12:50 PM PST - 5 comments
posted by Joey Buttafoucault at 12:50 PM PST - 5 comments
Because disabled people are not one-dimensional characters who never sin
So what's the deal with Girolamo in The Young Pope? Why isn't the actor credited? Is he a genuine disabled person or a nondisabled guy? Why don't we ever see his parents? Why do they need Voiello's babysitting services at night, and why at his apartment and not theirs? Why isn't the kid in bed--because Cardinals don't actually do physical care, am I right? Who was the other kid that Voiello yelled at and why was he there? [more inside]
How to prevent light-triggered migraines while driving?
I get photosensitive migraines with aura that are triggered by flashes of bright light such as reflections off of cars, and this occurs often when I'm driving during the day. I already wear polarized sunglasses (prescription). Is there anything else I can do that will help block the light or prevent the migraine? [more inside]
posted by Dilemma at 12:41 PM PST - 10 comments
posted by Dilemma at 12:41 PM PST - 10 comments
Best Gift for Daycare Staff?
I have a toddler in daycare and I want to get the teachers in her room a holiday gift but I'd like it to be something they actually want. If I just end up getting them a bunch of chocolates that's fine, but if someone has a better option that is also easy and not crazy expensive that'd be great! What are some good choices? [more inside]
PC and non-stigmatizing terminology vs. Google search SEO findability
I work in marketing at a nonprofit that focuses on addiction, and we constantly struggle with trying to change the conversation and stigma with terms that are outdated, like junkie, but also want folks who use the old terms to find us on Google searches. How do we compromise? [more inside]
Alt treatment for Adult ADD
I have been diagnosed and struggling with adult ADD- attention and focus.
I am not interested in medication, but I have been trying to mediate for 10mins a day.
What else might you recommend that I try? THANK YOU
Trader Joe's Snack Doppelgängers?
I loved these Trader Joe's fruit + nut discs, but they're no longer in stock. Many Trader Joe's products have real world doppelgängers; is there anything else like this on the market here in the States? I'm not looking for strips of fruit leather (my hands always get so sticky!). These little discs were perfectly portable and convenient!
posted by redsparkler at 10:15 AM PST - 19 comments
posted by redsparkler at 10:15 AM PST - 19 comments
How much does Bumble Boost cost, per your version of the app?
Everything I saw online said it cost $9.99/month, but when I checked the price in my app, it said $24.99/month! That's insane. Is this some kind of regional/demographic "tax" or is this what it costs for everyone? Bonus Q: Any women tried paying for Bumble and can share their experience? [more inside]
Help me rid myself of unwanted insects during my move
We're moving yay! Part of that reason is we've been dealing with a roach issue for over a month and have had enough. I'm looking for a plan of action to ensure they don't follow us, and was hoping for both a once over of our current thoughts, as well as seeing what, if anything, we've missed. [more inside]
posted by Carillon at 9:44 AM PST - 7 comments
posted by Carillon at 9:44 AM PST - 7 comments
Settings, apps, and rules for safely sharing iPad with kids
Just bought an iPad. I will use it for work, but I will also share it with my 5 year old. He uses his parents' iPhones regularly for games. (He used to watch a lot of youTube, but we ended that.) What settings, apps, and rules do you use to keep your kids and your iPads safe?
Need Help Navigating Friendship Difficulties
The closest friends I've had in my life have always fallen into a similar pattern. They're direct and honest people, and that's what attracts me to them, but on occasion that bluntness will be directed toward me and I have a really hard time getting past it. [more inside]
Billy's Bad Day and other existential crises
I have a very specific visceral reaction to "sad" children's books (and sometimes other media like television shows or movies). Is this something I should be investigating further? [more inside]
posted by obtuser at 9:29 AM PST - 9 comments
posted by obtuser at 9:29 AM PST - 9 comments
Excellence in necktie storage
I want to give my spouse the World's Greatest tie rack this year. The specifics of the tie collection in question are inside but don't feel limited by them in your suggestions. I want to see all the coolest, most beautiful, most functional necktie storage solutions available! [more inside]
VERY Specific K-Beauty Hand Cream Sought
Any ideas where I can find one of the Etude House Missing U Hand Creams at a brick-and-mortar store in NYC? [more inside]
posted by EmpressCallipygos at 9:25 AM PST - 6 comments
posted by EmpressCallipygos at 9:25 AM PST - 6 comments
6 year old girl with ADHD and a lopsided WISC-IV - now what?
She just got assessed and the psychologist strongly urged me to seek treatment (behavioural and possibly meds) for ADHD for my 6 year old daughter. Her WISC-IV score ranged from 98th percentile to 48th, and averaged out at 122, but the psychologist said it was all over the place and may change with treatment or improvement to her concentration and procession speed. She also has mild dyslexia. [more inside]
that's ms. omarosa to you, donald
Why does the media refer to Omarosa Manigault Newman by first name only? Even if that were her preference, it is inconsistent with media treatment of other fired White House staffers (and not AP style).
posted by headnsouth at 8:31 AM PST - 10 comments
posted by headnsouth at 8:31 AM PST - 10 comments
Buying and stringing vintage beads
Lately I've been wearing long colorful strings of vintage beads as my go-to work accessories, and I was excited by the variety available on Etsy. However, some purchases have not been good ones, as the necklaces have been strung on flimsy thread or thin nylon and the last two necklaces I bought have literally broken within hours on the first wearing. I'd still like to acquire beads, but now I have questions. (newbie jewellery questions follow.) [more inside]
posted by frumiousb at 8:11 AM PST - 8 comments
posted by frumiousb at 8:11 AM PST - 8 comments
Sources for miniature sculptures of landscapes?
Years ago my husband and I were someplace (a museum, maybe) where we learned that it was common for Chinese scholars to keep small sculptures of landscapes (perhaps carved from jade) on their desks to inspire them. Now I'd like to buy one. [more inside]
posted by CiaoMela at 7:55 AM PST - 4 comments
posted by CiaoMela at 7:55 AM PST - 4 comments
Help me buy a gift! Pittsburgh edition.
My almost 30-year old brother moved to Pittsburgh this year (maybe last year - can't remember.) He'll be with me for Christmas, and I'd like to get him a gift certificate to something local to him, in the $50 range. [more inside]
posted by lyssabee at 7:47 AM PST - 11 comments
posted by lyssabee at 7:47 AM PST - 11 comments
Trying to find an Apples to Apples Expansion Pack
My family has a gift swap coming up, and after a lot of thought, I finally decided that I want to get an expansion pack for Apples to Apples. Most family members own the game, so it would suit almost everyone, and it would be so fun to play with new cards in the mix. However, now that my heart is set on it, I can't find it for a reasonable price! I live in Canada, and Amazon.ca only has them for resale at $90, which won't do. Ebay has some options, but shipping from the US or UK costs more than the game itself. I'd want to spend $30 at most. I'm willing to buy online or in person, and I'd be shopping in London, Ontario. [more inside]
Novel me up!
Looking for graphic novel suggestions for nearly-21-year-old son for Christmas. [more inside]
Quotes about agnosticism/atheism by way of science and nature
Looking for quotes, lines of poetry, paragraphs, etc. about agnosticism/atheism along the lines of Douglas Adams' "Isn't it enough to see that a garden is beautiful without having to believe that there are fairies at the bottom of it too?" and Dana Scully's "Nothing happens in contradiction to nature, only in contradiction to what we know of it." [more inside]
How can I increase my sense of autonomy while living with parents?
I'm 26. I've never left home and I might not be able to for a while. What are some things I can do to feel more independent? [more inside]
My dog killed a rabbit; what keeps her from killing our cat?
Our 30 pound Australian cattledog/Boston terrier mix Tilly has shown a fondness for hunting moles and even birds; last night she cornered a rabbit and broke its neck. She’s been playful but not aggressive with our cat and the neighbor’s cats (all indoor cats) when she stays overnight at their house. We are mildly worried that she might kill a pet, since she likes to hunt things and her targets seem to be getting bigger. What’s keeping her from killing a cat?
posted by deliriouscool at 6:43 AM PST - 10 comments
posted by deliriouscool at 6:43 AM PST - 10 comments
Best way to do Universal Studios Orlando in one day?
We're going to Universal Studios in Orlando but only for one day. We have tickets for both parks, but are not planning to spring for the line-skipping passes (money is tight). It will be on a non-"seasonal" day, not expected to be peak attendance, so we're hoping that won't be too big a deal - 45 mins at worst? What is the best way to navigate both parks so we can get the most out of our day? We are two adults and a 9 year old boy, none of us likes big coasters. [more inside]
Things That Were Demonstrated
You know how in the old days people would demonstrate their new inventions or technologies (like Galvani "reanimating" dead frogs or Edison's electricity experiments )? For poetry research, I want to find out other things that were famously demonstrated. I think I am set with ones related to electricity, but anything else would be awesome.
New or obscure mystery novels set outside the U.S. and UK
Hi, I'm finishing up shopping for my wife and I'd like to get her a really good mystery novel. That's the type of book she seems to enjoy reading most. In the past, she's particularly enjoyed novels set outside of the U.S. and UK (tons of Scandinavian stuff, but also books set in many other countries), but she's read so many of them that I'm having trouble finding something for her this year. So, can you suggest something that is obscure or new?
Like Metafilter for Instagram -- Seeking Niche Social Media Feeds
Simply asking the hivemind to share any standout niche social media accounts (Current preference to Instagram) that provide well curated content. Realms accepted: ALL++ arts, diy, natural history, craft production, science, mindfulness, intersectional feminism, critical theory, funny stuff, construction, yoyos, jump rope, annnnnd the list goes on and on.
Similar to this askme about Artsy Beautiful Interesting Facebook Pages to Follow
Please give me ideas for a good Secret Santa gift for a vegan?
My secret Santa recipient at work is a vegan and I'm thinking I'll give them some good spices and other things for a gift. What would you recommend? I'm in Brisbane, Australia.
What is the best way to read James Joyce's Finnegan's Wake?
What is the best way to read James Joyce's Finnegan's Wake? [more inside]
Please share your knowledge on cryptocurrencies
I want to get into trading cryptocurrency in a small hobbyish way. I'm looking for your recommendations on what to read, who to follow on twitter, advice on good currency exchanges, storage options, and anything else you think my help me get up to speed.
Everyday formulae
I'm reading that chapter in Daniel Kahneman's 'Thinking, Fast and Slow' about the surprising accuracy of equally weighted formulas. Looking for more examples. [more inside]
December 14
Gift ideas for soccer-crazed teen boys?
Looking for gift ideas for two pre-teen nephews who eat, sleep and breathe soccer... preferably under $20 each. [more inside]
posted by rogerrogerwhatsyourrvectorvicto at 10:48 PM PST - 11 comments
posted by rogerrogerwhatsyourrvectorvicto at 10:48 PM PST - 11 comments
Does this sofa exist outside of pinterest?
I saw a pic of the perfect full/queen sofabed on wheels. But google image search leads to pinterest and spammy websites. Where else can I look, in order to buy? Here's a pinned image
What font(s) does Craigslist use?
There seems to be at least two different ones - one sans serif, one serif. Is the sans serif arial? What's the serif font? I'm displaying it on Chrome, on Windows, if it matters. What font sizes does it typically render as?
posted by wym at 7:53 PM PST - 4 comments
posted by wym at 7:53 PM PST - 4 comments
Clever wine & literature pun here
Can you tell me the names of wineries in famous works of literature? [more inside]
Resources for copying Japanese line drawings or patterns.
A client gave me a gorgeous leather-bound blank book as a present. Oh, I love it! I already have a dandy drawing pencil, so I want to draw in this book, not journalize. [more inside]
Artificial rose garlands in Portland, OR?
Friend's wedding is coming up pretty quick and they want a few more garlands (~5 ft) for decoration. The original style they bought off Amazon is out of stock. There are others available there now, which might be the route they go -- but is there anywhere in the Portland metro area that would carry this kind of thing? We checked the big craft stores but everyone's in holiday stock mode.
Desperately Seeking URC-1160 (Sorry, Susan)
My Spectrum (formerly TWC) cable box works via RF with a particular remote that comes with it in some areas. Not mine. I've got the IR remote and need the other sort. Can't find it on Amazon or eBay... [more inside]
posted by yellowcandy at 4:23 PM PST - 5 comments
posted by yellowcandy at 4:23 PM PST - 5 comments
Help for a month without added sugar.
I’d like to try and go without added sugar for the month of January. I love all sweet things. If you’ve done this (or not), can you give me some guidance? [more inside]
posted by raztaj at 3:43 PM PST - 35 comments
posted by raztaj at 3:43 PM PST - 35 comments
Parenting a new puppy without buying all the things?
Mefites with puppy-raising experience, what’s the critical short-list of must-haves for parenting a new puppy? What can I skip buying as just consumerist clutter? What do I need on day 1 vs. can wait and see? [more inside]
posted by amaire at 3:21 PM PST - 20 comments
posted by amaire at 3:21 PM PST - 20 comments
replacing bottom of cabinet under kitchen sink due to water damage
How should I fix the bottom of a cabinet under the kitchen sink that's got water damage? [more inside]
posted by ljs30 at 3:20 PM PST - 6 comments
posted by ljs30 at 3:20 PM PST - 6 comments
Help my brain please
People with good project management/calendaring/planning skills: can you hope me? I need to move my parents from a large house to a small apartment and would like to create a calendar, start calling moving people, etc... [more inside]
posted by latkes at 1:38 PM PST - 9 comments
posted by latkes at 1:38 PM PST - 9 comments
Heated vest for cycling?
I'm a devoted year-round winter cyclist in Boston, and as it's getting colder, I'm evaluating my cycling options. Have any of you tried heated (battery powered) vests? [more inside]
Absurd Photoshop Website/Book
Looking for a website/book featuring a guy's photoshop creations, which included bizarre food, strange books, animals (Birds with hats?), maybe smut, presented in a slick, high-end style? The image manipulation was very well done. The project may have been called something like FOO Corp. or something? I believe it was just one fellow, it wasn't SA goons or Paperback Paradise. It probably was featured on the Blue, and I am very annoyed with myself for not being able to find it.
posted by Alvy Ampersand at 12:58 PM PST - 6 comments
posted by Alvy Ampersand at 12:58 PM PST - 6 comments
Firefox addon - discourage visits to twitter/reddit etc
I use an addon in Chrome to limit the time I can use Twitter, Reddit, etc (even metafilter , gasp) . I'd like something similar for Firefox. [more inside]
posted by southof40 at 12:47 PM PST - 4 comments
posted by southof40 at 12:47 PM PST - 4 comments
Prime rib to go, please.
My relative naivete with meat is on full display here. I am flummoxed on the best way to procure beef for Christmas dinner. [more inside]
posted by Everydayville at 12:41 PM PST - 10 comments
posted by Everydayville at 12:41 PM PST - 10 comments
Help Me Move: ADHD Version
I am leaving my apartment in a week. There is clutter everywhere. Complicating factors: ADHD (which means limited focus), no car, work deadlines, limited storage. Help me prioritise and/or figure out a method for keeping my sanity. [more inside]
posted by Bella Donna at 12:02 PM PST - 20 comments
posted by Bella Donna at 12:02 PM PST - 20 comments
NYC ACA signup
In NYC, need to sign up for ACA Insurance plan today. I’m out of spoons (tired, pain, anxious, ashamed). The library I was going to go to (thompkins square park branch) doesn’t have someone coming in today (when I called this morning at 11 they said the person would be in at 2, that person is unable to go in today). I’m locked out of the online portal. Who should I go see? [more inside]
posted by bilabial at 11:31 AM PST - 14 comments
posted by bilabial at 11:31 AM PST - 14 comments
Edinburgh on Christmas
My wife and I will be stopping over in Edinburgh for one day, which happens to be Christmas. We're excited to see the city, but we don't celebrate Christmas, and we're concerned that everything will be closed. Any suggestions of things to do, and practical concerns of which we should be aware? [more inside]
posted by taltalim at 11:13 AM PST - 10 comments
posted by taltalim at 11:13 AM PST - 10 comments
Help Me Create My Southwest Road Trip Itinerary!
I'm planning a road trip through the american southwest for the last week of March 2018. I would love some input in making my intinerary! Details inside. [more inside]
High maintenance?
Am I being too much in this dating situation, or is this as annoying as I think? [more inside]
Searching for an obscure MLK photo
Are you good at searching for historical images or searching Getty Images using non-obvious terms? I'm trying to find a high-quality copy of the photo on the left side of this image about Martin Luther King, which is just credited "Corbis.com" (and Getty bought Corbis). Here's another low-quality copy of it (my photo of the airport display where I first saw this photo, but I haven't found out yet who designed the display). Based on Bernice's apparent age here and her early-1963 birth, photo's date is probably 1966?
posted by kalapierson at 10:28 AM PST - 3 comments
posted by kalapierson at 10:28 AM PST - 3 comments
Why do I start to feel sick when I read medical information?
I am interested in learning more about a couple of medical conditions that I may have, but I keep getting light-headed and feeling a bit sick or nauseated when I read about them; I have to stop reading. Can anything be done to reduce the effect? [more inside]
posted by circular at 9:55 AM PST - 11 comments
posted by circular at 9:55 AM PST - 11 comments
Marriage and Family Therapy and/or Nursing or Massagy Therapy advice
Needing help...! Single mom here. 6 months away from graduating with my masters in marriage and family therapy, thought that I would be done with school forever after that but suddenly I'm getting this restless feeling that this may not be enough! [more inside]
posted by livelikegold6 at 9:45 AM PST - 21 comments
posted by livelikegold6 at 9:45 AM PST - 21 comments
New 1099 Consultant and writing off for taxes in the current year?
New 1099 employee, and cannot figure out if it matters that it will be less than a month when I try to write off expenses for 2017 [More Inside] [more inside]
posted by niteHawk at 8:30 AM PST - 8 comments
posted by niteHawk at 8:30 AM PST - 8 comments
So much lint on my wool coat!
I have a lovely new black wool coat. It has a very soft hand and consequently takes souvenirs in the form of lint from just about every other fabric it encounters. It's driving me nuts. [more inside]
Broken Arm, PED-MVA, irritated by well-meaning 'lawyer up' advice
I was hit in as a pedestrian in a crosswalk recently by an (apparently!) inattentive driver. Online or in person, about 30% of the well-intended remarks by people whi hear this news either congratulate me on an aticipated settlement or advise me to get a lawyer.
My medical insurance is excellent, and I do not expect to pay a penny. I hate lawyers and while I understand they are needed in certain situations, can't see how this is one. I'm not missing work or permanently disabled, and feel more anger at this set of well-intended advice interactions than the driver.
What the hell? Do rhey live in a different culture than me? How can I get them to shut the fuck up? Additionally, are they right? Like, a million bucks is worth two days hanging out with lawyers. Five grand ain't.
How to improve gender balance at outreach activity for children
My colleague is running a computer science outreach event at a science fair. Any tips on how to increase participation amongst girls? [more inside]
Looking for mysteries involving the stuff found on mountains
I'm looking for mysteries that AREN'T murders that involve stuff found on, are a part of or even involve the whole mountain itself. Like "okay that's random. What's THAT doing on this mountain?" "No idea." Or "why did THAT form that way? No? No idea either? Okay." Ideally still unsolved.
Qutting smoking
How did you quit smoking cigarettes successfully, and for good? [more inside]
Why are people using me as their Gmail recovery address?
Several times a week for the past few months, people have created Gmail accounts and chosen my Gmail as their recovery address. I then get security alert emails that someone is trying to log into their account, as well as password reset emails.
Is this some sort of attack vector for breaking into my account? I unlink the accounts when possible, but there doesn't seem to be a way to see all linked accounts for my Gmail.
posted by krunk at 5:53 AM PST - 8 comments
posted by krunk at 5:53 AM PST - 8 comments
YANourD, Workplace Air Quality (?) Edition
Two weeks ago my boss started feeling nauseous while in our shared office, but the symptoms would let up when she went outside. Two days ago, a number of people (me included) started feeling weird, and today it got really bad. Someone is coming in to test the air tomorrow, ops is putting workstations for some of us in a different room, and HR told me to go to Urgent Care if I start feeling sick again. What's going on? [more inside]
Help me devise a recipe for sugar free marzipan
I have ground almonds, almond flour and almond essence. I do not want to use any sweeteners. Any suggestions? [more inside]
posted by Heloise9 at 12:01 AM PST - 16 comments
posted by Heloise9 at 12:01 AM PST - 16 comments
December 13
Internet Service in Manhattan, or, Ethical Consumption under Capitalism?
I just moved to a new apartment in Manhattan and, like many other normal human beans in this city, I would like to set up internet service. But, a moral question has me stalled on which ISP to pick! Special snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by =d.b= at 8:30 PM PST - 13 comments
posted by =d.b= at 8:30 PM PST - 13 comments
Oculus Rift with a low-spec graphics card
So our office has won a brand new Oculus Rift. Unfortunately, the best graphics card we have isn’t on the list of minimum requirements. What we have a is a GeForce GTX 960A.
All we really want to do is watch safe-for-work VR movies or apps, play around with this thing and see what all the fuss is about. We can spend a little money on software if that’ll help, but we can’t upgrade the computers we have, nor can we donate, sell, or take home the Oculus. [more inside]
Examples of movies (or tv shows) that deconstruct a genre
Last night while watching Logan for the first time I reflected that it reminded me of other movies that subverted and deconstructed the genre they ostensibly belong do, such as Chinatown, Frozen, Scream, and Unforgiven. This sort of thing really appeals to me, particularly if the deconstruction is cynical or fatalistic, or you get the sense in the end that watching any other movie from "genre X" is a waste of time until the genre is reinvented. Got any other examples? (vague and minor spoilers for Logan inside) [more inside]
iOS bluetooth podcast audio tech support question
Sometimes when I press the play button on my bluetooth headphones, my iPhone launches iTunes and plays random music at me, and that is not what I want! [more inside]
posted by chrchr at 4:37 PM PST - 7 comments
posted by chrchr at 4:37 PM PST - 7 comments
Looking for a mental health counselor that takes Medicaid insurance
Finding a therapist is already a challenge. But fortunately, I have done pretty well with the search function on Psychology today in the past. In the past, I worked with therapists that helped me reframe an issue and get to action.
However, it seems like no one takes Maryland Medicaid. I did find two, and they were really bad. I actually felt worst and more frustrated after seeing them. They seemed not to listen.
I lost my job, and I think to go to counseling could really help with the ups and down. I want to give up in finding a counselor, it is so hard, and even my primary dr is no help. It would be AMAZING if anyone has a recommendation for a therapist that takes Maryland Medicaid. I like CBT and mindfulness modalities. thanks so much
How do I regain control when I feel like my body is failing me?
I am 11 weeks pregnant and I feel like absolute shit. I need to deal with the nausea and exhaustion without loosing my fucking mind because I am close. [more inside]
posted by pintapicasso at 3:50 PM PST - 33 comments
posted by pintapicasso at 3:50 PM PST - 33 comments
How to extract just the cereal?
Best practices for separating the remaining cereal from the dust that collects at the bottom of the bag? [more inside]
posted by Rash at 3:46 PM PST - 17 comments
posted by Rash at 3:46 PM PST - 17 comments
Metal detector for a 9-year-old
My kid wants a metal detector for Christmas. The prices range widely. Does anyone with greater familiarity with this have some suggestions? [more inside]
ELI5 Credit Card Interest
Please explain credit card interest to me like I am five years old. [more inside]
posted by turtlefu at 2:59 PM PST - 13 comments
posted by turtlefu at 2:59 PM PST - 13 comments
Best *soft* insoles?
I need some soft insoles to put in my ice skates, because the bottoms of my feet are killing me when I skate. I've tried "sport gel" and I've tried Superfeet's skate-specific model, but neither of those actually feel soft underfoot and they're not helping. Recommendations? [more inside]
Online options for buying nightguards
I'm in need of a new nightguard after chewing through my old one and rather than paying my dentist's exorbitant price again, I was wondering if anyone has had success with one of those online companies that make it for you. Would love some recommendations if you have. Thanks!
Space Heater Recommendation?
I'm fortunate enough to work from home these days, but my home office is not terribly warm and, since I'm in an old apartment building, I don't have access to the heat controls myself. I'm looking for recommendations for a good space heater to heat a room that's about 110ft square with 9ish-foot ceilings. [more inside]
posted by juliebug at 1:03 PM PST - 26 comments
posted by juliebug at 1:03 PM PST - 26 comments
How can I find a nurse to deliver an injection around Santa Monica?
Several months ago I started taking a delayed release psychiatric medication that's delivered via an injection every 4 weeks. The first several injections were arranged by the facilities I was in at the time; then I was in New Orleans for three months, where I had a fairly easy time arranging to receive them at a community clinic. Now I'm back in Santa Monica, CA, and not having such an easy time finding a means for this. Where should I turn? [more inside]
Building Ident: What/Where is this building?
I would like to know the name, location, and purpose of this building (and whether it is extant).
I acquired this photo in a large set. Most of the photos were from the Toledo, Ohio area, but I have no indication whether this is true for this particular photo or not.
I would love a contemporary photo of this building in exchange for bonus internet points.
This seems like a long shot, but you guys have done more with less. I scanned this photo myself. The back has no additional information.
posted by cjorgensen at 11:59 AM PST - 5 comments
posted by cjorgensen at 11:59 AM PST - 5 comments
Being pregnant while fat
In this, my second pregnancy, I am starting off about 40 pounds heavier than I was with my first. I have questions. [more inside]
Where should I ride my bike next?
I'm looking for a new long-distance organized group ride in 2018. I've enjoyed both RAGBRAI in Iowa and The Bon Ton Roulet in the Finger Lakes, but I'm interested in other destinations. Can you recommend another tour? [more inside]
posted by sixpack at 10:44 AM PST - 13 comments
posted by sixpack at 10:44 AM PST - 13 comments
Public librarian seeks statistics input
What information and statistical tests do I use to find out if moving biographies to their own special display actually increased their popularity? I want to take a rigorous approach that includes confidence levels. [more inside]
posted by Nissake at 10:25 AM PST - 13 comments
posted by Nissake at 10:25 AM PST - 13 comments
Police probably lost accident report after an accident
A friend of mine was in an accident last week, and it was bad enough that he was taken away in an ambulance and his car was totaled. The police arrived on scene and supposedly took down the report, but the police have been "searching" for the report since then. What's their next step here? [more inside]
Loose Oven Insulation
Yesterday I turned on my wall oven, and a bunch of fuzzy stuff started blowing out from the underside. There's a sort of vent on the bottom there and when I got down on the floor and peered inside I found a big chunk of loose insulation material. Googling this leads to many results about mice or rat infestations. I have no idea how to proceed. [more inside]
posted by galvanized unicorn at 10:00 AM PST - 5 comments
posted by galvanized unicorn at 10:00 AM PST - 5 comments
"He's a great guy." "Yeah...he is."
In "romantic" movies, or even in regular movies, there is often the trope of Person A, telling Person B, that Person C is, "a great guy." A pause ensues, with Person B saying, warmly, something like "You know what? He really is." I am looking for examples of this type of formulation in any kind of movie. [more inside]
Awesome team outing in NYC?
I’m looking for a good day-long winter outing for my small team of Creatives in NYC. We’re all fairly adventurous, but we can’t choose anything too physical, as one of us has a heart condition. So... things like an Escape the Room are out. [more inside]
The Hidden City
I'm looking for books about hidden Philadelphia - what would you recommend? [more inside]
Fair way of dividing assets / drawing straws
I need to divide estate assets between 3 siblings who will not agree on anything. [more inside]
Comfortable Mens Business Casual Shoe
I have worn this type of Rockport shoe for the last 20 years to work. I usually get a new pair every year or so. While they are reasonably comfortable I notice when I switch to my Nike tennis shoes they are so much more comfortable. Help me find a pair of shoes that will:
1. Be as comfortable or nearly as a tennis shoe.
2. Pass for business casual
3. Cost less than $100.00
Please help me identify a plant.
Does anyone know what this plant is? My husband is moving to a new office building soon, and plants will not be allowed there, for some reason. He asked me if he could bring this plant home. We have a kitty, though, so I want to identify the plant first and check whether it is toxic to cats. H does not know what plant this is, and neither do I. [more inside]
Job search panic
I've been looking for a job since July. My unemployment is going to run out at the end of January, and my savings won't last much longer than that. I am living as frugally as reasonably as I can but I am panicking. With my qualifications, I thought I'd have a job by now. What am I doing wrong? [more inside]
What is your album of the year and why? (Song of the year ok also.)
It's about the end of 2017, mefites, and I have not kept up with all things musical. I am out of music. I need recommendations. [more inside]
Shaped Crochet Hood
I'm making this sweater but I don't like the pointy hood. Is it possible to add a more normal shaped hood to the sweater? [more inside]
posted by missmagenta at 7:18 AM PST - 7 comments
posted by missmagenta at 7:18 AM PST - 7 comments
Host/ess gifts to keep on hand?
I have friends who sometimes invite me to dinner with short notice. I don't like showing up empty-handed, but I don't always have time to pick up or make something. And anything I do pick up for the meal is likely to be a duplicate item - a second dessert, for example. [more inside]
posted by bunderful at 7:08 AM PST - 29 comments
posted by bunderful at 7:08 AM PST - 29 comments
Looking for a Bluetooth LE Peripheral device
A client wants me to prototype a game interaction with an external device using Bluetooth. I need a device to test the prototype with until they figure out what the actual device will be. [more inside]
posted by justkevin at 7:00 AM PST - 5 comments
posted by justkevin at 7:00 AM PST - 5 comments
Recommend me a durable Windows laptop
I already have a Mac laptop but need a sturdy, unglamorous Windows one too for work purposes. Anyone have any recommendations? [more inside]
What was the largest PBM RPG ever?
I've recently been looking into "Net Games", play-by-postcard games run in Japan in the 90s by a company called Youentai. At their peak it seems they had around ten thousand players in a shared world. I was wondering if anything was bigger than this - I found reports that Saturnalia in the UK went up to around 3000 players, but nothing bigger. [more inside]
Love is Blind—And Rare?
In therapy I realized I have a core assumption that love and positive attention are very scarce resources. Love and attention aren't exactly analogous to money or market goods, but they are a finite resource in some sense. Reflecting on my past choices, I see social-emotional equivalents of investing in get rich quick schemes, taking a lousy job because it was better than unemployment, and being so stingy that I missed opportunities for growth—all stemming from the assumption of scarcity. How does one learn to identify and build relationships and environments where love and support are more abundant? [more inside]
December 12
Making hotelling/hotdesking work for you
What hacks have you developed to make reservation-less unassigned seating work for you in the workplace? I find the whole concept really unpleasant and unsettling. [more inside]
Living as a sex-less, conservative Christian in a very sexual world?
As a sex-less, conservative Christian, how do I cope with living in a very sexual world? [more inside]
What is meant by embodied cognition and what is its importance?
I've seen the word embodied cognition thrown around a lot like some kind of buzz word. Unfortunately, it doesn't seem to ever get clearly defined or when it does get defined it isn't clear why it is important. Clearly, our brain is in our body and things such as alcohol/drug consumption, energy levels, brain damage and the amount of adrenaline in our bodies affect how we think. So why do we have this fancy term? Is there more to this than meets the eye or is just a pretentious way of stating the obvious?
Owl crochet all the mittens
I've gotten pretty good at crocheting owl mittens. What are some other animal patterns in the same style I can make? [more inside]
posted by dorey_oh at 9:29 PM PST - 5 comments
posted by dorey_oh at 9:29 PM PST - 5 comments
How to get movie sound from Plex on Android box?
I installed Plex server on my PC with all my movies. I bought an Android box running Android 7.1.2 and bought/installed the Plex app on it. But of course something doesn't work right and I don't understand computers/codecs/Plex enough to google the right questions. [more inside]
Handwriting Tattoo Placement
After thinking about it for several years I've decided to finally get a memorial tattoo for my grandmother. I have her handwriting saying "I love you - Grandma" which I would like. However I am having trouble with placement ideas as well as if I should add a symbol with it because I feel weird about just text tattoos. [more inside]
posted by Malleable at 8:23 PM PST - 10 comments
posted by Malleable at 8:23 PM PST - 10 comments
I want to mail merge one thing at a time.
Is there a way to create a kind of "single use" mail merge in MS Word? [more inside]
posted by Snarl Furillo at 6:26 PM PST - 5 comments
posted by Snarl Furillo at 6:26 PM PST - 5 comments
Low Cost Ways of Diffusing Essential Oils in My Bedroom?
Looking for a method that would not involve buying an expensive nebulizer, burn my apartment down, harm my health or increase the humidity level. [more inside]
posted by whitelotus at 6:23 PM PST - 12 comments
posted by whitelotus at 6:23 PM PST - 12 comments
Gift ideas for a dad-to-be
I'm currently pregnant and I'd like to get my husband something for Christmas to celebrate becoming a dad. He's super enthusiastic about Project Baby, but he has almost no experience with actual babies. I think it would be nice to give him something that is either instructive (a book?) or some kind of baby gear he can look forward to using. I'm also pretty new to baby stuff, so I don't have the best sense of what would be helpful myself.
undercover subversive gifts for conservative family members
What are things I can buy my depressingly conservative family members for Christmas that might have the side effect of making them a teensy bit less depressingly conservative? [more inside]
What's the best music of the 21st century so far?
Please help me compile a list of songs that may help make sense (in a hopefully positive way) of this now 17 year old millennium. I'm not really concerned with genre or popularity (or lack thereof) or even critical acclaim. What sounds have you found indispensable so far in 21st Century -- Avalanches to Zero G, Major Lazer to MGMT?
posted by philip-random at 4:34 PM PST - 19 comments
posted by philip-random at 4:34 PM PST - 19 comments
People can't hear me when I'm on the phone
Hi. I have a prepaid LG-450 cellphone. It was working fine for a while, but has started acting up recently: I can hear people just fine, but they can't hear me. It's cramping my style, such as it is. I'm not very technologically savvy to put it mildly; suffice it to say that this is a very basic cellphone that I just use to make and receive calls – or try to, anyway. I have no idea why it's doing this, and it wasn't an issue with the previous prepaid cellphones I had. [more inside]
posted by DavidfromBA at 4:20 PM PST - 9 comments
posted by DavidfromBA at 4:20 PM PST - 9 comments
Diagrams of the Interior of the Mobile Launcher Platform?
Looking for books, websites or other resources that will offer visual reference for the interior of the NASA mobile launcher platform, before or after refurbishment. [more inside]
Help me have this discussion with my father
As a 20 year-old woman, the growing conversation about sexual harassment and emotional labor has influenced me deeply. Conversations on Metafilter have expanded my perspective over the past few years, from the emotional labor thread to the #MeToo movement to Cat Person. Today my dad posted a link on Facebook to an article characterizing the #MeToo movement as an overreaction, and said it was a "viewpoint that deserves to be heard." I want to try to convince him otherwise. [more inside]
Pre-pregnancy prep -- anything worth doing?
We're planning to try conceiving around the middle of next year, and I'm unsure about whether it would be a good idea to take prenatal vitamins now or do anything else in preparing my body besides the obvious stuff like don't smoke or do hard drugs, eat copious amounts of junk food, etc. [more inside]
Please help me identify this school play
I'm trying to remember an elementary school play, circa 1980. I’ve thought about it over the years and would love to locate any info on it. [more inside]
Easy VHS -> MacOS capture?
Hola ya'll,
I'm turning 34 soon which means that I am suddenly grasping for my youth. As part of that, I'm trying to get my Dad to digitize all of the old family VHS tapes. I know that it may already be too late , but figured we could at least give it a shot and that it'd a fun father/son thing to do.
To that end, I'm seeking the simplest VHS to MacOS capture tool. It looks like there are a lot of dodgy RCA -> USB plugs available on Amazon with a wide spread on the reviews. I'd be happy to pony up a little extra to get something that's a little more reliable, but I don't know what that is.
Best websites for R Studio / statistics help?
I am brute-forcing my way through learning R for a big project I am working on. I am looking for your recommendations for the best "R" advice websites I can troll (and possibly post in) for help. I'm familiar with Stack Overflow, but it seems intimidating for a n00bie like me. In your experience, what are good places to ask statistics (particularly around general linear modeling, nested effects, and regression) and R questions?
posted by absquatulate at 2:07 PM PST - 13 comments
posted by absquatulate at 2:07 PM PST - 13 comments
Using piping with *nix find without getting mired in string escaping...
I want to make a single, long list of lines from individual files according to some search criteria. I'm not wedded to using find and grep. [more inside]
Happy Adoption Day! Small ways to celebrate with just immediate family.
Sometime soon, our adoption of our baby girl will become final. We do not want a large celebration with a bunch of extended family or anything, but would like a little something for just my husband, son, baby girl and I. [more inside]
My old Chromebook wound up at Goodwill by mistake. What now?
Confusion while moving meant that an old Chromebook of mine that broke mid-use is now (probably irretrievably) donated to a thrift store. Though it was broken I am still a little concerned someone might be able to retrieve sensitive information off it. [more inside]
posted by hungrytiger at 12:52 PM PST - 3 comments
posted by hungrytiger at 12:52 PM PST - 3 comments
How much house to buy?
How should I choose between moving somewhere affordable and good for now but probably needing to move in 5-7 years, versus putting ourselves under financial stress to make something longer-term work out? [more inside]
Cheap and/or safe way to sell Bitcoins and transfer to GBP bank account?
Can anyone suggest a cheap and/or safe way to sell Bitcoins and transfer to British / GBP bank account?
Things seem to change so quickly in this area - Bitwala offer such a service, but the charges seem high.
Any suggestions gratefully received.
What are some tips on how to approach potential clients as a freelancer?
If you’re in a position to hire freelancers, what does and doesn’t work in an initial contact? [more inside]
Locking a specific month view for Squarespace calendar?
How can I lock the view of a calendar on Squarespace to a specific month? Currently, it will show only the current month, but I want to show only April 2018 to display a range of events happening that month only. [more inside]
Skipping family Christmas party because of verbal abuse
Should I skip my family's Christmas party this year or should I go and face my abuser? I have a very abusive uncle who also doesn’t get along with my parents so he has been verbally and emotionally abusive to my entire family for as long as I’ve known him. Everyone else in my family seems to know of his abusive nature but everyone just dismisses it as that’s who he is and no one has ever confronted him of his behavior because they do not want to become his next target. [more inside]
Please help me identify this artist
I'm looking to identify the artist who made this cow. [more inside]
posted by veggieboy at 10:26 AM PST - 6 comments
posted by veggieboy at 10:26 AM PST - 6 comments
How can I negotiate rent increase?
I need advice on what exactly will play a higher argument to my discussion on the rent situation. What other factors play a role in negotiating rent with a tenant? [more inside]
Death and finals
One of my closest friends took her own life last week. Right after it happened, it hadn't set in and I was still able to be somewhat productive. Now, it's finals week and I have no idea how I'm possibly going to be able to study for my test tomorrow. How long is too long to wallow? Should I be a
put things aside and do this or respect my desire to lie around and cry? More details inside. [more inside]
A query for Filter-Filter
What happens if you literally never clean a water filtration pitcher? A friend of mine, A, got tired of their roommate never chipping in for filter replacement, and tired of an ongoing room-temp-or-refrigerated water squabble, and abandoned use of the household 'shared' pitcher, obtaining their own. Said roommate took over sole possession of the old Brita, but has literally not cleaned it or replaced the filter since then. This was... jeez, maybe a year ago, maybe more. Is the roommate going to make himself ill? Is A morally obliged to stage a filter intervention? [more inside]
Baby you can(’t) drive my car
My car frequently won’t start in the morning...but only when my friend borrows it. What gives? [more inside]
Printmaker in search of a etching press
I'm a printmaker who prints everything by hand, but it's starting to cause problems. I'm looking for etching press suggestions! [more inside]
posted by sucre at 7:57 AM PST - 7 comments
posted by sucre at 7:57 AM PST - 7 comments
Is it worth it for this woman to freeze her eggs?
Is it a waste of money? [more inside]
Hello, Russia! My credit card number is…
Two of my computers have exhibited the same problem of mouse clicks not registering. Should I panic? [more inside]
posted by popcassady at 7:14 AM PST - 3 comments
posted by popcassady at 7:14 AM PST - 3 comments
What media/pop culture "easter eggs" are format-specific?
Tom Petty dropped a message to CD listeners in the middle of his Full Moon Fever record, which was not on his cassette or LP. An early-in-the-HDTV-days episode of My Name is Earl had a sign that was visible to people watching in 16:9 HD but not in 4:3 SD.
Do you know other pop culture easter eggs that are format-dependent? (Note: I am not looking for "this deleted scene is only available on the special-edition DVD;" instead I am curious about little additions that exploit the format itself.)
Winter Fun in Florida
My parents moved to Florida a few months ago and I'm going to visit them for a week at the end of the month. What are your favorite things to do/see/eat in the Sarasota area? [more inside]
Music from my Google Drive/Cloud to my Ipod without Itunes
Greetings...
This a semi-formal follow up to a question I asked a while back...
https://ask.metafilter.com/315688/Transferring-mp3-files-from-a-Mac-formatted-hard-drive-to-a-PC
This is where I am at now.
1. Began the dlow process of transferring my music to my Google Drive.
2. I have an Iphone 6plus which will now act as my ipod / music player.
3. I have a Google Chrome Book without Itunes.
4. In proper wi-fi environments, I have been able to stream music on my phone from my music stored in the cloud...
5. Where I live, it is very rare to find a spot with decent wifi coverage and therefore streaming music is not a big picture solution [more inside]
posted by TwilightKid at 6:20 AM PST - 5 comments
posted by TwilightKid at 6:20 AM PST - 5 comments
How to deal with a friend that I feel is being passive-aggressive?
My friend is ignoring me, for what seems like no real good reason, after some weirdness with my ex boyfriend. She's ignored me before, over a situation where she felt like I wasn't communicating enough with her- when my dad was literally dying, and I had actually made efforts to reach out.
We're supposed to be going away together - just the two of us - for new year and I'm considering telling her this can't happen. However, I always second guess myself and my feelings, and know I can be sensitive. Perhaps I care too much about this, and should keep her as a superficial friend if not a close one? I just feel personally (especially lately) like life is perhaps a little too short for this sort of stuff, which is causing me a lot of worry on top of an already mammoth amount of processing of difficult stuff from the last three years. [more inside]
posted by starstarstar at 5:03 AM PST - 28 comments
posted by starstarstar at 5:03 AM PST - 28 comments
MP3 Player Recommndation
Looking for a MP3 recommendation for my father (iPod Touch replacement) [more inside]
Philsophy of Science - retreading in science, what is it called?
Hello, I am looking for a word and/or papers about the notion of retreading already visited ground in the history of science. An example would be the flat Earth theory: through the scientific enterprise, the ancients knew the Earth was round, but for various reasons the idea of the flat Earth resurfaced in the middle ages, and was again debunked through scientific investigation. . . only to be revived more recently. [more inside]
posted by os tuberoes at 3:02 AM PST - 7 comments
posted by os tuberoes at 3:02 AM PST - 7 comments
Hey girl, we were victimized by the same creep...
Should I contact a stranger who was victimized by the same man as I was? Is it inappropriate or even pointless? [more inside]
Why do corporate apartment complexes change their prices so often?
I’m curious about how dynamic pricing in large, corporate-owned apartment complexes works, particularly in hot rental markets. Why do the prices change so quickly and so frequently? [more inside]
posted by invisible ink at 1:15 AM PST - 4 comments
posted by invisible ink at 1:15 AM PST - 4 comments
December 11
Healing from financial betrayal
So I'm not sure what to call it exactly. Maybe financial betrayal is the wrong term. My spouse spent a long time unemployed, not actively looking, despite being treated for depression, and it's made money a bigger deal than I would like. I want to be supportive but find myself resentful. Help me find my balance here. [more inside]
posted by crunchy potato at 11:45 PM PST - 47 comments
posted by crunchy potato at 11:45 PM PST - 47 comments
Restaurant options for vegetarians withing 30 minutes of St. Augustine?
Two vegetarians and two non-vegetarians will be in St. Augustine, Florida, in late December. The non-vegetarians (parents) want a really good meal for the holidays, and they want the vegetarians to have a nice time with them. Where can they eat without driving an hour to Jacksonville? [more inside]
posted by amtho at 10:58 PM PST - 5 comments
posted by amtho at 10:58 PM PST - 5 comments
They can't do X, let alone Y!
I've always known the sentence structure of "they can't do X, let alone Y" to have X be the more general or smallest-step version of Y - for instance, "they can't even afford 1 book let alone buy the whole library!" or "they can't even tolerate the weakest beer, how can they tolerate moonshine". However, I sometimes see people swap X and Y around to the point that it bugs me. Am I wrong?
What's the name of this?? Plastic toy finger net, pulls tight when...
...you try to pull it off your finger. So it's a plastic tubular net thingy, that you can put on your finger, but then when you pull to get it off it kind of closes tightly around your finger (because of the way it's woven, I think). Can give a bit of a panicky feeling and it's a surprising effect. [more inside]
posted by Mariemma at 9:47 PM PST - 12 comments
posted by Mariemma at 9:47 PM PST - 12 comments
ISS Solar Transit
It looks like ISS will transit the sun in Tuscaloosa, AL (33.206667, -87.534722) on Wednesday Dec. 13. The three tools that I've looked at show slightly different ideal locations and times for the transit. Who should I believe:
is there a student loan consultant who is not a scammer?
Due to the president’s lovely tax bill, I’m now worried sick about my student loan repayment strategy. I discussed things in detail with a fee only financial planner a few years ago, but he wasn’t very familiar with the ins and outs of huge student loans. I now feel like I need the advice of a real expert, and I’m willing to pay $$$ but I don’t want to get ripped off and/or be told things that I already know because I read the fedloan website
posted by genmonster at 7:42 PM PST - 10 comments
posted by genmonster at 7:42 PM PST - 10 comments
Get my jam to the States
I made some jam. I want to get said jam to the States. [more inside]
posted by Start with Dessert at 7:33 PM PST - 3 comments
posted by Start with Dessert at 7:33 PM PST - 3 comments
Forensic science course for young teen?
Can you recommend a forensic science course for a young teen? [more inside]
How to get objective advice from a consultant?
I'll be having an initial conversation with someone who is an expert in their field who recently started their own consulting company to offer related support services in that field. I'm wondering if there any way to structure the compensation or incentives for their time and insights so that I can be sure I'm getting unbiased advice? I'd like to avoid getting advice that basically amounts to the idea that I should just keep hiring him over and over again. Thanks!
Simple walking game apps for Android?
I walk a lot, including to and from work, and I want to gamify it. I'm looking for something pretty basic that will track how far I go, and allow me to unlock achievements or goals as I reach certain milestones. [more inside]
LAX Meet-up: Is this doable?
I'm arriving at LAX on Sunday at Terminal 3. My partner is departing LAX on Sunday from Terminal 4. (About 3 hours later)
We want to meet for drinks or dinner at the airport before he leaves Sunday. Is this doable? [more inside]
posted by Space Kitty at 4:27 PM PST - 7 comments
posted by Space Kitty at 4:27 PM PST - 7 comments
Best practices for food bank/charity donations and volunteering?
Obviously things vary by location and organization: YANMLFBA (you are not my local food bank administrator). But it's mid-December, and here in the US I'm probably not the only person thinking about donations, volunteering etc. I figure there are probably MeFites who know things that will help people who want to be helpful. [more inside]
posted by mrmurbles at 3:23 PM PST - 9 comments
posted by mrmurbles at 3:23 PM PST - 9 comments
It's a slow place in Chrome for the holidays
I typically work with 5-10 tabs open in Chrome. (Yes, I really do need them all.) Over the past couple weeks, new pages in tabs have become ridiculously slow to load. Often, pages won't load at all unless I'm on that tab, staring at the blank screen. The background color from the previous tab I looked at carries over to the new tab until the new page loads. Because of the nature of my work, I'm losing money from this. Help? [more inside]
Negotiations with bullies and other unreasonable people
Are there any effective negotiation tactics when dealing with people who refuse to compromise or explain unreasonable demands, bully and threaten, deny facts, and other similar methods? If I can avoid those kinds of people I do, but it's not always possible (professional contexts, not personal relationships).
life is de bubbles
What's the latheriest, sudsiest, most overwhelmingly foamy shower gel/soap product that Lush sells? (Not interested in bath bomb/etc products.)
Turn left here, kids
What are some books -- fiction or nonfiction -- that will help very privileged kiddos develop a sense of empathy for and obligation to other people? [more inside]
posted by goodbyewaffles at 12:33 PM PST - 37 comments
posted by goodbyewaffles at 12:33 PM PST - 37 comments
When in Rome play like the Romans.
My friend is an experienced guitar (and piano) player who had a great experience once when he visited São Paulo. When he was there he found a professional piano player to give him a couple of private lessons in bossa nove. (He started on piano, and then brought his guitar to another lesson.) He learned a lot! Now he’s going to Rome with his guitar. [more inside]
Best gluten-free bagels in NYC
Looking for your picks for gluten-free bagels in New York City. Thanks!
Help Me Not Blow Myself Up With Sewer Gas
I'm trying to get a plumber, but no one is calling me back with an appointment any sooner than next week. Meanwhile, sewer gas is escaping from the toilet I tried to reinstall. What can I do in the meantime to lower my chance of doom? (or if I'm not doomed, reassurance greatly welcome!) [more inside]
yoga nidra via google home
I have a Google Home in my bedroom. I'd like to use it to play a yoga nidra meditation as I'm going to sleep. I have some questions! [more inside]
posted by aaanastasia at 11:37 AM PST - 3 comments
posted by aaanastasia at 11:37 AM PST - 3 comments
Looking for things to do this week in Philadelphia
I'm in the Philadelphia area (from Northern California) through this Friday night for work, and I am looking for things to do at night. [more inside]
Coping like a pro.
Apologies for the weedy, stream of consciousness question but it's been a hard day. I used to think my coping skills are quite good, but clearly not. All details after the jump. [more inside]
TV Screen Cover of Protection +3
I've got a gaming table (for DnD, etceteray) with a mounted 42" TV in the center for digital game maps and whatnot. I've been trying to find the perfect clear screen protection item that will mitigate potential damage from bouncing dice, dropped pencils, etc. [more inside]
Insurance claim greatly exceeds excess wear charge on my lease. Payday?
Insurance claim: $5,000. Lease inspection report says I'll only need to pay $600. What happens now? [more inside]
Temporary workaround to get Silverlight working on a Mac?
I have a Macbook Air that has the latest OS. I'm trying to run silverlight on my computer, but cannot get it to work in any browser. I've heard that silverlight simply isn't working for the latest Mac OS--is that the case? [more inside]
Home phone needed for intercom answering
My apartment building is replacing the current broken intercom with one of the systems that call you instead of ringing to a dedicated receiver, which introduces some complications for me. [more inside]
Moving to South / West LA from Europe - help from locals?
Moving to LA and trying to find a nice apartment, not far from my workplace, trying to avoid traffic jams and airport noise, affordable but close to the beach... if it is possible? [more inside]
posted by raiguabe at 9:31 AM PST - 23 comments
posted by raiguabe at 9:31 AM PST - 23 comments
Jewleryfilter: save my antique wedding ring
My wedding ring is my grandmother's and I've neglected it horribly. Please give me some ideas and language to use with a jeweler to rehabilitate it and perhaps transform it into something that will last another generation. Or tell me to put it in storage and get a beater instead because I am a danger to rings. [more inside]
methodology for determining app crash (MacOS)
Just moved up to Sierra, and having an app crash repeatedly at launch...
Without getting into which app is the problem, my question is broader: what would be your generic approach to app crash diagnostics?
I feel like I should have a routine to follow, but don't (shame on me).
My first guess, for a user-specific problem: temporarily relocate Preference file or folder found in ~Library.
After that (assuming doesn't resolve issue), what should I try?
Political campaign videos that do not suck?
Have you seen any short political campaign videos that moved you, educated you, went viral, or otherwise went outside the norm? I need inspiration! [more inside]
posted by *s at 8:47 AM PST - 13 comments
posted by *s at 8:47 AM PST - 13 comments
A book about oligarchs or billionaires?
I can't remember the title of a book - please can you help me identify it?
I think it's by a male author (American?) and he identifies by name the billionaires (or oligarchs, or powerful...) who run the world. I think the Kochs and Richard Branson get a mention. [more inside]
Shakshuka Brunch
I'm hosting brunch and making shakshuka! What else should I serve? [more inside]
How to print web pages from Chrome
For over a year I have been using the "Print Friendly" extension for Chrome to print web pages. One of its functions was being able to delete images before printing. I noticed the other day that option was no longer available. Someone decided to delete that functionality.
Are there other options or extensions which do have that function? I hate to print images as they use a lot of ink and paper.
Alcohol-free & Gluten Free?
I have coeliac disease and therefore on a strict gluten-free diet. I've also quit drinking alcohol and am currently happily trying out various alcohol substitutes (my current favourite being Seedlip) but am having trouble figuring out whether one that I want to try, Whissin, contains gluten. [more inside]
posted by Del Chimney at 6:31 AM PST - 5 comments
posted by Del Chimney at 6:31 AM PST - 5 comments
So many keys for identical filing cabinets. I just want one.
I inherited 12 metal filing cabinets at work, which is great. They each came with their own key. Because of protocol i have to constantly open and close those cabinets, several times a day each. Now i have a huge keyring jingling from my side all day, and even though i numbered and color coded the keys, still waste a lot of time fussing with the locks. [more inside]
posted by PardonMyFrench at 6:28 AM PST - 4 comments
posted by PardonMyFrench at 6:28 AM PST - 4 comments
I hate my cellphone; I need a lockbox.
I basically need to change my habits and relationship to my cellphone. I spend too much time checking in on it (legitimately for work, stupidly for facebook and the internet) and it is messing me up, my relationship to my family, my sense of self. [more inside]
Is Multi Sensory Language and Orton Gillingham real or snake oil?
Two lovely families with kids with learning challenges (ASD and dyslexia) are at a natural crossroads with their kids treatments. Both families have been saying to me just a friend that loves them) that their kids have much more profound disabilities than they had thought because this treatment is not working as quickly as they hoped.
I wonder if the treatment is right for these kids. [more inside]
How can I varnish paper to make it more slippery?
I'm in the middle of creating a boardgame that uses a dexterity element. This means that players will physically flick little wooden spaceships across a printed paper board.
To make the wooden spaceships glide nicely - I am looking for a finish or varnish or spray or something that will lower the friction of the paper. The goal is to make it easier for little wooden disks to glide over the printed paper surface with a flick.
I've never used anything like this and I've no idea even where to start !
We just want to wash our hands!
What’s a good hand soap that won’t irritate our hands? How about one that also isn’t a total mess? Maybe a good soap pump if I’m lucky? [more inside]
December 10
What does "overcoming" Childhood Emotional Neglect look like?
Through therapy and all that, I've come to the realization that a multitude of the feelings I've always had stem from childhood emotional neglect. All my material needs were taken care of, but my parents were otherwise pretty shitty. I've always had a hard time making friends and maintaining connections with people. I'm ready to start doing the work and attempt to make positive changes, but.. what does overcoming emotional neglect look like? Is it really not too late for me to make meaningful connections with people? [more inside]
How can I get over the fear of asking a girl out?
There's a girl I like, everything points to her being interested in me. The last message she sent basically said that we should see each other again. I've known her for a while now, and she always seemed to want to talk.
Here's the thing though, I'm worrying a lot about what she will say when I ask her out. My fear is trying to make me look for reasons to not ask her out, I won't allow that but I want my fear gone, I don't want to feel like this, I hate it. Literally everyone who knows me is pushing me to ask her out. [more inside]
Looking for a short story with a twist ending
A while back I read an online short story, linked on MeFi, which leads you to believe that the female protagonist will be sexually assaulted by her date- but she murders him instead. It was written in the first person, and darkly comedic. Anyone have the link?
posted by perplexion at 10:32 PM PST - 3 comments
posted by perplexion at 10:32 PM PST - 3 comments
Great over-achievers who weren't monsters
Are there any examples of famous artists, scientists, leaders in history who weren't also dicks?
Japanese cover of "Whiskey in the Jar"
I used to have an mp3 of a female Japanese singer performing "Whiskey in the Jar," with lyrics in Japanese. I think I looked her up once and she turned out to be a folk singer, but I wouldn't swear to that. Somehow I've lost this mp3, and googling for it isn't getting me anywhere. Can you help me find any information about the song or where to buy it? [more inside]
posted by wintersweet at 9:15 PM PST - 2 comments
posted by wintersweet at 9:15 PM PST - 2 comments
All things cast iron
Buying my partner his first cast iron pan for Christmas. What are the best accessories, recipes, and tips to go with? [more inside]
Bookfilter: Your favorite short(ish) reads
What are some of your favorite books that are less than 300 pages? [more inside]
Message "Windows is not responding" and computer freezes?
I often get the message "Windows is not responding..Wait or cancel", and my computer freezes. [more inside]
posted by ragtimepiano at 8:16 PM PST - 3 comments
posted by ragtimepiano at 8:16 PM PST - 3 comments
Question - answer simple webapp, with PDF
I'd like an easy/quick way to make a webapp which gets some input from the user in the form of A/B/C answers to questions and then generates a PDF with several sections of text depending on those answers. It should look at least semi-professional, so no free poll websites. What should I use? [more inside]
posted by gakiko at 7:58 PM PST - 3 comments
posted by gakiko at 7:58 PM PST - 3 comments
Lacie-brand external drive won't turn on
We have a 3 terabyte Lacie external drive that worked just fine up until a few minutes ago and now won't turn on. What next? [more inside]
Fabulous Florentines
My mission: make my Dad the best Florentines ever, for Christmas //
I'm looking for: your best recipes, tips and techniques to make delicious, flavoursome Florentines //
Dad loves: dark chocolate, the flavour of toasted almonds //
Dad doesn't do: chunky nuts (his teeth are dodgy), hard or very chewy toffee (thin, crisp toffee is okay), dried apricots // Bonus question: how far ahead can I make Florentines, without compromising flavour or texture? [more inside]
posted by brushtailedphascogale at 5:08 PM PST - 6 comments
posted by brushtailedphascogale at 5:08 PM PST - 6 comments
Can I eat it: Canned gulabjamun
We boughta can of gulabjamun, never having had it before, so I don’t know what it should look like. Floating in the can were some yellowish bits. I am hoping they are solidified ghee but would someone please reassure me we’re not going to get botulism? Pictures.
Where can I find these string lights from Deb's apartment in Dexter?
I love the string lights Deb has decorating her apartment. Where can I find lights similar to these? [more inside]
What's made out of crystal and/or leather?
I'd like to find something for a third wedding anniversary that's at least somewhat thoughtful/sentimental but I'm at a loss. Previously, I've done something thoughtful and personalized but crystal and leather seem both excessive and too functional. (I'm also a non-leather-consuming vegetarian, but would consider something for the spouse if it was really functional and durable). Activity-related things are also good--is there a leather opera or crystal massage that I'm not thinking of?
I've seen this but none of the answers are hitting the mark for me.
Mystery leather bag
Can you identify the brand signified by this logo on a leather handbag?
posted by Miko at 2:56 PM PST - 4 comments
posted by Miko at 2:56 PM PST - 4 comments
Quality English language Publishers that publish novella length works
Looking for quality English language Publishers that publish novelette / novella length works [more inside]
Dehydrator DIY fix-it?
My Cabela's 80L commercial food dehydrator dies at 88 degrees. Looking for answers to the following: What could the fault be? Can I fix it myself? [more inside]
How can I get a good night's sleep while the world is so noisy?
A lot of independent things are making it very difficult for me to get a good night's sleep.
I've been in my current place for about 3 months now and for the first month or two, it was reasonable sailing. I was able to fall asleep when I needed to and my sleep wasn't disturbed more than I expected it to.
Over the last month, that's changed and it's driving me crazy. [more inside]
posted by LSK at 1:57 PM PST - 24 comments
posted by LSK at 1:57 PM PST - 24 comments
Intelligent books with less text, more images for elderly mother
My mother has moderate dementia, but doesn't realize it or understand it. One of the worst aspects is that, though she's been a life-long, voracious, high-level reader, she isn't really capable any more of reading much. She just doesn't have the cognition to follow text along from one paragraph to another. [more inside]
How to Become: Law Librarian; School Librarian
Tell me about the steps involved (after obtaining an MLIS, which I already have) in becoming a law librarian, and/or a public school OR university librarian. Bonus points if it relates specifically to those jobs in Virginia, but this is not a requirement! [more inside]
Heat of fusion of high pressure water ice?
Is the specific enthalpy of fusion for each of the high density forms of water ice; ice III, ice V, and ice VI, lower than that of standard water ice Ih? [more inside]
Critical Fermi Estimation Knowledge
Fermi questions assume a baseline knowledge of certain order of magnitude numbers when getting started with the estimations. Which numbers do you find most important? Have you found an online resource with a list of numbers to keep handy? [more inside]
Find a quote about the past & nostalgia
Recently read a quotation but didn't record it, but wish I had. It was something like, "The past seems preferable because fear has been removed."
Maybe Carlyle?
Have spent way too much time trying to find it again.
Picture Frame Name
I am looking for a specific type of picture frame and lack the language to successfully google it. Help! [more inside]
posted by juniperesque at 10:05 AM PST - 2 comments
posted by juniperesque at 10:05 AM PST - 2 comments
Parting with a diesel Beetle -- best options?
We have a 2006 TDI Volkswagen Beetle with more than 200,000 miles on it. Recently its power steering pump died, and the cost to replace it doesn't seem worth it. Should we repair the car and then try to sell it, sell it as-is for a reduced price, or donate the vehicle? What's the best channel to sell a vehicle? [more inside]
posted by Gelatin at 9:54 AM PST - 8 comments
posted by Gelatin at 9:54 AM PST - 8 comments
Round bathroom exhaust fan for 13" hole?
Does anyone have a bathroom ceiling fan that they like, which will fill a 13" circular hole? [more inside]
posted by wenestvedt at 9:29 AM PST - 7 comments
posted by wenestvedt at 9:29 AM PST - 7 comments
How do I change the display order in a scatter chart in Google sheets?
I've created a scatter chart in Google sheets. How do I change the display order so "1" is at the top of the Y axis and "20" is at the bottom?
Moving Parts: Family Obligations, Student Loans, and Holiday Wishes
My in-laws are in serious debt, and among them are $70,000 worth of my wife's student loans. They have asked my wife to refinance this loan in her name and pay her back for the payments on the loan. However, with our combined salary of just at ~$60,000 before taxes, high-ish rent, $27,000 worth of grad school debt, car payments, and credit card bills- this feels like a precarious proposition. Should we take on this loan, and is there a way out for my family? Many snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by Krazor at 9:25 AM PST - 23 comments
posted by Krazor at 9:25 AM PST - 23 comments
your favorite (safari) extensions please!
inspired by umbu's question above, I'm inspired to improve my Internet life. Please tell me your favorite browser extensions that make your Internet experience better! (The irony of being inspired by a question about avoiding recommendations to solicit recommendations is not lost on me but let's do this anyway.) I use Safari, but if on balance my life would be improved by going to Chrome, I can make that happen in 2018. [more inside]
Dreaming of a recommendation-free life
I'm really tired of my screen being dominated by "If you like this..." recommendation algorithms, like the right side of the screen on youtube. Is there any way I can live with less of this? I'm dreaming of the recommendation algorithm equivalent of an ad blocker.
posted by umbú at 7:40 AM PST - 6 comments
posted by umbú at 7:40 AM PST - 6 comments
How Do I Concentrate On Reading When I Have Anxiety
I desperately want to read more, but I have such bad anxiety that it makes it difficult. What do I do?
Details inside [more inside]
Christmas Gift for an Elderly Woman
What do you get a 83 year old woman who watches Fox News all day? I am stumped. She wants for nothing, doesn't really need anything.
posted by zzazazz at 6:21 AM PST - 29 comments
posted by zzazazz at 6:21 AM PST - 29 comments
Which edition of the book Heidi is best?
There are numerous editions of Heidi, and on Amazon it looks like the reviews for all the different editions are pooled together. Which translation/edition have people been the most happy with? Any editions to avoid? I am looking for either hardcover or paperback.
Starting a women's networking group--what do we need to know?
A few friends and I would like to set up a professional networking group for women in our particular male-dominated policy area. We want to create a safe space that is as welcoming to all women. Initial plans are to start out with a Facebook group and follow up with some networking events, first in the city where we founders live, and then, hopefully, in members' cities.
Have you ever set up such a group, and if so, how did you go about it, what worked best, and what do you wish you had done differently?
I can haz job for Christmas?
This was me. Thanks to the excellent advice from fellow mefites, I now have not one but two (TWO!) tenure-track academic offers in my field. Help me decide! [more inside]
December 9
Work clothes while recovering from surgeries?
After a serious illness, I am preparing to interview work. I've been living in over-sized sweaters and leggings, but am looking for a more professional look that still works with my fragile health. Any suggestions welcome! Details beneath the fold. [more inside]
(random number) Title
What is the number that shows up on the browser tab for YouTube? [more inside]
posted by ctmf at 10:24 PM PST - 3 comments
posted by ctmf at 10:24 PM PST - 3 comments
How could you get rich if you went back in time?
If you were to go back in time to a random date in the last few hundred years, how could you use your knowledge of the future to get rich and not have to work a normal job? [more inside]
posted by kdern at 8:36 PM PST - 52 comments
posted by kdern at 8:36 PM PST - 52 comments
Insurance question - is having double coverage screwing me over?
Short version? Kaiser Permanente is refusing to cover anything because my Other Insurance (this year it's Blue Cross) says KP doctors are out of network. My out of network deductible is $5k and I now have this huge bill from what I thought were covered doctor visits at KP. And if I have to just eat it this year, fine. But I like having double coverage, and now I have an Idea. Will it work? Long version inside. [more inside]
How much effect does public comment have in the EIS?
Is there any data that shows how often public comments submitted during the public involvement portion of an Environmental Impact Statement actually changed an alternative from one to another in the final selection? [more inside]
So. Many. Oysters.
Due to a Christmas Gifting Mishap that affected my extended family, I have 50 small fresh oysters in my fridge right now. What should I do with them? [more inside]
posted by charmedimsure at 7:09 PM PST - 18 comments
posted by charmedimsure at 7:09 PM PST - 18 comments
Help me replace a lost sweater?
I’m looking to replace a sweater I lost. It’s dark blue, crop length, long sleeved, with white abstract angular shapes all over it. The white shapes reminded me of silhouettes of origami. I got it second hand and don’t think it had a tag on it. Any leads?
Do I need to be friends with my boyfriend's friends?
I've been dating someone for a few months. He's great and everything is going well, but we keep disagreeing over how much time I should be spending with him and his friends. [more inside]
Am I right to be annoyed by this?
Twice in the last couple of years, I've been asked a particular question at my doctor's office, which infuriated me. Am I right, or am I overreacting? [more inside]
posted by BlahLaLa at 4:32 PM PST - 76 comments
posted by BlahLaLa at 4:32 PM PST - 76 comments
Detective Game Recommendations?
Please share with me your recommendations for good detective games to get caught up in! Details under the fold. [more inside]
My elderly self-employed uncle needs health care.
My elderly self-employed uncle needs health care. I have health insurance as a (US) government employee. Is there a chance I could find some way to cover him under my insurance? [more inside]
Another call for best podcast EPISODES
I am not a podcast listener because I have a 10 minute bike commute and also am a terrible listener. However, I’m going to be driving for most of the next month, and would love to explore the world of podcasts. There are so many. Please recommend me the best INDIVIDUAL EPISODES of good podcasts. Anything goes, fiction, non-fiction, history, arts, tech, politics, comedy, absurdity, anything and everything else, but I have a slight preference for less chatty. [more inside]
How do I keep rats out of my compost?
Please describe your rat-proof compost bin solution. [more inside]
Have Desk, Need Hobby
In an effort to peel myself away from the computer more often, I am moving a desk into my walk-in closet to set up a "crafting space" of sorts -- however, I don't yet have a crafting hobby to use this space for! [more inside]
posted by space snail at 12:22 PM PST - 23 comments
posted by space snail at 12:22 PM PST - 23 comments
What was life like for sixth century North Indians?
If you were a North Indian somewhere in the middle of the social hierarchy in the sixth century, what would your life be like? What would be a reasonable profession for you? What kind of stuff would you eat? Would you be hungry? Beset by disease? Or more or less happy? What would your social life consist of? Looking for information both general and specific.
Some accessed my bank account and deposited money. Why?
Someone gained access to my online bank account, got an cash advance from my credit card, and deposited the money INTO my account. I don't get it. [more inside]
How to be a good partner when you're the depressed one
Whenever I do a web search for, like, "how to be a good partner with depression," I get resources for how to support a depressed person. But I am the depressed person, and I'm looking for resources/advice on how to communicate with and support my partner while also taking care of myself.
(That pretty much sums it up, but snowflakes below, of course!) [more inside]
posted by adastra at 11:00 AM PST - 7 comments
posted by adastra at 11:00 AM PST - 7 comments
Movies set primarily in DC, but NOT primarily about politics/government
I'm putting together a list of films set primarily in Washington, DC but that are *not* primarily focused on politics or the federal government. So, no to All the President's Men, but yes to The Exorcist and Broadcast News. [more inside]
A cat's love for organ meats - does it represent a dietary deficiency?
My cat is increasingly snooting food she used to like, but never will she reject canned food that contains organ meats. Preference only, or indication of a deficiency? [more inside]
Mixing potassium citrate and La Croix?
For a potassium source that's not too basic, I'm adding potassium citrate to La Croix sparkling water, which I'm assuming is acidic (carbonic acid?). What is happening when it starts fizzing? [more inside]
posted by zeek321 at 10:32 AM PST - 7 comments
posted by zeek321 at 10:32 AM PST - 7 comments
What oil or polish to use on teak table and credenza?
I have a veneer teak credenza and solid teak table. New purchases, old items. The table has a few scratches from our cats jumping on and off. The credenza has some water stains and marks from its previous life. I've been recommended to oil both to keep them looking nice - but all my research shows contradictory suggestions. Can you please recommend an oil that I can use to refresh these items? Bonus if it can also be used on a few other items of varying shades and types of wood.
Women authors for an Updike/Vonnegut/Roth fan?
My friend and I were recently discussing books, and I jokingly mentioned he should try reading some women authors for once. He was a bit surprised to realize how little he'd actually read by women, and I was a bit stumped coming up with recommendations, as we typically read very different types of books. But the hive mind is great at this kind of stuff. Help me come up with suggestions? [more inside]
Favorite Informational YouTube Channels?
I'm looking for your favorite YouTube channels to follow that are informational, educational, or historical in nature. I'm not interested in channels that are primarily comedic, but it's fine if they're humorous while being informative. [more inside]
posted by gregoryg at 6:58 AM PST - 24 comments
posted by gregoryg at 6:58 AM PST - 24 comments
Someday I’ll have two good arms again, but not today
Just as I am in the home stretch of healing from surgery to fix a badly mended collarbone break on my right side, another freak accident has disabled my left hand. I need help with: 1) cold-weather dressing for one good side; 2) making life easier with one good hand/arm (including tips or warnings from others who have had surgery to repair finger flexor tendons); and 3) staying positive and not losing my mind entering my sixth consecutive month (and at least two to go) of recovering from injury. [more inside]
posted by peachfuzz at 5:07 AM PST - 18 comments
posted by peachfuzz at 5:07 AM PST - 18 comments
How to handle a very difficult conversation with the boss
I'm faced with a job situation that will require some tricky maneuvering. How should I handle this? Apologies in advance for the length. [more inside]
Giving notice prior to an official offer
I have a verbal offer from the new boss to start working for a different unit within the same (large academic) organization. New boss has started the process with HR, but I haven't heard from HR yet. HR will need to do a background check and negotiate salary/start date.
New boss wants me to give notice ASAP to current boss in order to ensure a smooth transition and to be mindful of current boss's needs. [more inside]
Everything you wanted to know about adult ADHD....
....but were afraid to ask. I'm pretty sure - in large part because of what I've learned here! - that I am an adult with ADHD (who was once a very unhappy kid with ADHD). But my PCP visits have never left a space for this and I am anxious about being labeled a drug seeker. Those of you who have this diagnosis and who have been helped by making it official - how, exactly, did you go about it?
December 8
Windows default system font is messed up, how to revert? See screenshot.
[Screenshot] On Windows 7 SP1. Not sure when this changed to a generic Asian font. But the default should be MS Sans Serif. How do I change this back?
Meal plans with more diverse recipes
Seeking meal plan sites that will help with the whole "here's your recipes for the week plus a shopping list" thing - but with options that's more than just Northern Hemisphere White People Food. [more inside]
What do you love or hate about your copper/bronze sink?
We're redoing our bathroom and I want to get a copper or bronze sink, I think. But do you have one? Do you love it, or hate it, and what about it stirs your feelings? What about it should we think about before we get one? I'm looking at a drop in or undermount, not a freestanding. Thanks!
I'd rather not use superlatives all the time
Most of my experiences and interactions are fine and just okay, as they statistically should be. Yet I frequently find myself feeling pressured to deliver positive, if not superlative feedback, with a huge grin on my face. Even when people ask me, "how are you?" I feel like they're expecting this effusive response, when in reality my life is humdrum, with all its usual rough bits, just like everybody else's. Relatedly, I find myself pressured to mirror and affirm whomever I'm speaking with. I don't feel like this is a productive use of my energy... [more inside]
Looking for a compact keyboard (UK) with Home/End keys, snowflakes ahoy!
At present, I'm using half of the Logicool K240 combo as a desktop-bound keyboard. While it's fine for gaming, when it comes to typing it doesn't come anywhere close to my Thinkpad keyboard for productivity. I find that I use the Home and End keys a great deal, but on the K240 these functions are invoked with a pesky function key, and I don't care for that. Also, this keyboard uses one of those USB dongles, which is infuriating in the age of Bluetooth. [more inside]
Home Addition & Remodel Costs
I'm about to do a 1000sqft addition on my 1500 square foot single story home in Denver, Colorado and can't believe that it's going to cost me $400k. I'm willing to pay for good quality work and understand that prices have gone up in Denver - but I'd like to hear from others about their remodels and how they went price-wise. I want to make sure we're allocating enough for contingency given the high price starting point. [more inside]
Preparing for another CERN?
My job is preparing for an international particle physics facility that will (most likely) be built near the city I work for, but the timescale is so long. What books should I read/what should I study to prepare? [more inside]
Chore management app recommendation?
I'm looking for an app, available for both iphone and android, that can communicate between users, to manage household chores, errands, and notes. [more inside]
East Bay or San Francisco Psychiatrist Recs?
I am looking for a psychiatrist for medication prescribing (NOT talk therapy, I got that covered) in the East Bay (Oakland, Berkeley, San Leandro, Richmond, El Cerrito, Albany, Lamorinda, etc etc) or possibly San Francisco. Peninsula, South Bay, North Bay will probably be too far for me... [more inside]
Bitcoin ATM? In a Kwik-E-Mart?
OK, I do not understand Bitcoin and how normal people who are not setting up a murder-for-hire even use it.
I'm picking up some candy at the local gas station/ convenience store, and they have a Bitcoin machine. Like an ATM, but for cryptocurrency? It takes cash.
So, Bitcoin value is over $15,000 right now, I'm assuming people are buying tiny percentages of a Bitcoin and not stuffing 15K in an ATM. [more inside]
World history timeline for multiple locations/events
Is there any good website or took for looking at a world history timeline across locations/people/events? I've seen big posters and online images of those, but they are hard to use on a computer. I'd basically be looking for something where, if I'm in the era of Julius Caesar, for example, I can easily see what was happening in China around that time, who was prominent , etc. All very high-level kind of stuff. Any ideas?
How did Microsoft techs draw on my computer screen?
During a set-up call for Office 365, a Microsoft tech used a red marker to draw on what must have been the image of my computer screen that she saw. Simultaneously, the red marking showed up on my screen. The whole session went faster because she drew my attention to a particular spot on the screen and didn't have to wait for me to find it on my own. is there a name for this technology? Is it generally available? Does it work with screen sharing software like Team Viewer and Mikogo?
Whither Windows?
What am I missing by sticking with Windows 7? [more inside]
ISO large and attractive interruption
I'm looking for an alert/alarm app for Mac which can operate entirely visually, with no sounds (sounds stress me the hell out and are counterproductive). I want it to bring up the largest possible window (fullscreen would be great). Ideally this would be something super visually pleasing. I want to be like 'oh thank you, application, for taking up the whole of my screen to tell me to go to fucking bed. I would resent you if you weren't so beautiful.' [more inside]
Inspirational book for a future entomologist (with a spider focus) ?
A good and terribly brilliant friend is currently a college freshman with a life-long enthusiasm for the insect world, and an eye toward a career in entomology. Her passion: spiders.
I'd like to find a book on spiders (or on the greater world of insects) for her as a Christmas gift, something special. [more inside]
What are the sources of these poem/song parodies?
In the John M. Ford short-story collection From the End of the Twentieth Century, there's a piece that had previously only been published in chapbooks as gifts to his friends, called "A Little Scene to Monarchize." It is a parody (really multiple parodies) of Shakespeare's Wars of the Roses plays. I don't recognize most of the parodies. If anyone can help with any of this, I would be MUCH OBLIGED. [more inside]
Reading in Bed -- Stealth Edition
I would like to be able to read books on my iPhone while lying down in bed, without ambient light disturbing anyone, and with some form of hands-free page turning. Ideas? [more inside]
Types of "Themed" magic for sorcerers
In some fantasy stories, wizards/witches can employ all sorts of different magic (telepathy, necromancy, transformation, etc) but in other stories, their magic is limited by a theme. (For example, Elsa in "Frozen" can just manipulate cold.) What are some more examples of one character's limited, "themed" magic? (Bonus points if it is an unusual, non-generic theme.) [more inside]
posted by egeanin at 11:21 AM PST - 31 comments
posted by egeanin at 11:21 AM PST - 31 comments
Short helpful articles on how to use Twitter
I'm looking for short, easy to understand articles on how to use Twitter for a beginner. [more inside]
Help me make the ultimate international grocery list
After following the sage Mefite advice from my AskMe a few months ago, I am moving in the coming weeks! Now, however, I am faced with the fact that there are many foodstuffs that won't be as easy to procure where I'm headed. So I'm looking for help crowdsourcing a shopping list. [more inside]
posted by cowboy_sally at 10:32 AM PST - 12 comments
posted by cowboy_sally at 10:32 AM PST - 12 comments
Favorite over-ripe banana recipes?
Due to an online shopping error, I am in possession of a couple dozen overripe bananas. I have a favorite banana bread recipe, but can only take so many loaves to work! I am thinking of a batch or two of muffins but I'd like some other banana-full recipes. I have seen this and this previously but am not looking for smoothie/frozen/fried/single-banana recipes. Any alternate suggestions for overripe bananas are welcome (e.g., can I polish my silver or use them to condition my dog's fur?) Thank you!
I thought the GPU was the East German Secret Police?
The motherboard on my 11 year old son's computer failed on Monday. I need your suggestions for a solid desktop computer we can buy him (needs below) under $500. [more inside]
Theological Agreement - Church v Potential Parishioner
My beliefs are still evolving, there is no one denomination whose theology or doctrines I agree with 100%, and I'm not sure how heavily to weigh factors other than theology, either. How do I choose? How much do you have to agree with a church's theology and/or doctrine in order to legitimately be a part of it? [more inside]
posted by static sock at 9:15 AM PST - 22 comments
posted by static sock at 9:15 AM PST - 22 comments
Newly added "no tresspassing" signs torn down on our land
What should I do? How can I feel better about this? [more inside]
How to Catalog/Queue Music on YouTube?
There's so much music on YouTube, but in-browser bookmarking tools don't really help with queueing. I normally queue music in iTunes, so that's the logical repository, but it's awfully tedious to export YouTube --> iTunes. [more inside]
Probably going to avoid touring Melania's Creepy Christmas Castle.
My wife and daughter and I are taking a fairly spontaneous trip to Washington DC over Christmas, after some plans to travel further to be with family fell through. We have a cool, luxe hotel booked, and are excited to take in the museums and holiday cheer, but I was hoping all you Capitol-centric MeFites could give us both some general recommendations (unique things to do, fun shopping, special holiday displays, how to do parking, etc) as well as some specific food/drink suggestions. [more inside]
How to deal with anxiety that's held in the body
I hold anxiety in my body. Sometimes I feel anxious and it's in my body and my mind, sometimes I don't think I'm anxious but my body still tenses as if I were (maybe I am.) Logic and thought-exercises like CBT (and talk therapy) have certainly been helpful for my anxiety in certain ways but seem to have a limited ability to help with this aspect. Looking for other/likely more physical strategies and perspectives. [more inside]
experiancing a delay
I get email alerts from Experian which monitors the 3 credit bureaus. The last email said my Fico score went down in part because I was using a lot of my revolving credit. I'm not. [more inside]
posted by velveeta underground at 8:01 AM PST - 7 comments
posted by velveeta underground at 8:01 AM PST - 7 comments
Instant Messaging apps with a specific UI
Is there any Instant Messaging app that works with Hangouts, Skype etc that has a UI like Tweetdeck? [more inside]
Need to get my professional act together
I’m a computer engineer with severe social anxiety (shocker). I want to feel like I’m in control of my career! [more inside]
Should I contest a negative performance review
I got a negative performance review at work. It's stuff that has been explicitly flagged by our company as being unfairly applied towards women and asks me to act out of accordance with our company's stated values. Should I contest it? [more inside]
NYC-- where to live?
Hi all
I searched through a bunch of postings about NYC neighborhoods, but I am looking for current advice on where to live. Mr. catrae and lil' catrae and I live in Greenpoint Brooklyn. We have lived here for 9 years. Our building has sold and we will have to move in June. We have a 3 1/2 year old so schools will be a consideration. [more inside]
What Does a Proper Share Certificate Look Like?
This question relates to a company registered in the US. They're paying me in a mixture of cash and shares. Now it's time for them to officially sign the shares over to me — what information should the "share certificate" contain? [more inside]
posted by ZipRibbons at 2:44 AM PST - 9 comments
posted by ZipRibbons at 2:44 AM PST - 9 comments
Chinese ancestor worship funeral rites...
So I need to ensure that my recently deceased father is put in his ancestral worship temple alongside his ancestors in Hong Kong. [more inside]
December 7
OSHA standard for workplaces free of sexual misconduct ideas needed.
I'm drafting a petition to have OSHA promulgate standards for a safe and healthy workplace free of sexual misconduct. My goals are: Employers much provide a safe workplace, so we need: (1) training standards to prevent it, and (2) a framework for a civil process where CREDIBLE allegations of sexual misconduct gets you fired. Got any suggestions for law-talking words that would be best to use? [more inside]
Missed my chance to own this masterpiece. How do I find it again?
Ages ago, my husband and I saw this work of art at a thrift store, but we were young and foolish and did not snap it up. When we came to our senses and returned to the same thrift store a few weeks later, we realized we were too late — some sage connoisseur had recognized the masterpiece for what it was and acquired it for their own collection. More’s the pity. Can I ever find it again — or at least learn what it was? [more inside]
posted by armeowda at 9:16 PM PST - 9 comments
posted by armeowda at 9:16 PM PST - 9 comments
Undercooked beans: this is basically my nightmare
My girlfriend and I have just accidentally eaten some slightly undercooked beans. On a whim I looked it up and discovered that undercooked beans can make you violently ill. I have PTSD from being violently ill several years ago. Is there any chance that we won't be sick? [more inside]
Racism at work that is not intentional
So I experienced a racist incident at work today where I could potentially be at fault but I didn’t intentionally try to be racist and I thought it was harmless. I am wondering if there are any people who are of African American descent or who work in Human Resources who can provide some insight, because it just caused a lot of worry for me. [more inside]
It's easier to look for a job when you have one, but this is ridiculous
After a number of months of effort, I finally got my first job out of grad school in September. Now I seem to have stumbled into serious interview process for another company and I have no idea what I'm doing. [more inside]
Modern Guitar Gods
I'm shopping for an impossibly difficult man (Hi Dad) and all he cares about is music — but he buys everything he wants for himself! However, I have an Edge and a Plan. Help me think of shredders outside his musical purview so I can make this my best gifting season ever. [more inside]
Australian convict/inmate search?
I did a google search on a former girlfriend's name and found a bunch of news articles that someone with the same name and age was arrested in Sydney. [more inside]
posted by InsertNiftyNameHere at 6:33 PM PST - 5 comments
posted by InsertNiftyNameHere at 6:33 PM PST - 5 comments
How to model process resource requirements in Excel?
Every day, 1500 widgets arrive for packaging. They're not all the same, and they take different amounts of time to package. Historical data shows that by day 5, 75 per cent of widgets that arrived on day 1 have been packaged. By day 10, a further 20 per cent have been packaged. By day 30, the remaining 5 per cent of the widgets that arrived on day 1 have been packaged. [more inside]
posted by obiwanwasabi at 6:27 PM PST - 14 comments
posted by obiwanwasabi at 6:27 PM PST - 14 comments
Help me find books like Jesmyn Ward's Sing Unburied Sing.
I just finished Sing Unburied Sing and I could read the book again. It was stunning. Such gorgeous writing! I dislike magical realism (this book featured ghosts) but this person can really write. [more inside]
Seeking product for tense back muscles
My husband carries all his tension in his back and is always super knotty to the touch. Regular massages aren't in the budget right now, but I'd like to gift him a product he can use at home to help work out all the knots. Any recommendations? I looked through the options on Amazon, but if you have something tried-and-true, I'd love to hear about it.
posted by anderjen at 3:42 PM PST - 38 comments
posted by anderjen at 3:42 PM PST - 38 comments
US -> CAN money transfer; CAN -> US shipping
What's the best way to send $2000 from the U.S. to Canada? And, how about mailing ~80lbs of clothes from Canada to the U.S.? [more inside]
Middle schooler with sensory processing disorder experiencing bullying
I have a an incredibly sweet, bright, 13-year-old girl with sensory processing disorder. Loud noises tend to bother her. Middle school is tough for her because it is a very bright, noisy place with 700 kids. [more inside]
Building HTML 5 web ads, what software or service is best?
Title says it all, needs to get more HTML 5 content in our web ads, stuff that enables more animation, use of layers and builds responsive ads for various view ports.
What do you pros use that integrates with DFP? No website building needed. [more inside]
If Monks Had Macs...in the new millennium?
Many years ago, I fell for If Monks Had Macs, "cdrom library of interactive art, multimedia, computer games, ebooks, an intensive guide to journaling, intensive journal software & a powerful ebook reader" - and accessed through a graphic point-and-click interface of a desk and bookshelf overlooking a monastery courtyard.* I adored both the content and the interface. I'm wondering if folks know of any current projects/software in this vein I could explore? [more inside]
How much for a box making machine?
I'm curious about how much a machine that folds boxes all day long would cost. Details inside. If a back of the envelope cost estimate isn't possible, where could I get one? [more inside]
help me navigate the different options about meeting my SIL
Hi! Here's the sequel to a question I asked two months ago about my abusive sister in law. [more inside]
Weird fiction roundup!
I'm looking for links, less so books (though excellent collections can make the cut, I am just on a book diet) to weird fiction short stories! [more inside]
Dealing with cliques at work
I’m having an issue at my job where I feel torn between different groups of coworkers. I’m afraid I’ve become a Mean Girl but I don’t know how to bow out now. [more inside]
posted by pintapicasso at 12:42 PM PST - 14 comments
posted by pintapicasso at 12:42 PM PST - 14 comments
What is an idiomatic Russian equivalent to "Are you f--ing kidding me?"
Fictionfilter: I need to know a short sentence in Russian that would be roughly the same as "Are you f---ing kidding me?" in English. Specific info re context inside. [more inside]
posted by oblique red at 12:25 PM PST - 21 comments
posted by oblique red at 12:25 PM PST - 21 comments
Someone doesn't understand how milk fat percentages work, but who?
At the grocery store today I saw two cartons of cream side-by-side. One was half & half cream and labelled 10% milk fat and the other was light cream and labelled 5% milk fat. The light cream also stated it had "33% less fat than our 10% cream". Shouldn't that be 50%? Picture of the cartons in question. [more inside]
posted by any portmanteau in a storm at 11:38 AM PST - 11 comments
posted by any portmanteau in a storm at 11:38 AM PST - 11 comments
Is this a scam? Or something worse?
A friend got a weird call that scared her. Is it real? [more inside]
posted by Cwell at 11:18 AM PST - 12 comments
posted by Cwell at 11:18 AM PST - 12 comments
Utah Ski Resorts - Local Resource/ Message Board?
I live in Utah and most of the local resorts are now open, but with limited runs + snow making. I'm trying to get a handle on whether it's worth visiting any of the resorts just yet - and if so, what to expect - and am wondering if there's a resource where I can find reports from real folks who have spent a morning/ afternoon/ day at a resort - e.g. "hey I spent the day at Brighton/ totally worth doing/ bit crowded/ mad-made snow's not bad" ?
Offer letter anxiety
Help me with job offer/offer letter/notice and transition advice. [more inside]
Can I fix my Roland digital piano myself?
Over the past couple years, certain keys on my beloved FP-3 digital piano (circa 2001) have started to have weird velocity-related behavior. For example, one always sounds at full volume no matter how hard/soft I play it; another will only sound at all if I hit it hard, etc. Anyone have experience with this sort of glitch & any idea what sort of repair task this is? If it's just a matter of disassembling & cleaning components or contacts, I could probably do that. If we're talking serious electronics repair, I might be out of my element.
Overloaded high pitch screams in pop and rock music
I'm looking for examples and info on a kind of high pitched scream in pop and roc kmusic. [more inside]
What happens when you tell your therapist you're not safe?
I am safe and not currently suicidal, but I feel I could lose it in the near future. My only two attempts ever are both within the last year and I told my therapist this. This was not the main issue of discussion but we are creating a safety plan. What exactly happens when you tell your therapist this? I'm in the state of Minnesota. I'm trying to find specifics in order to prepare myself as I do plan on telling my therapist should things get so dire for me again. Thanks!
Vacation destination
We're considering taking a vacation next year somewhere in the "southwest" (of the United States, to be clear). Where should we go? [more inside]
Problem neighbors is putting it lightly
What can be done about my brother's really awful neighbors? I need concrete actions and steps that can be taken. Complication: he's in Florida. This is a long one. Thanks for any help you can offer. [more inside]
posted by phunniemee at 9:30 AM PST - 28 comments
posted by phunniemee at 9:30 AM PST - 28 comments
Staying warm in Iceland: footwear?
Heading to Copenhagen for the first week of March, and Iceland for the second week. Activities in Iceland will include a glacier walk, ice cave visit, some hiking, hopefully gazing at the Northern Lights. I’ve found some packing lists, and I’ve got my wool base layers. I’m uncertain about footwear. I would like to only bring one pair of footwear, so I’m not sure if they should be hiking boots or winter boots or...something else? I care more about being warm than about being stylish, although if there’s an option to incorporate both into one that would be great. If you have any recommendations for waterproof, windproof top layers that you’ve tried out in these conditions, I’m all ears as well. Also: can one fly with hand/foot warmers (the air-activated kind) in their carry-on?
posted by sugarbomb at 9:21 AM PST - 9 comments
posted by sugarbomb at 9:21 AM PST - 9 comments
Recommend me your favorite vegetable soups!
I would like to make vegetable soups this year. Recommend any primarily-vegetable soup - I cook mostly vegetarian but sometimes cook with meat for holidays. [more inside]
Making Extra Cash at the End of the Year
A dear friend of mine lost her job today, she was running multiple R&D labs for a paper giant where they tested prototypes of diapers and other similar products. She won't have trouble finding another job but given that it's a few weeks from the holidays- what type of side job could she quickly pick up to keep her busy? [more inside]
posted by robadobdob at 8:21 AM PST - 10 comments
posted by robadobdob at 8:21 AM PST - 10 comments
Recommend me some new comics to read?
I started reading and enjoyed some comics about 10 years back before wandering away, and am looking for recommendations now that I'm thinking of starting again. [more inside]
posted by Quindar Beep at 8:16 AM PST - 13 comments
posted by Quindar Beep at 8:16 AM PST - 13 comments
Is Kaiser good for babies/children's routine and serious care?
I am thinking of switching from an off-exchange plan to an on-exchange Kaiser plan for 2018 since I now have two more members of household (baby and unemployed husband who just immigrated to the U.S.) Most of the feedback for Kaiser in California is really good, but some say that Kaiser is only good for preventive/routine care and that it drops the ball or rations care for serious/catastrophic illnesses. [more inside]
What brand and scent was this reed diffuser?
About a year ago, I purchased a reed diffuser for my office. It was a lovely scent, and I got tons of positive remarks about it; I also just really enjoyed how my office smelled. Now, I don't remember what brand and scent it was, and it doesn't seem to be available anymore anyway. If I tell you everything I can about it, can you help me find out what it was, or even better, get more? Or, if that's impossible, what might be a good replacement? [more inside]
posted by dbx at 7:22 AM PST - 5 comments
posted by dbx at 7:22 AM PST - 5 comments
Punk rock Anti-Christmas Song?
I'm looking for a specific Christmas song I remember hearing last year that was about not wanting to go home for the holidays and argue with your awful relatives. [more inside]
Is DSL enough for Cord-cutting in a two-person household?
We're going to cut the DircecTV cord and want to know whether our present broadband capacity will be sufficient for watching two TV's at once. [more inside]
posted by Right On Red at 6:36 AM PST - 8 comments
posted by Right On Red at 6:36 AM PST - 8 comments
Stir-crazy, broke, and isolated
I live in a super small town in southwest Virginia (just outside Blacksburg) with my mom. I don’t drive so getting around can be hard. My mom is away, so right now it looks like I’ll be stuck at home all day today, tonight, and tomorrow. I get paid tomorrow, which means that today I’m dead broke. I’m looking for tips on not just surviving these couple of days but actually enjoying at least a little bit of them. [more inside]
posted by mermaidcafe at 6:08 AM PST - 16 comments
posted by mermaidcafe at 6:08 AM PST - 16 comments
I think my succulent hit puberty (plantfilter)
I bought a haworthia about a year ago, when it first looked like this round, happy thing. It now is taller, but looks like this instead. [more inside]
posted by lesser weasel at 5:18 AM PST - 4 comments
posted by lesser weasel at 5:18 AM PST - 4 comments
Leaving luggage in Beijing
I want to store my luggage for a few hours in central Beijing. What's the best option? [more inside]
Can we have fish for dessert?
After a friend introduced me to the Feast of 7 Fishes for Christmas Eve, i enjoyed restaurant versions of the dinner for several years. Last year I decided to cook one of my own. I was pleased enough with the results to try again this year and started wondering if there are any seafood desserts. Google searches mostly point to desserts deemed suitable for a fish dinner, or the dessert menus at seafood restaurants. Can anyone recommend an actual seafood dessert recipe?
Should I be concerned that my shell prompt changed to "EvilJesusthe2nd"
My Mac bash shell prompt changed, have I been hacked and what should I do? [more inside]
posted by johngoren at 3:02 AM PST - 5 comments
posted by johngoren at 3:02 AM PST - 5 comments
December 6
Can anyone recommend a good online automotive touch up paint source?
So, I found out my go-to paint site has shut down due to the owner's retirement. I had successfully painted two separate car bumpers with his product and found the paint and rattle can nozzles to be excellent. I had a bad experience with the nozzles of the cans from the brand found at most auto parts stores in the US and found the paint texture was not as good as the ones from the website. I have a small project which will need a metallic flake type paint, along with primer and clear coat. Most dealers carry small touch-up cans but I prefer the larger spray cans. Has anyone had any good experiences with any online sites. Most of the reviews online are a little sketchy. Quality preferred over lower price. [more inside]
posted by Short End Of A Wishbone at 11:06 PM PST - 2 comments
posted by Short End Of A Wishbone at 11:06 PM PST - 2 comments
Fantasy/paranormal shows that aren't gory/miserable?
I'm looking for a new series to watch that has fantasy or paranormal elements but isn't super gory and doesn't leave me feeling depressed. I'm not having a lot of luck. [more inside]
posted by brook horse at 9:01 PM PST - 70 comments
posted by brook horse at 9:01 PM PST - 70 comments
Post-Lasik dry-eye relief?
I had Lasik almost 4 years ago, and it's the best money I've ever spent. My vision is amazing now and I'm thankful every day. But... [more inside]
posted by scrubjay at 8:28 PM PST - 13 comments
posted by scrubjay at 8:28 PM PST - 13 comments
Sibling issues at this festive time of year.
I am really frustrated with my older sister and after many years of feeling this way, and a recent escalation in hurtful behaviour, I'm looking for some reading recommendations and/or advice about how to get beyond this. [more inside]
posted by jojobobo at 8:11 PM PST - 6 comments
posted by jojobobo at 8:11 PM PST - 6 comments
Seeking personal trainer in West/South Seattle
Misterben is looking for a private personal trainer to get back in shape. This person should work out of West Seattle, South Seattle, or Georgetown, be nonjudgmental but good with motivation and accountability, and be a good fit for non-athlete male clients of middle-age (male or female trainers are ok, but he’s noticed many female trainers market themselves strongly towards women). He’s not interested in the Y at this point. No one into woo-woo nutrition either.
Is it worth sending resumes in late December?
I'm starting up a job search but from prior experience on both sides of the process I'm thinking I might put things on hold from Dec 15 through January 5. I suspect a lot of people will be out and that my resume might get lost in the backlog when they return.
I'm hoping someone here will have enough experience to weigh in either direction.
Nintendo Switch Accessories
The small McGees are getting a Nintendo Switch from their grandmother, so mom & dad are going to add some accessories. Which ones are must-haves? [more inside]
looking for work transitioning out of adjuncting
After being promised classes for the spring, I found out that underenrollment and the shifting around of more permanent and more senior personnel meant I would not have a class after all. I am ready to move on from adjuncting but don't have much experience outside this context and am a bit at sea trying to figure out how to begin looking for work. I expect there won't be much opportunity to apply to jobs before the holidays anyway, but I definitely want to hit the ground running in January. Where do I begin? What job sites are effective for someone with an undergraduate degree in writing and an MFA in creative writing, whose job experience primarily entails teaching college English and managing an independent bookstore? I'm willing to consider big changes but I expect I would be most employable in higher ed admin/staff in some form. I am geographically bound to the Milwaukee, WI area. [more inside]
Are you toast if you miss the ACA deadline?
We're trying to set-up insurance via the Marketplace for our son. Complications ensue... [more inside]
The Least Compromised Think Tanks?
Think tanks are notoriously dependent on financial support that comes with strings attached: after the Open Markets debacle last year, New America doesn't look so good. So my question: are there any think tanks that truly protect the independence of their staff/fellows' work? Think tanks that have publicly said they support independent thinking, rather than thinking that enhances their financial overlords' corporate or political missions?
Help me manage my disproportionate anger with life's frustrations!
When things go wrong, I have a temper about it. This sucks and is not fun! I get disproportionately angry or irritated about things that I have no control over, and I'd like to learn how to manage or assuage those feelings. Examples inside! [more inside]
Féilire 2018?
Do you know where I could buy a wall calendar (in the U.S., or at least quickly shippable to the U.S.) with the months & days of the week in Irish? [more inside]
posted by goodbyewaffles at 2:15 PM PST - 5 comments
posted by goodbyewaffles at 2:15 PM PST - 5 comments
Firefox addon - close similar tabs ?
I used to use a Firefox add-on which allowed you to 'close similar tabs' (that being tabs with the same domain name).
That add-on stopped working when the step change in Firefox took place about a month ago.
Can anyone suggest a similar add-on which does work with current versions of Firefox ?
posted by southof40 at 2:03 PM PST - 2 comments
posted by southof40 at 2:03 PM PST - 2 comments
Apartment dog
What's the best dog to get when you live in an apartment, and how do you manage if you work full-time throughout the week? [more inside]
posted by nonmerci at 1:54 PM PST - 36 comments
posted by nonmerci at 1:54 PM PST - 36 comments
Echo Dot, Bluetooth speaker, music stored in phone. Can they get along?
I just got a new Echo Dot from the Canadian release. I’m getting the hang of it but am curious about Bluetooth speaker pairing and playing music stored on my phone. [more inside]
posted by melissa at 1:42 PM PST - 4 comments
posted by melissa at 1:42 PM PST - 4 comments
What's the modern way to build a development blog/portfolio site?
I've decided to become an indie game developer, and I need a website that will be half portfolio, half development blog. I'm a programmer and can handle technical setup but I have weak art/design skills. I last attempted to do something similar 10 years ago and settled on a hosted WordPress.com site, but I want to investigate other options before I revamp my website. What's the best way to make that kind of site today? [more inside]
How important is gender when signing up for healthcare?
My transgender daughter, who is aging off of our family medical plan when she turns twenty-six in a few months, has just signed up for the medical benefits provided through her workplace. There was no way to change her gender from "female" to "male" on the form; it was automatically filled in based on her gender presentation at work. The trouble is, legally she is still male. Will this cause problems? [more inside]
Restoring Silk Binding on Old-School Blanket
It's hard to find old school fluffy blankets with silk bindings, so I guess I ought to renovate my old one (the binding is getting a bit torn up). First, where can I go to have it sewn? (dress shops near me are super expensive). Second, the current binding is 3" wide, but it looks like they only sell 2" these days. Any ideas re: finding a wider one?
posted by Quisp Lover at 11:35 AM PST - 14 comments
posted by Quisp Lover at 11:35 AM PST - 14 comments
Niagara Falls daytrip in December (& other TO attractions)
I'll be in Toronto from Dec 14-19, and I'm looking for things to fill an itinerary with. A friend suggested I might make a daytrip to Niagara Falls (I've never been). Is this feasible? Difficulty level: no car. [more inside]
What did I see in the sky over the Monterey Bay last night?
Last night, I saw a bright light in the sky South of Santa Cruz, CA, which was predicted on the radio, but I missed what the object was. [more inside]
posted by subocoyne at 11:11 AM PST - 3 comments
posted by subocoyne at 11:11 AM PST - 3 comments
Cheap full-size tripod for an iPad
I'm making a video with my iPad and I need a full-size (not tabletop) tripod. I'm near a Target and a Staples. What do you suggest?
How do I best explain pros & cons re: DIY vs. outsourcing?
My fiancé was upset by an off-hand comment I made about "DIY" sometimes being silly / my personal choices to outsource, and I'm looking for articles/content to best explain what I meant. Read on for Ron Swanson, Portlandia, and other such excitement. [more inside]
Changes in tax deductions for charitable donations
I am confused about what is going on with charitable donations in the new tax bill. If my donations will be deductible for 2017 but not 2018, I will make a bunch of extra donations in advance. If it won't make a difference, I will continue with my usual steady donating, which is probably better for charities' budgets than lumpy donating. [more inside]
posted by insoluble uncertainty at 9:59 AM PST - 2 comments
posted by insoluble uncertainty at 9:59 AM PST - 2 comments
What can I do with foil-backed poly-iso rigid foam insulation?
I have two full sheets and some scraps of Rmax Thermasheath poly-iso with foil on both sides. After some research including an earlier AskMefi, I realized it was NOT the right thing for sub-grade basement exterior walls, due to the vapor barrier which will be a place of condensation. So what is it good for? [more inside]
posted by msalt at 9:50 AM PST - 3 comments
posted by msalt at 9:50 AM PST - 3 comments
Pie filling for pie
What's a good filling to mak with the following ingredients? [more inside]
posted by tedious at 9:32 AM PST - 9 comments
posted by tedious at 9:32 AM PST - 9 comments
I have a weird blistering disease, how can I identify triggers?
I am too young (36) to have an autoimmune blistering disease but it seems I do- and it's been mild over the years but I'm having a flare up and I'd like it to stop, hopefully forever. What should I do to figure out what changes I need to make? [more inside]
posted by catspajammies at 9:30 AM PST - 12 comments
posted by catspajammies at 9:30 AM PST - 12 comments
Giving back to those in need..
Which charity should I donate to? [more inside]
Linzer Cookie Recipe, Please!
I'm making linzer cookies for an office cook swap (they are due a week from Friday). I've never made them before and was planning to use the Serious Eats recipe, but is there a different one I should be using instead? [more inside]
posted by Mrs. Pterodactyl at 7:16 AM PST - 4 comments
posted by Mrs. Pterodactyl at 7:16 AM PST - 4 comments
Best Hyperlocal Charity--Bay Area!
A friend from grad school made a generous donation in my honor to a very-local-to-me charity and I'd like to reciprocate with something specific to San Francisco/Berkeley/Oakland that's focused on relief from homelessness or something more general (and progressive and hopefully not religious in anyway) related toward improving income-disparity-related misery.
I can use a search engine but would prefer a recommendation from a local who can direct me to somewhere local, doing meaningful work to address the needs of its own community.
Like TED, but you can be in your pyjamas the whole time
I'm looking for examples of successful virtual conferences! Events where there is little-to-no opportunity for an in-person presence, and the presenters are likely presenting from different remote locations. [more inside]
How to get started with free GIS tools
I've been thinking about trying to dabble with GIS in an urban setting. I'm not going to fork out for expensive tools, so I'm looking for free ones. I'm asking this as a complete noob - so I probably don't even know the right questions to be asking here - but my initial requirements are inside. Thank you! [more inside]
posted by carter at 6:18 AM PST - 12 comments
posted by carter at 6:18 AM PST - 12 comments
Dog displayed food aggression for the first time
My dog growled, raised her hackles, and peed when my partner approached her while she was eating today. What do we do? [more inside]
posted by soy_renfield at 5:40 AM PST - 17 comments
posted by soy_renfield at 5:40 AM PST - 17 comments
Navigating emotional infidelity
A friend is experiencing a breach in her relationship - on one side there has been emotional infidelity with an ex. I'd really like to give her some good advice but am out of my depth - googling the subject brought up ALOT of dross. I'd also like to understand it further myself now it's come up - I know that many couples go through this. Would anyone mind sharing any useful resources? [more inside]
My partner went shooting, I am 100% against it. How to deal?
I am super upset that my partner went on a shooting outing during a recent trip with friends. I feel sick about it. Am I wrong? [more inside]
December 5
Mirroring desktop to tablet (remote desktop)
I'm looking for a way to mirror a desktop Windows PC to an Android tablet. [more inside]
posted by roaring beast at 8:03 PM PST - 4 comments
posted by roaring beast at 8:03 PM PST - 4 comments
Pickle Bites Man, Film at 11.
What is this seed-like object in my Indian pickle?
Here are two pics of them, one pic with one of them cut open.
To splurge, I go to a local Indian restaurant (Chaat House in Redmond, WA). There, no matter what I get, I get the achaar, which is a sour Indian pickle. I love it so. It usually contains some ingredients that I recognize, like mango and hot pepper. However, there's always this small, green, hard object, that I've ignored - until now. [more inside]
posted by spinifex23 at 7:12 PM PST - 14 comments
posted by spinifex23 at 7:12 PM PST - 14 comments
Funny surreal absurd non-political Twitter accounts to follow?
I want to escape angry political Twitter and read more funny, absurd, non-political accounts. Who should I follow? [more inside]
An entree with meat and apples
The Governor of Tennessee's Roast Apple Boar!
That's a made up dish. But do you have a stellar recipe for an entree that includes apples? [more inside]
Alexa, how do I Alexa my lighting?
We'd like to control our lighting with our Amazon Dots. But there's so much stuff to look through? Can you help us get our bearings so that we know what we'll need? [more inside]
posted by DirtyOldTown at 5:38 PM PST - 4 comments
posted by DirtyOldTown at 5:38 PM PST - 4 comments
Weavers, please
I got a throw from a local weaver last year that I believe is made from chenille thread. All was fine until this summer when I started seeing some loose ends. I clipped them short and forgot about it. Now the throw is a mess, but not just where it started - both ends, and different parts of the middle. Pictures here. [more inside]
posted by evening at 5:30 PM PST - 4 comments
posted by evening at 5:30 PM PST - 4 comments
Costume party -- what to wear? Theme is "White Elephant Exchange"
I need really good ideas for what to wear to a Christmas costume party with the silly and expansive theme of "White Elephant Gift Exchange." Help! [more inside]
Is there a way to text people on my Macbook with my Android number?
I recently got a Moto GP and a new number.
I miss being able to text people from my Macbook using the Messages app. Please recommend a way for me to text people on my Macbook. [more inside]
I guess I am asking for relationship help?
How to be cool with changes in relationships that I'm not cool with... [snowflakes abound inside] [more inside]
Civic Education Recommendations
I realized recently that there is a ton that I do not know about the workings of our government & country. This was most recently on display during the 2017 tax bill fiasco, attempting to figure out what the hell was going on, or what the next steps would be after the Senate approved something at 2am.
While I wish I had paid more attention in high school, those days are long gone. Does anyone have a recommendation for a textbook or even online course that would provide an in-depth understanding of how things work? [more inside]
How to use the dating app Bumble?
How to use the dating app Bumble? (From a female perspective) [more inside]
Legwarmers to take off over shoes
I would like a pair of legwarmers that I can slip on and off over a pair of athletic shoes (while wearing workout capris). I can't find anything like this online -- I don't care how they come off -- they can be extra stretchy or have a zipper, or something else, I just don't want to take my shoes off to put them on or take them off. Surely such a thing must exist -- where can I buy it?
Can I find Mallory Ortberg/The Toast's version of The Little Mermaid?
The marvellous humour/feminism/pop culture/literature/all culture, and Metafilter favourite, website The Toast has been sadly retired for a while now, but I thought it was all staying online for the present at least.
Possibly one of my favourite things I ever read was Mallory Ortberg's beautiful, violent and empowered version of The Little Mermaid from her "Children's Stories Made Horrific" series but it's gone!
It's vanished from the Google results and, where I've found old blogs, Pinterests, etc which purport to link directly to it, I get basically a 404. Did they get got by either Anderson's estate, Disney or whoever has the rights now?
Anyway can anyone point me to a copy of the text at least somewhere? I neeeeeds it.
posted by Dext at 2:33 PM PST - 4 comments
posted by Dext at 2:33 PM PST - 4 comments
However did trees/bushes grow before we came along?
For real, whenever I look up "plant tree" or anything like that, it's a long, tedious process. I don't have time for all that. I mean, can't I just cast a bunch of seeds and hope for the best? Isn't that what trees do naturally? [more inside]
posted by patheral at 2:06 PM PST - 17 comments
posted by patheral at 2:06 PM PST - 17 comments
Cool annual reports & social media integration
Seeking examples of annual reports (preferably from nonprofits) that are snazzy, accessible, and well-integrated with the organization's communications (for example, incorporating infographics that are also shared on social media).
UK holiday, lots of driving, January - your guidance requested
My late mother was a Londoner, as was her mother. Granddad was Glaswegian. My ex was a Dorset lad. My travel experience in the UK outside of those areas is somewhat limited. I'm taking my lovely husband to the UK (flying in and out of London from the States) for 10 days next month, and I want it to be a wonderful experience for him. Important facts: 1) he's never been to Europe, 2) he loves driving, 3) he loves national parks. My current plan below... [more inside]
posted by pammeke at 1:48 PM PST - 22 comments
posted by pammeke at 1:48 PM PST - 22 comments
Looking for intersectional activities and discussion prompts
I (a white, queer cis-woman) am helping revamp my org's training on allyship, marginalization, power and privilege. In the past, this training has been split over two days (10 - 5 both days) with the first class being centered on race and the second class centered on gender. Help me make them more intersectional! [more inside]
What is google voice anymore?
My apartment call box currently rings my google voice number when people buzz me. I would very much like that number to ring my boyfriend's cell phone at the same time. It seems like Google has retired that feature. Can I still do it somehow, whether with google or with another service? Bonus points if it can ring an amazon echo or google home or something, too. [more inside]
"Men's" crew-neck shirts with larger-than-normal necklines?
I am a cis man and love crew-neck t-shirts that have relatively wide or large necklines. The best I have been able to do is get lucky with some designery brands (usually too expensive/flimsy/silly for my daily shirt needs) or cut out the neck on regular crew necks (which works but ain't the same).
Is anyone making the t-shirts of my dreams?? Also interested in other tops — sweaters, long-sleeve shirts, etc. — that have this feature! [more inside]
posted by wemayfreeze at 1:16 PM PST - 3 comments
posted by wemayfreeze at 1:16 PM PST - 3 comments
Help me dress like the post-apocalyptic hedge witch of my dreams
My favored style aesthetic is your weird high school art teacher as styled by Ann Demeulemeester. Where should I be shopping (or, more likely, pining from afar) for clothes? [more inside]
posted by helloimjennsco at 1:16 PM PST - 19 comments
posted by helloimjennsco at 1:16 PM PST - 19 comments
Dog friendly hikes near Moab?
In mid December, my dog and I will be traveling through the Arches/Canyonlands/Moab area. I know that my dear doggy friend is not permitted on the trails within the national parks. Can you recommend any trails outside the parks that are dog friendly and still really flipping cool and beautiful and similar to the in-the-parks-landscape? Looking for hikes 2-12 miles. Looking for stunning unique views.
posted by Grandysaur at 12:58 PM PST - 3 comments
posted by Grandysaur at 12:58 PM PST - 3 comments
Affordable solutions for framing or hanging a poster?
I have a poster that I want to hang, but I want to avoid just tacking it to the wall because that looks crappy. How can I affordably hang it in a nicer way? [more inside]
posted by still bill at 12:44 PM PST - 21 comments
posted by still bill at 12:44 PM PST - 21 comments
Best online coding bootcamp - NOT looking for a job!
Retiring 45 year old wants to learn how to develop and launch soup-to-nuts web apps and also play with data science tools. Doesn't need to be paid at the end but does want to know "the real deal." Thoughts on best bootcamps? [more inside]
posted by mtstover at 12:42 PM PST - 7 comments
posted by mtstover at 12:42 PM PST - 7 comments
Sun lamp for fashion purposes
I'm trying to buy a special kind of lamp for a gift. This is a lamp that puts out a sun-like solar spectrum which can be used for fashion photography. [more inside]
Help grieving people who have left, but not died
After a really rough year of having major surgery for a stage 4 illness and having a wonderful therapeutic relationship end b/c she moved, I'm left with few people who have stuck around. How do you grieve people who chose to leave and grieve people who did not die (like the therapist)? Personal stories are super helpful, especially stories in which people actually stuck around. [more inside]
posted by Kombucha3452 at 11:50 AM PST - 3 comments
posted by Kombucha3452 at 11:50 AM PST - 3 comments
Does This Financial Advisor Exist?
I know about the kind of financial advisors who help you plan your retirement, figure out how to save for your kids' college, etc. How about an advisor who can look at your spending habits and suggest things for those? Does that exist? [more inside]
posted by EmpressCallipygos at 11:03 AM PST - 8 comments
posted by EmpressCallipygos at 11:03 AM PST - 8 comments
How to get music/podcasts to play when iphonex screen is off?
Ok, I know I need to do my homework as to how to work my new phone (iphonex), but: if I have media (iTunes, Spotify, a podcast) playing and then I use the right-hand button to turn off the screen, the media stops. My 6s definitely didn’t do this. Help?
Negotiation openers 101 (or how to get paid what I'm worth)
I'm up for contract renewal and have already shown that in my first six months on the job I did far more than I was hired to do. I'm worth more, I know it and I think the boss knows it. I've never been in this place. I think it's a 5-10 minute conversation. So how do I start it and keep it going? [more inside]
posted by AnOrigamiLife at 10:43 AM PST - 8 comments
posted by AnOrigamiLife at 10:43 AM PST - 8 comments
What was the "naughty medicine" I was given as a child?
I grew up in the 1970s in London in a draughty and cold flat. When I was about seven I developed a habit of what I called "holding myself", not going to pee until my bladder was absolutely bursting.
My mother noticed this because I would sit there wriggling and fidgeting, and although I don't recall being taken to the doctor, I do remember being given what she called "naughty medicine" if she caught me holding myself. [more inside]
What is this pirate cartoon image?
My grandfather had this poster up in his office for my entire life. Now that my grandmother is downsizing, she's getting rid of things, and we're trying to ID it. There is no signature, logo, or text of any sort. She seems to think it was a mascot for an oil company, but my searching has been useless. Any ideas?
Tips for organizing a year of self-directed projects?
I’m a consulting product developer and I’m voluntarily underemployed at the moment. I’m thinking of continuing this reduced workload in 2018 if I can afford it, and I’m interested in working on a series of small projects/experiments (mostly art and music tech related) to stretch myself a bit. Ideally, I’d like to release work on a regular basis. I’m wondering if a frameworks exist for organizing such an endeavor. Or if any of you have worked in this manner and can offer suggestions, patterns or anti-patterns? [more inside]
Please recommend me some philosophy books based on what I've read so far
So I've read a few philosophy books but have run out of ideas as to what to read next. So far I've read Darryl Reanney: The death of forever, music of the mind, after death (and more continued inside). [more inside]
Making Sonos play nice with Apple
We just got a Sonos system. I like to listen to podcasts, and would like my podcasts to play over the Sonos. I also want to listen to my podcasts while commuting, and have the system pick up where I left off when I get home. Can I make this work within Sonos, or do I need to get a new podcast manager that does play nicely with Sonos? If so, which one? [more inside]
posted by Liesl at 8:22 AM PST - 8 comments
posted by Liesl at 8:22 AM PST - 8 comments
Photoshop my room
I want to do a personalized recreation of Carnovsky's RGB murals for a wall in our bedroom (yes, it will be insane, yes it will be awesome). I have found a few companies that make custom mural wallpaper, I have a bunch of images I want to use for the design, I have basic (basic) photoshop skills. I completely lack the ability to understand how to make this work technically (what colors to use, how many layers I will need). Can anyone with RGB-CMYK knowledge and design understanding walk me through this please? The idea is when you shine different color lights on the wall, different images show through. Thank you!
posted by andreapandrea at 8:04 AM PST - 5 comments
posted by andreapandrea at 8:04 AM PST - 5 comments
Work-appropriate women's jeans recommendations for 2017/2018?
I have realized it's time for new jeans. But I've also realized I'm out of touch with what's in style right now. Please help me pick a work-appropriate style that is most flattering to my body type and will not make me look a) fashion-ignorant or b) as though I'm trying to dress like one of my 20 year old students. [more inside]
posted by hurdy gurdy girl at 7:56 AM PST - 18 comments
posted by hurdy gurdy girl at 7:56 AM PST - 18 comments
I need a new Seattle coffee shop
Tell me about your favorite Seattle coffee shop! [more inside]
posted by plasticpalacealice at 7:56 AM PST - 14 comments
posted by plasticpalacealice at 7:56 AM PST - 14 comments
A book, an opera, a soprano.
Is ther any way that I can get my hands on a CD or recording of the lyric opera staging of Bel Canto? [more inside]
Questions about floor refinishing/restoration
Do you know anything about floor sanding/refinishing/restoration? [more inside]
Recommendations on books to deal with insecurity about money?
I have issues with incecurity around earning and money, in particular not earning enough, not having enough for retirement and not earning megabucks. These issues are impeding my quality of life. Looking for recommendations on books that might help with rationalising my thoughts [more inside]
Discovering new depths of academic burnout
I'm under a lot of pressure at school without a whole lot of faculty support or guidance. I've started feeling sick whenever it's time to work on stuff, and frankly, I can no longer summon the will. I'm assuming this happens to everyone at some point. Did this happen to you when you were a student? How can I get through this without sabotaging my academic career? How should I decide when it's time to walk away? [more inside]
There’s something in the walls...
This isn’t a Charlotte Perkins Gibman story, I fear it might be a little more hairy. What do? [more inside]
posted by buttonedup at 4:41 AM PST - 8 comments
posted by buttonedup at 4:41 AM PST - 8 comments
"Lovingly" mock a kid with feigned abandonment - is there a word for it?
I wonder if there's an accurate, descriptive word for this kind of parenting behaviour: feigning abandonment of a child, but with tease and "humorous", instead of anger and threat. Can I find more literature on this? [more inside]
posted by runcifex at 4:34 AM PST - 32 comments
posted by runcifex at 4:34 AM PST - 32 comments
What are some everyday ways that I can do good in the world?
I am a SAHM for the moment. (I will most likely be heading back to work in a year.) For a few days a week, I have some child free spare time while kids are in preschool/school. I'm looking for little things I can do every day to make the world a better place. It can be simple things, like meat free Monday, to helping out at a soup kitchen, or just buying...less. But either way I'd like to incorporate regular ways of being a better citizen into my normal routine, given that working in a Ugandan orphanage isn't feasible for me right now. I have time, marketing skills and have the ability to donate that skill set online too.
posted by Jubey at 4:33 AM PST - 17 comments
posted by Jubey at 4:33 AM PST - 17 comments
Stuck in the middle--or am I?
How do you navigate a potentially fraught situation, when it doesn't directly involve you, but you find yourself in the middle nonetheless? [more inside]
December 4
Job advice
New job offer, possible other new job offer coming soon, now what? (Health care field if it matters) [more inside]
How to get over a bitch eating crackers?
Imagine a person whose every word or action drives you crazy. I know someone like that, and I want to get over it. [more inside]
Experiential gifts in Seattle for someone who is always cold
I want to give the gift of warmth to a loved one who is always cold due to cancer and chemotherapy. Where can I bring this person in the Seattle area that will warm him up, at least for an afternoon? [more inside]
Historical fiction me! (social change edition)
I would like some recommendations about historical fiction which are set in times of significant social change, and look at how people react to this. It doesn't have to be the main theme but I would like it to be in there. [more inside]
Can I use my own videos as an Apple TV screensaver?
I have an Apple TV (4th gen) and it displays the aerial videos as a screensaver. I like the idea, but I would like to use my own videos in their place. Is there some way I can get the Apple TV screensaver to play my videos? [more inside]
posted by robcorr at 7:44 PM PST - 1 comment
posted by robcorr at 7:44 PM PST - 1 comment
Itching my way to insanity
YANMD and I plan on going to one, but would like to know what I'm in for because it might be a few days before I can get in. Details and pics inside. [more inside]
The pipeline, women in engineering
Women PhDs in engineering seem to be struggeling to get jobs right out of the gate. Men seem to do better bagging high paying or desireable positions despite women being just as competent and often more "together."
I've seen this trend over many PhD graduates in the last 6 or so years. Many women I know can't find any position or only bag a decent one after a year of networking and a dozen interviews. Is this a self promotion issue? Is there some unconscious bias in hiring? How can we close this gap?
Trying To Find The Title Of A Book About Home
Within the last couple of days I was reading a book review about a book of essays about the nature of home. However, I lost the page before I could record the title. I believe all the authors were women, and I think the book was published in the last few months (or maybe is about to be published). One of the comments in the review was something like home is where we can be ourselves. Does it sound familiar to anyone?
posted by purplesludge at 7:02 PM PST - 2 comments
posted by purplesludge at 7:02 PM PST - 2 comments
How to avoid coming across as overly familiar to a new person?
Is there an etiquette to meeting someone after you've had a chance to check out their LinkedIn profile, but before you've actually met and they don't know who you are? [more inside]
posted by Gosha_Dog at 5:05 PM PST - 7 comments
posted by Gosha_Dog at 5:05 PM PST - 7 comments
What's the name of this idea?
I read somewhere that sometime in the past couple hundred years there was an idea in western culture that a person's civilized nature was a thin and fragile veneer overlying an uncontrollable and animalistic inner self. Is there a name for this? [more inside]
Etiquette for tattooing an intimate area?
So, long story short, I'm considering getting a tattoo on my hip or butt cheek. Is there some etiquette I should be aware of with regards to talking to an artist about this? Maybe I'm overthinking this but I can imagine some artists would prefer to avoid being face down in some guy's rear for an hour or two (or more) and I'd like to avoid offending anybody.
Help me understand the Echo Dot
I would like to buy my husband an Echo Dot for Christmas, but I am technologically challenged and want to make sure I buy the necessary accessories. [more inside]
Looking for an all-purpose, all-season turf/hiking/trail shoe.
Do you have a favorite turf/hiking/trail running shoe? If so let me know, details inside. [more inside]
Log In with Facebook for account creation and contacts list access
What iOS apps use Log In With Facebook (vs create account with email) to specifically gain access to your friends list and profile info AND also encourage you to give access to your phone book to see who is already on the app and who you could invite to the app as well? [more inside]
posted by Hermione Granger at 2:36 PM PST - 3 comments
posted by Hermione Granger at 2:36 PM PST - 3 comments
How do I approach discussion with a friend who may be white nationalist?
They just recently posted a meme that seems to show them as sympathetic to a pseudo-Germanic white nationalist group. How do I approach asking them about what this means, and (gently?) confront them about supporting a hate group? Are there techniques that I can learn for discussing difficult subjects like this? [more inside]
posted by mboszko at 1:46 PM PST - 21 comments
posted by mboszko at 1:46 PM PST - 21 comments
Need transcripts of baseball game play-by-play
I'd like to read transcripts of baseball play-by-play. [more inside]
posted by cosmicbandito at 1:25 PM PST - 3 comments
posted by cosmicbandito at 1:25 PM PST - 3 comments
In which technology makes someone lonely, #8791239
Geographically distant from my friends and family, most of my social communication is asynchronous. This makes me feel lonely and unheard. Is this normal? [more inside]
Baby gift logistics/etiquette
Buying a baby gift for a colleague/former boss whose partner is due after the holidays. Is it better to order stuff off the registry and have it shipped to them, or give it to them at the office? And, what's an appropriate amount to spend? [more inside]
posted by acidic at 12:26 PM PST - 14 comments
posted by acidic at 12:26 PM PST - 14 comments
We love honey, but aren't too fond of the sticky mess
We eat a lot of honey at our house, particularly in tea. Larger containers cost less per ounce, but generally lack a handy pour spout that are found on smaller containers. With that, what are good honey pots or dispensers? Honey pots with little serving utensils/spoons look cute but sticky, while honey dispensers that pour from the bottom look nice but I'm concerned they'd leak a lot between the holder and mug of tea. MeFites, what is best?
Interview mixup stress
I missed an important Skype interview because of a time zone mixup and I’m beating myself up. Hearing examples of people who have made interview mistakes (especially if things turned out okay) would help me take some perspective here. [more inside]
I want a wotsit that tells me when my mobile phone rings. Nothing else.
I solved my chronic procrastination problem (hooray!) by simply putting my mobile six feet away in a bag while I'm working. I would like, therefore, a gadget that quietly dings or buzzes when my phone rings. It doesn't need to be wearable, show the caller's name or count my steps or track my sleep. However, all I'm finding is poorly reviewed junk, or expensive smartwatches. I have an iPhone 6s if that matters. Any recommendations? [more inside]
Wait: what are the rules around rabbis?
I'm meeting with a traditional rabbi in a business context. His secretary was gracious enough to warn me that he does not shake hands with people of the opposite sex that aren't his wife.
Is there anything else I should know as to not offend? [more inside]
how to create visual stakeholder and asset mapping? in Visio or other ?
I am trying to create an asset map of community resources and visually depict community stakeholders. What is a stragithforward way to do this? I have never used Visio, do they have a trial offer, is this the easiest program?
I am looking to create something like this
or this -- but I can't find the original. Is there a way to write on this? maybe in powerpoint
thank you
What type of dance lessons would help my husband?
My husband is not a good dancer. What type of lessons could he take that would help him shake it on the dance floor? [more inside]
Looking for suggestions for solo travel in SE Asia in February
I'm a woman in my mid-30s from the US and I will be in Vietnam for about a week in February, with friends. I'd like to extend my trip for another few days to a week but if I do, it will likely be solo. I have limited solo traveling experience, so I'm looking for suggestions as to fun and safe places in the region to add to the trip. [more inside]
What is the ideal email marketing workflow model for multiple clients?
Struggling to find an example of the best process for some email marketing - the approvals of copy, through to the launch of the final email for our unique sort-of, but not really franchise model. Any thoughts, experience or examples? Nitty gritty inside. [more inside]
Help a beanplating solo traveller figure out a decent vacation spot!
I feel like I'm past due for another vacation that doesn't involve sitting at home. The obvious place for me to go, and the one I keep thinking about, is Japan. But surely there are other places I could go instead, given that I just went there three years ago! [more inside]
Entertainment for the easily carsick
What activities that do not involve screens, movies, reading, coloring books or in general concentrating on something visually would you recommend for a car trip (~4 hours) with a young elementary kid?
posted by typecloud at 11:12 AM PST - 29 comments
posted by typecloud at 11:12 AM PST - 29 comments
Motivation without misery?
When I'm content or generally happy with my life, I do very little to improve it. When I want something, however, I become obsessed and miserable but throw myself into the effort to "fix it". [more inside]
Cutting out the cutting boards
I am a non-handy person, and need to remove two 1970’s built in glass cutting boards… quickly, and with minimal damage to the surrounding countertops. Suggestions? [more inside]
Should we add new Pergo next to old?
Our kitchen has ~15 year old Pergo in it (we love it) and we are thinking about extending it into the dining room. It looks like the Marigold Oak or Haley Oak shade. Would we be able to find an acceptable match in the current inventory and just add it on, or are we going to have to rip out all of the kitchen flooring as well? [more inside]
Where is the "just right" luggage?
I have one suitcase that's too big and one that's too small. I used to have one that was just right, but I gave it to my son. I'm losing my mind trying to find something in between. [more inside]
posted by FencingGal at 8:40 AM PST - 15 comments
posted by FencingGal at 8:40 AM PST - 15 comments
Does regular use of permanent hair dye/bleach cause baldness?
My mom permanently lost most of her hair by age 40. I recall seeing photos from when I was born (she was 30 then) and she still had some hair but it was very wispy and you could very easily see her scalp. My dad says it's because she regularly dyed/bleached her hair starting at age 14. Is this really a thing? [more inside]
Conflicting advice about what to do after being rear-ended
I was rear-ended last night on the highway. I am reading conflicting things about telling my insurance, the other party's insurance, or both. [more inside]
Looking for a cheaper version of Carrie Fisher's earrings
On the promo tour for The Force Awakens, Carrie Fisher wore gorgeous starburst earrings. The ones she actually wore are somewhat outside my budget and I've spent a lot of time trawling fashion jewelry shops, Etsy and Ali Express for something in that general starburst shape and size. Can anyone help me find a non-Hollywood-priced lookalike pair?
posted by I claim sanctuary at 7:16 AM PST - 11 comments
posted by I claim sanctuary at 7:16 AM PST - 11 comments
Is ICE checking phones of non-citizens at the border? Privacy tips?
I'm going to be traveling outside the US and re-entering on a valid visa. How likely is it my phone might be inspected on re-entry? I have nothing to hide (and am not from a travel ban or Muslim-majority country), but don't like the idea of immigration agents reading my email etc. Has anyone here had their phone inspected entering the US, or heard of someone who has? What would be best practices for keeping as much as privacy as possible in case one's phone is inspected -- I'll definitely be logging out of email, deleting cookies and clearing browser history before going through the border, but how effective is that and what else would you do?
If it's not IBS-D what is it?
After getting a really bad case of food poisoning about four years ago I found that I had continuing GI issues that still aren't resolved. I've been to 5 different doctors (2 GI specialists) and they keep telling me it's IBS-D but one of the core symptoms of IBS is pain and bloating -- a symptom I lack entirely. (TMI details below the fold!) [more inside]
What's going on with my boobs?
YANMD. Both of my breasts started hurting a week ago. They're heavy, sore, and my nippes are so tender it's a bear to put on a bra or shirt. I'm two years into menopause and am absolutely not pregnant. What gives? [more inside]
December 3
Political change for the collector type?
I dislike protests - less in their value and more in the actually attending them.
On the other hand, I love scouring for things of value. Are there any useful political activities which rely on somebody picking up on otherwise obscure laws/rules/exceptions? [more inside]
Where are all the natural nature photographs?
Where are all the nature photographs at? I am looking for photos (or sites that reliably host them) of forests, deserts, tundras, what-have-you, which are NOT retouched or color saturated. This can be anything from an artist's portfolio to family vacations, it just has to be real. [more inside]
Please help protect me from evil eye!
What's this cat's name?
This was me. Long story short, I moved to a unit in my building where I can have pets, and one trip to the shelter later, I'm ride or die with this majestic rat-trap. I just brought her home and she's in my bathroom cavorting among the toys and boxes afforded by her new lifestyle--now all she needs is a name. [more inside]
Academic job market; writing sample question
Hypothetically speaking: if my friend Fred is on the academic job market in the humanities, and he is asked very nicely to furnish writing samples on extremely short notice, and he doesn't quite have everything together...what would you do if you were Fred? [more inside]
posted by redwaterman at 8:06 PM PST - 7 comments
posted by redwaterman at 8:06 PM PST - 7 comments
How does Ibuprofen work?
I'm realizing I don't understand how basic pain relief works. So: can I use Ibuprofen before (activity that hurts my body) instead of waiting until the pain hits me? [more inside]
posted by BlahLaLa at 6:08 PM PST - 17 comments
posted by BlahLaLa at 6:08 PM PST - 17 comments
Housing the Homeless: What works, what doesn't?
The title says it all - we're a community of about 300,000 with a massive influx of homeless from surrounding communities. We want to make things better for as many people as possible. [more inside]
Please remove my app functionality.
I'm looking for a really simple photo viewing app that does not have options for sharing or editing, but is just a viewer. I would like videos to work, and to manually progress through pictures (not an automatic slideshow). Does such a thing exist? Looking for both Android and iOS apps. [more inside]
The Day After
How do you recover when you feel like you really bombed at something? What techniques do you have for mentally letting things go when you don't feel like you did your best? [more inside]
Suggestions for winter hiking groups, guided hikes
Avid hiker here. This winter, help me escape the dreary Northwest for a few weekend hikes (2-3 night camps) somewhere warmer and sunnier. [more inside]
How do I invest?
I have always been good at saving money, and anxious about investing it. But I'm trying to Be An Adult and incrementally move my savings from my bank account into ETFs. I have some questions. [more inside]
Roommate/Landlord Holiday Gifts?
My landlord is also my roommate. This is my first Christmas in this situation and I don't know what's appropriate when it comes to gift giving. [more inside]
Is the quip toothbrush any good?
I'm considering a quip electric toothbrush, but it's hard to find solid information. Can any MeFites share their experiences? [more inside]
posted by Cogito at 4:13 PM PST - 11 comments
posted by Cogito at 4:13 PM PST - 11 comments
Olive the other oil nuts
I don't like olive oil. There, I said it. I dislike the taste and scent, and find it gets too scorchy when cooking. What oil should I be cooking with? [more inside]
posted by pseudostrabismus at 3:58 PM PST - 27 comments
posted by pseudostrabismus at 3:58 PM PST - 27 comments
Coping with loss of a significant relationship - how to move on?
My former best friend walk out of my life about six months ago - how do you let go of a relationship when you still care about them? [more inside]
posted by snowysoul at 3:46 PM PST - 17 comments
posted by snowysoul at 3:46 PM PST - 17 comments
Ready to upgrade to some nice, high quality things...
where does one get those things? [more inside]
Found something to put on my face! Now, how do I take it off?
A while back I asked this question about sunscreen. I tried a lot of stuff, including the Elta MD UV Pure (which worked great, btw!) But now I've found my Holy Grail Sunscreen. I just can't figure out how best to get it off my face efficiently, once it's on. [more inside]
Out of the box ways to extend block play?
My 13-month-old is obsessed with a set of small, square blocks he has. I’m looking for creative ways to extend his play with these. [more inside]
posted by ficbot at 3:05 PM PST - 2 comments
posted by ficbot at 3:05 PM PST - 2 comments
Sci-fi/Fantasy novel for a 4-5 year old
Looking for sci-fi/fanstasy book recommendations suitable for a 4-5 year old. Bonus points for ones that are available as an audiobook, so we can listen to them when we're in the car. [more inside]
Dear Chinese-Speaking Mefites: Help me find out the name of this grain
I studied TCM a while ago and stocked up on Chinese herbs to make tonics. It´s been a while and today I was organizing my pantry and found this. I usually write down the English names of the things I buy, but somehow this does not have it. I suspect it can be Pearl Barley but I´m not sure. Any ideas would be greatly appreciated!
Characters like Oz from Buffy the Vampire Slayer?
Looking for TV shows and movies with a very specific kind of sarcasm. [more inside]
Replacement for Yahoo Groups?
I help manage a group of about 500 people on Yahoo Groups. We want off and are looking for an alternative. I tried Mailman (which is available through Dreamhost) but my beta group said the interface was too ugly and I need to find something less clunky. Google Groups may not be an option because I believe it requires a Google account. Any other ideas?
posted by rednikki at 10:56 AM PST - 18 comments
posted by rednikki at 10:56 AM PST - 18 comments
whats up with the trees this year?
As I've been out walking this year, I've noticed that about 25% of our non pine trees still have leaves on them. Sometimes, it's an entire tree, sometimes, like my backyard, a quarter of the leaves just haven't fallen. On oaks, the leaves have turned brown, however there are some other varieties that remain green. Some of the trees are huge 60 ft trees, and some are newly planted.
I live in Maine, so these are normally down and raked by mid November. Any thoughts? Is it climate change?
posted by rudy26 at 9:59 AM PST - 16 comments
posted by rudy26 at 9:59 AM PST - 16 comments
Tenderers tender tenders and tender bid tenders to tenders?
Please explain the difference between bid and tender to me like I am 5. [more inside]
Do we need a handyman? A plumber? Who can fix this?
So, it appears that there is some sort of leak coming from my mother's kitchen sink. When you turn the kitchen faucet on, water leaks from the base of the faucet. Of course, the problem is not as simple as a leaky tap. It appears that the bottom of the cabinet under the sink is rotting away. I'm not a handy person at all and I have no idea who to get to help. Who do I call? [more inside]
posted by modesty.blaise at 9:13 AM PST - 9 comments
posted by modesty.blaise at 9:13 AM PST - 9 comments
Accessing an old blockchain.info wallet...
Seems I'm in a predicament not dissimilar to Frauenfelder's (though with way less potential loss involved): the two records I kept from a (very) minor Bitcoin purchase several years ago are a copy of the blockchain.info QR code image, and the wallet.aes.json file that was emailed to me. Only recently did I even remember having got that far - and thought to reaccess that wallet. Which is when things started looking more complicated. [more inside]
How do I get out of this roommate situation?
When my friend offhandedly asked me about rooming together, I expressed interest. It's a week later and he thinks we're rooming together and I think it's a bad idea. How do I bow out gracefully without ruining our friendship? [more inside]
Ethical Christmas Lights
After reading about the horrific conditions under which most christmas lights are made, I have stopped buying them. Does anyone know if there are brands of christmas lights that are produced under ethical conditions and where one could purchase them?
sourcing candle fragrances
Where can I buy higher end fragrance oils for candle making in small quantities or samplers in the kinds of earthier, not sweet or floral scents I want? [more inside]
Help me find Marina's large black disc earrings in S1 of "The Magicians"
Android: changing the keyboard with a trigger?
I love Swype. However, it has a bug that when I connect a Bluetooth keyboard to my phone, the shift key of the physical keyboard isn't recognized. When I change from Swype to GBoard or any other keyboard, the BT keyboard works as expected. Is there a way to make my phone switch from Swype to GBoard when I turn on my BT keyboard and then back to Swype when I disconnect the physical keyboard? (Not looking for pitches for SwiftKey or other Swype alternatives.) Thanks!
How long can roaches (or their eggs) survive without oxygen?
We are storing some personal items in our house for a family member who is going through hard times. Mainly t-shirts, CDs, small-ish art prints, and some records. When we collected these items, this person's house was horribly infested with german roaches. In an attempt to prevent the spread of roaches from their house to our own home, I put all of the belongings in a plastic container and painstakingly duct-taped the lids to the containers. [more inside]
Healing after abuse & grief with discipline - but how?
hi everyone. i am writing this as an attempt to heal from depression by figuring out how to become more disciplined.
important to note: i have complex PTSD. pete walker is a genius at this, & his book was the biggest a-ha moment of my life so far.
tell me -- how does one become disciplined? what are small steps? what are big steps? what books do you recommend? videos? resources in general? [more inside]
Sound system for inside and outside
I need to be able to have some speakers set up both inside and outside a building, all playing from the same audio source. How should I go about doing this? [more inside]
Traveling internationally with a cooking knife.
Is a cooking knife in checked luggage a problem going into or out of China? From Tokyo. With a US citizen. [more inside]
Things to do in Miami on Christmas/Christmas Eve
I will be moving to South Florida in a couple weeks - my partner is already there. We are both new to the area, and don't know anyone. What holiday-related events/activities are there in Miami on Christmas and Christmas Eve? [more inside]
Feeling incredibly lost and lonely
This year has not been kind to me (job loss, bereavement, break up of LTR) and most recently a miscarriage. [more inside]
Name that sleazy c-list character actor from the 80s
I am trying to name a crappy movie actor that I remember from the 80s, although he probably worked earlier than that (definitely has a 70s vibe) and into the 90s. As I remember him, he always played the creepy, bit sleazy, New York-ish, guy. He would be the snitch, or the drugged out criminal, or the like. [more inside]
posted by qwip at 2:55 AM PST - 24 comments
posted by qwip at 2:55 AM PST - 24 comments
Feeling inadequate as a scanner personality
I’ve always been interested in tons of different things at once and I’ve never been very good at specializing. My whole life I’ve felt like this is a weakness, but after reading about Barbara Sher’s concept of scanner personalities (including her book), I have come to accept, even embrace, that this is just a natural facet of my personality. However, there are still times when this makes me feel inadequate and I'd love to hear how others deal with this side of being a 'scanner'. [more inside]
posted by thebots at 2:34 AM PST - 17 comments
posted by thebots at 2:34 AM PST - 17 comments
Upcoming Retreats or Workshops in New Zeland's North island
I'm looking for retreats or workshops between now and December 17th on New Zealand's North Island. I'd like to be in a beautiful location, learning something new, with a focus on personal development and spiritual growth. Do you know of anything that fits the bill? [more inside]
How to pay for someone from Canada to call the US? + Easy & affordable
What’s the easiest way for them (in Toronto, Canada) to call me (in California, USA) that allows me to pay for their call? We are emailing with someone from Canada but we’d like to be able to talk to them on the phone. I want to pay their costs in Canada for calling me in the USA. [more inside]
posted by unclezeb at 1:24 AM PST - 6 comments
posted by unclezeb at 1:24 AM PST - 6 comments
Strategies to stop late-night binge eating
I have struggled with my weight for years, losing and gaining the same 30-40 kg (~66-88 pounds) over and over again, and am at my absolute wits' end. My main problem is night-time binge eating. I would appreciate any advice on how to combat this behaviour! [more inside]
December 2
Can you identify this song?
A while back I asked MeFites to see if they could identify some of the songs in this mixtape, because the guy who put it together hasn't been forthcoming with a tracklist, even when asked ): Most of the songs were identified, but we still don't know what the very first one is, and it's my favourite. We have one small clue—can you help? [more inside]
Seeking Body Weight-Based Upper Body Strength Workout
I am a tubby middle-aged female with flabby arms who would like to improve my upper body strength so I can pick up heavy parcels with ease. [more inside]
posted by whitelotus at 7:44 PM PST - 21 comments
posted by whitelotus at 7:44 PM PST - 21 comments
Dreading Christmas with the inlaws. Help me make sense of my situation.
I am chronically ill in a mixed-race relationship. My in laws are nice enough, but boss me around a bit regarding my illness and in general are purveyors of outdated simplistic notions of people from developing countries. [more inside]
Vicarious travel via music videos
Please recommend English-language music videos where the performer goes to a city abroad and parties it up local style - with a particular focus on street fashion and dance moves [more inside]
ISO soft-body, molded-face, with hair boy doll
It's come to my attention that my baby likes this kind of doll. He has a rag doll, which he likes ok, but the doll with the actual realistic-ish face and hair just fascinated him. Where can I find such a doll in or shipping to Toronto. Examples (pics, but not for sale): 1, 2, 3
What are some cool things hidden in Pale Fire?
I'm almost finished reading Nabokov's Pale Fire. What cool puzzles or twists am I missing in the text? I know a lot of ink has been spent on who Kinbote really is and what the "actual" plot is. But this doesn't interest me since there is no definitive answer afaik. I'm looking for the Easter eggs e.g. Nabokov at one point wrote a poem where the first letters of the lines spelled out a specific word. Are there some unexpected double meanings? Literary trapdoors?
Scrolling Effect in Firefox on Android
When I scroll down the page in firefox on my new android phone (a samsung note 8), it has a screen effect where it puts some shadowy arcs along the right hand and bottom side. I have no idea how to turn it off or even find out if that's possible. It's only firefox and seems to be any website.
Where can I find help on this?
Kitchen lighting inspo
I need to replace the lighting fixture in my apartment kitchen. I'm looking for something stylish but not too difficult to install. Prefer LEDs. More inside! [more inside]
posted by chrchr at 5:24 PM PST - 4 comments
posted by chrchr at 5:24 PM PST - 4 comments
Tattoo like Lisa Orth that I'll actually be able to get in the next year
Who is the best woodcut tattoo artist on the East Coast? [more inside]
Bitter melon served, greater Seattle area?
Looking for any restaurant that serves bitter melon dishes (East and Southeast Asian or Okinawan) in the Seattle area or north to Everett. I am Googling but not finding one, does anyone here know of a place I can find some? Particularly interested in pork and bitter melon stir fry or bitter melon stuffed with pork etc. I have been searching "traditional Chinese restaurant" and looking at menus, no luck so far. Thanks!
Giving Away Power
This week, I've been asked by my therapist to list ways that I give (or gave) power to people or institutions. Can you tell me how you gave power away? [more inside]
How do I find this very specific type of cotton pad?
There is a specific type of cotton pad that I have encountered only in hotels, and I love them. They are different from the kind I am able to find at the local stores I checked. Have you ever seen these, and can you tell me where to find them or what they are called? Pictures and description within. [more inside]
posted by primethyme at 2:41 PM PST - 13 comments
posted by primethyme at 2:41 PM PST - 13 comments
What defines a "new car" from both legal and philosophical perspectives?
I was daydreaming about car restoration and got to thinking about when a car becomes a different, new car. Think Theseus' Ship. At what point would/could you get a new VIN or set the odometer to zero? [more inside]
Moving to Toronto
I'm moving from Sydney to Toronto next March. I have the basics lined up - airbnb booked for the first 2 months, insurance cover before OHIP kicks in. Our first day will be dedicated to exciting things like applying for an SIN, opening bank accounts, getting a phone plan, possibly exchanging drivers licence. Looking at forums, I think that covers all the important stuff, but is there anything that I am missing or any quirks I should be aware of? [more inside]
posted by Kris10_b at 2:30 PM PST - 24 comments
posted by Kris10_b at 2:30 PM PST - 24 comments
Identify this song from a 1990 skateboard video
My friend has been on a quest for years to identify the song played at 1:28:53 in this skateboard video from 1990. [more inside]
Turn-based multiplayer games for Android
I'm looking for recommendations for Android games that I can play with friends who don't live near me. Ideally I could take a turn, and then the game would wait for them to take a turn. Trivia Crack is a pretty good example, but I'd like games from other genres or especially cooperative games like Pandemic. Free or paid is fine. Thanks!
Help me trouble shoot my Macbook Air
I have a three year old Macbook Air that freezes then reboots itself at random times and does not like to be updated. Help? [more inside]
How do I switch from fluorescent tubes to LED bulbs?
I live in the condo that time forgot, and I have fluorescent tube lights. How do I determine what kind of bulbs I need, and if I can in fact just replace the tubes with new LED tubes? [more inside]
Looking for something cool to do in a city not too far far away.
Looking for cool or interesting events within a short flight from NY in the next two weekends. [more inside]
posted by wile e at 1:02 PM PST - 12 comments
posted by wile e at 1:02 PM PST - 12 comments
Non-fiction book, cool, short and sweet
Need a recommendation for a non-fiction book. [more inside]
posted by TheGoodBlood at 12:14 PM PST - 17 comments
posted by TheGoodBlood at 12:14 PM PST - 17 comments
Easy to follow Star Trek book chronology?
I recently purchased a Deep Space Nine Trek book and it’s several books ahead of where I thought I had left off when I finished the Typhon Pact series. I’ve tried to determine what books I’ve missed but I’m finding browsing Memory Beta isn’t really making it simple for me. Is there a better way?
Night turns into day..
Looking for advice on this weird habit, getting out of hand. A good sleeper, I have the tendency to stay up all night whenever I have free days or vacation at home. [more inside]
Help me avoid making a tourtierror
Piefilter: I'm making my first tourtiere of the season, and I want to hear how you make yours! For filling, I'm going in a classic direction (beef, pork, onion, a little potato, herbs de provence, cinnamon and nutmeg), and it's good... but it's not quite perfect. It needs a little... something... and I'm not quite sure what. I'm looking for suggestions! Recipes are great, spice suggestions are great, Best Tourtiere I Ever Ate descriptions are great, hearing about your favourite sides or accompaniments is great (I'm partial to mango chutney).
Tourtiere is great. Talk to me about tourtiere.
posted by halation at 11:38 AM PST - 11 comments
posted by halation at 11:38 AM PST - 11 comments
Reccomend Integrated Wireless Keyboard+Mousing Devices
I'm looking for the best wireless keyboard with a built-in pointing device for couch computing. [more inside]
right now, my vagina is not my friend
So part of me feels like if I never have PIV sex again, my vagina will be happy. I, obviously, won't be. My doctor tells me that these things happen, but what things, exactly, and how can I help my vagina to NOT do these things? (Most likely NSFW.) [more inside]
List of addresses for contacting editors at news outlets?
I want to mail news outlets like NYT, CBS, Fox (i.e., written and broadcast news), and express my opinion about topics they do or don't cover. Is there a list of email addresses or fax addresses for different news outlets? [more inside]
Three Things I Know Nothing About
We just bought a house. Yay! But it's in rural Massachusetts, and is not quite like any house I've lived in. It has a septic system, oil heat, and well water. What do I need to know about these things? [more inside]
Scrooge and A Christmas Carol
There are so many choices when it comes to selecting a version of Dicken's A Christmas Carol to watch. I have a 9 year old son I'd like to watch this with this year. I love the classic old ones. Bill Murray's Scrooged was funny but I think you need to see the original first. What is the best version of Dicken's A Christmas Carol in movie form?
posted by Roger Dodger at 8:07 AM PST - 26 comments
posted by Roger Dodger at 8:07 AM PST - 26 comments
Too much espresso!
I can't singlehandedly drink 6 shots of espresso every morning! [more inside]
posted by winterportage at 7:59 AM PST - 14 comments
posted by winterportage at 7:59 AM PST - 14 comments
Okidata 362w printer problem
I have an Okidata 362w laser printer that won't recognize either of 2 new black toner cartridges. This is driving me batty. [more inside]
Self-Aware Art
I'm looking for examples of art that is self-aware, in any medium--painting, film, song, sculpture, performance, etc--anything that breaks the 4th wall, but in a way that isn't just a wink to the audience. [more inside]
posted by Pig Tail Orchestra at 7:23 AM PST - 24 comments
posted by Pig Tail Orchestra at 7:23 AM PST - 24 comments
can we still be friends?!
Me: a queer woman of colour, dealing with anxiety and a host of random ailments. You:burly straight white man. We've been really good friends for years. I think we are both having a hard time with the differences between our experiences in life, and the different decisions we both have had to make. Can we still be friends? if so, how? [more inside]
Help me Instapot!
Just received an instant pot and have yet to take it for it's maiden voyage: have already figured out one receipe I want to cook, help me add others. [more inside]
posted by andruwjones26 at 5:10 AM PST - 13 comments
posted by andruwjones26 at 5:10 AM PST - 13 comments
Ways to persuade someone to stop spitting in a shared kitchen sink
How can we stop this person from spitting in the shared sink? They also do not wash the lugie and/or spit down. [more inside]
Low-carb meal suggestions for weekdays (and weekends)?
So my partner has decided he wants to do something about his paunch, and that step one is going to be avoiding carbohydrates (that is what I mean, right? Rice, noodles, bread, potatoes...) for the month of December. What can I/we cook that will be reasonably healthy, filling, and not impossibly fiddly to put together? [more inside]
Which doctor should I see?
I'm experiencing pain in different body parts and am not sure why and what I should do about it. I know you're not my doctors, but I'm not sure which doctor I should see! [more inside]
posted by LoonyLovegood at 1:30 AM PST - 9 comments
posted by LoonyLovegood at 1:30 AM PST - 9 comments
I want some spaceship books!
I have a yen for some spaceship books, ragtag crews especially welcome! Jump inside for some more details. [more inside]
December 1
Is there a way to report a reckless Uber driver?
An Uber driver did something very dangerous, but I was not their passenger; I was driving the car that would have borne the brunt of our narrowly avoided crash. [more inside]
posted by desert outpost at 9:29 PM PST - 10 comments
posted by desert outpost at 9:29 PM PST - 10 comments
overthinking a plate of beans (canned)
NIST publication SP 1020-1 says "When a product is composed of solids in a liquid packing medium, the declaration of quantity should be in terms of drained weight." The label on my can of green beans reads "Net Wt. 14.5 oz." but the drained contents actually weigh 6.9 oz. Am I being cheated, and do I have any recourse? [more inside]
posted by anadem at 7:21 PM PST - 8 comments
posted by anadem at 7:21 PM PST - 8 comments
How to acquire this sold-out KFC necklace?
KFC was selling this necklace over the summer but they ran out pretty quickly. Any ideas on how to pick one up? [more inside]
posted by JasonSch at 6:59 PM PST - 6 comments
posted by JasonSch at 6:59 PM PST - 6 comments
Congressional Strategy for Dummies
Inspired by this comment in the politics megathread, I started listening to CSPAN broadcasts and downtempo chillout while I work. Two days in, it's been surprisingly enjoyable, but I'd like to get more out of it. [more inside]
Save me from more pictures of slender women in down dog
Help me find articles supporting the idea that aspirational fitness photos might be harmful or off-putting. Or tell me if I'm being too sensitive. [more inside]
posted by rekrap at 6:01 PM PST - 21 comments
posted by rekrap at 6:01 PM PST - 21 comments
Need Portland Periodontist, Ideally female
Asking for a friend who needs a periodontist willing to do an implant using her own bone, not bovine, ideally a female periodontist and someone who is a really, really good listener. [more inside]
How safe is this parking lot?
My friend and I have had a long-standing argument about whether or not a certain parking lot is safe. Details below. [more inside]
posted by Armed Only With Hubris at 5:41 PM PST - 10 comments
posted by Armed Only With Hubris at 5:41 PM PST - 10 comments
(How) can I eat this?
I mean, I know I can eat it. I just need to know how to make it... [more inside]
posted by invincible summer at 5:09 PM PST - 8 comments
posted by invincible summer at 5:09 PM PST - 8 comments
Appliance repair billing: crowdsourced opinion, please
Appliance broke, guy came out to fix it. Quoted a non-warranty price, then changed his mind and said it would be under warranty. Appliance is fixed, then weeks later I get a call telling me the work wasn't covered by the warranty and now I need to pay for it. I disagree I need to pay at this point, and would like to get a general consensus on what other think of the situation. [more inside]
Homemade, DIY, Easy to Intermediate, Cat Toy Crafts?
For the holidays I want to invite my fellow cat lady friends over to make homemade cat toys.
Do you have any ideas for crafts we can make? Easy/beginner level would be ideal because though I am a pretty advanced crafter, some of my friends are not, and some also have disabilities which may limit their movement so I am looking for accessible activities as well.
Bonus if the craft is from recycled/upcycled materials.
I checked the search bar but came up short, but please link me if I missed any previous relevant Asks. = )
Substitute for Quickbooks on my Mac for a very small business??
So, latest Mac OS update broke my 2012 version of Quickbooks so I finally need to find a replacement. For privacy reasons, i require something that will run on my laptop, not on the cloud. Otherwise, simple is fine - the only thing that requires a business level solution is the need to track payments against invoice. [more inside]
posted by metahawk at 2:58 PM PST - 7 comments
posted by metahawk at 2:58 PM PST - 7 comments
Noisy Cybertronic gaming computer
After a Nvidia update, and Mozilla update, and my grandson setting up some epic games, and using the xbox for the first time; my computer sounds like a sparrow with OCD is frantically typing the same short bit over and over, after hitting the return bar in a manual typewriter. At times it sounds like the machine takes a deep breath. So, does anyone know about this? It makes so much noise it is unpleasant, and this is a new machine, year and a quarter old. I got it for the ram and the video card.
posted by Oyéah at 2:19 PM PST - 9 comments
posted by Oyéah at 2:19 PM PST - 9 comments
Programming a Honda key
My Honda Fit seems to have a weird ignition. Local hardware store can’t replace keyfob/clicker. Can someone else, or do I have to pay thru the nose at the dealer? [more inside]
posted by OrangeVelour at 2:16 PM PST - 8 comments
posted by OrangeVelour at 2:16 PM PST - 8 comments
Fixing a too-tight knitting cast on
Knitting newbie here - I'm working on my first ever pair of socks. After a test-fitting today, the cast-on round isn't stretching enough to let a foot in (they're baby socks fwiw). The rest of the sock stretches fine - just that first cast on round is too tight. I figure I can undo the top round, pass the newly-exposed loops on to some needles, and then bind off loosely - is that an appropriate solution?
(Secondarily, is there a different way of casting on that is more suited to stretchiness?)
posted by mustardayonnaise at 2:07 PM PST - 14 comments
posted by mustardayonnaise at 2:07 PM PST - 14 comments
What are other words that are both birds and non-birds?
In English, what are other words besides "crane" that refer to both a kind of bird and another non-bird object? (More mundane objects is better, e.g. not types of software.)
posted by Jahaza at 1:42 PM PST - 62 comments
posted by Jahaza at 1:42 PM PST - 62 comments
Doing the thing!
I would like to choose "take the social risk" over "conserve energy by spending time alone" more often -- and it makes me happier in the long run. How do I motivate myself to make this choice more consistently? [more inside]
Best long term care homes in Chicago or 'burbs that accept Medicaid?
My 94 year old SIL can no longer live independently. She is sharp, mentally, but now needs assistance getting dressed, bathed, getting to meals, etc.
We've discussed this with her and, while she doesn't want to leave her present home, she really wants to have a single room if at all possible, which is hard to get for Medicaid people. She's a real loner and has been all her life.
Thanks very much.
Mailchimp alternatives
What's a good alternative to Mailchimp for a *non-marketing* email list of a few hundred people getting a daily note with attachments? [more inside]
How to automatically leave a daily pre-recorded voicemail ?
Hello,
I'm on the waiting list for a highly sought after service. To be eligible, i have to call a specific phone number every day and leave a voicemail with my name. When new memberships become available, the company in charge will select new recipients amongst the voicemails they'e received that day. [more inside]
Whole Foods' "Whole Paws" cat food--worth of my felines?
Wondering if this slightly less pricey, superficially healthy-sounding brand is fine to feed my lovely beasts. [more inside]
posted by Smearcase at 10:58 AM PST - 7 comments
posted by Smearcase at 10:58 AM PST - 7 comments
Untouristy tourists.
We are going to Kansas City in December with our almost three year old. We've never been there and are looking to fill a couple of days. In travel, we look for things that are interesting, different, and off the beaten path. What do you recommend we check out in KC keeping in mind that we will have our little one with us? We will have our car and aren't limited in any way with the exception of nap time from about 1-3 (which we can flex).
How should I make a fire alarm panel toy?
My 5yo son is very interested in fire alarm pull stations and we would like to build him one that he could play with. What specific items should we purchase to do this? [more inside]
tacos tacos tacos
I want to make really good tacos at home. Looking for recipes/cookbooks/suggestions, please! [more inside]
posted by john_snow at 9:59 AM PST - 33 comments
posted by john_snow at 9:59 AM PST - 33 comments
Looking for a particular short story/essay about teeth and death.
I'm trying to find a particular short story/essay that I read online in the last few years. The thesis was that teeth are constant reminders of death for humans and animals. [more inside]
posted by Uncle Jimmy at 9:22 AM PST - 3 comments
posted by Uncle Jimmy at 9:22 AM PST - 3 comments
Hoping for very specific quirky reading reccs
I love Fred Vargas. What other books might I love? [more inside]
Temporomandibular joint dysfunction? Worsening after taking ibuprofen?
The muscles around the left ear or left jaw joint feel tense and strained after taking ibuprofen. Weird. [more inside]
When And How To Move on From Silicon Valley Startup Senior Role?
After three years working for a San Francisco tech startup, I am considering looking for new opportunities. I am interested in input on what Silicon Valley software technical manager or senior-level manager/developer hybrid career paths might look like, what general opportunities and pitfalls I should consider, as well as advice on how to navigate the particulars of my situation. [more inside]
One bag to rule them all
Another "help me find the perfect bag" question. Seeking a bag suitable for work and personal life. Details inside. [more inside]
Name of left-wing journalist who went independent?
I heard an interview on an NPR with a left wing (NPR?) journalist who spent a lot of time with right wingers and became an independent. He mentioned that NPR has a lot about gun murders but neglects stories about guns used for self-defense, and also fails to report on lukewarmists who talk about policy issues. Anyone know the journalist's name? [more inside]
Making lemonbars out of lemon baby food?
I have an over abundance of baby purees and cereals and my baby only wants hand held food now. What can I make with this stash? [more inside]
I’m not happy at my job and I can’t articulate why
Or maybe I cannot seem to give myself a solid reason to quit. How Can I figure out what exactly is bothering me and if it’s just other circumstances rather than the job isn’t right for me? [more inside]
William Blake book: THE best book on his work & life
I am looking for a gift for someone: a book on the work and life of William Blake. His illustrations and essays and poetry, perhaps with commentary from experts, and whatever else. A big, bold, beautiful book. Does it exist?
Help me find a Lego parts website I've lost
There seem to be lots of sites where you upload a parts list and it gives you a list of shops, but I'm looking for a specific site / tool. This one had (for me) the killer feature of showing you a grid with parts down the left and the stores along the top, so you could effectively shop all stores at once. What the heck was the name of the site / tool?
Getting comfortable with dating uncertainty
I met a great person only a month after my recent breakup. We’ve been out five times in the last three weeks. He seems keen on me and I am very keen on him. But I’m struggling with the anxiety and uncertainty that comes with just beginning to date someone. My brain is living in fantasy future land and I need to rein it in. [more inside]
posted by wreckofthehesperus at 12:48 AM PST - 5 comments
posted by wreckofthehesperus at 12:48 AM PST - 5 comments