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I'm interested theorizations of the weird phenomenon where human love or care often comes with an element of hatred or aggression built into it. Classic or modern, and any rigorous disciplinary approach (biology, philosophy, theology, literature, history) is fine, although ideally not pop psychology at the Blink level. What should I add to my list? [more inside]
posted by Bardolph at 4:20 AM - 7 answers

I have no attention span. I would like to learn a little about notable moments/movements in philosophy. What should I read? [more inside]
posted by less-of-course at 6:57 AM - 22 answers

I'm wondering if there is a name for the concept that looking after something small can help cultivate your desired qualities on a larger scale. [more inside]
posted by charcoals at 6:27 AM - 19 answers

Some friends and I are starting up an event series (public discussions on intimacy in all its forms). We are planning to do a bi-weekly-ish series over the summer. Looking at venue availability, our own calendars, etc, it would be appealling to have the event on the evening of June 18 or 19, which is during Eid al-Adha. Trying to figure out whether to reschedule, if there's a way to make it work, etc. [more inside]
posted by ManInSuit at 3:52 PM - 4 answers

I have a mid-20ish year old family member who recently has been drawn into conversations with what I think of as (possibly ungenerously) “FaceBook Christians” - people who reference Bible-quotation memes as support for their political beliefs. This young person is smart, and reads poetry, but is unfamiliar with the Bible in general. I want to give them a Bible to support their desire to learn more on their own: it needs to hit that sweet spot between… [more inside]
posted by Silvery Fish at 12:31 PM - 21 answers

I'm trying to improve my morning routine.(Which right now consists of coffee and doomscrolling...) I'd like to incorporate a 10-20 minute meditation, guided or otherwise, but I keep striking out. Largely, I think, because I struggle with anything that focuses on breath and with certain kinds of visualization. I'd really appreciate ideas. [more inside]
posted by jeszac at 9:01 AM - 20 answers

If I really want to think about stuff, my modus is, I go to a bar that is 5 minutes away, there usually is a seat at the counter, I sit there, stare at the bottles, drink a beer or three and ponder whatever is troubling me at the moment. There is music, it's lively, and I just let my mind do its thing. I can not do this at home, if I just sit down on the kitchen table, or on the couch I just can't get in the mindset and I feel kind of stupid, you know, just sitting there and staring in the void. I can do it when I am lying down before sleep, but if it's 20:00 this also feels strange. Listening to music does not make it better. I think it is the stimulus rich environment that is conductive to the process. I can think of other venues to do this but they are not dependably available, or near, when the need arises (usually after kid and wife are in bed or otherwise occupied). I guess most people do some mindless task or art or something, but I find I get easily absorbed in such activities . I don't know if walking around would work. So where and how do you *think*?
posted by SweetLiesOfBokonon at 1:38 PM - 40 answers

I'm writing a book for conworlders about religions, and I need more resources, especially about religions from Africa, the Americas, or Australia. Preferably more on the anthropological side; I'm not after inspirational literature, and not too interested in mere lists of gods or retellings of myths. [more inside]
posted by zompist at 2:43 PM - 6 answers

People often say things along the lines of “If you don’t take risks, you’ll regret it later in life, I wish I had listened less to my fears, etc” … and I’ve become sort of obsessed with trying to live a life that I won’t regret later. It’s hard, though, to tell the difference between fear and reasonable caution. That seems to be a difference that’s more apparent in hindsight. [more inside]
posted by wheatlets at 8:19 AM - 10 answers

For a piece I'm writing, I need to talk/email with someone who's an expert on contemporary cults in France. Below the fold, I'll include names I've tried. [more inside]
posted by mermaidcafe at 9:06 AM - 2 answers

I'd like to explore the idea that people and groups can be entirely separate while existing in the same space. What writing, research, or theories can I learn from? [more inside]
posted by rebent at 12:43 PM - 12 answers

paraphrased "If we're friends and you exclude me from celebrations of your happiness that's OK, but if you exclude me from sharing your sorrow I'll be hurt". Thought I saw it recently on Meta or Ask. Sound familiar? [more inside]
posted by achrise at 9:13 AM - 2 answers

Someone very close to me is converting to Islam. They've asked me to help find them an online course, preferably with videos, to learn more about Islam. They're quite dyslexic and the less written material the better. I'd like to find something in English, very mainstream and 101 to 201 level. They have attended online classes, but they were pretty brief. We have a big local muslim community, but they're a bit shy about asking questions pre-conversion. Recommendations please!
posted by dorothyisunderwood at 8:42 AM - 5 answers

I'm starting on a new song, one about feeling frustration with questions unanswered, situations unresolved, in life. Who said what about this? [more inside]
posted by falsedmitri at 11:00 PM - 11 answers

I love PhilosophyTube and would love to find similar sources, but in blog or magazine form - I'm getting older, so there are days that long-form video puts me to sleep (sadface) and I just want to read words. Can you recommend blogs/online magazines that apply at least some actual philosophy to real-world issues? For reference, I'm wayyyyy left-wing, even by Canadian standards.
posted by Mogur at 4:25 AM - 8 answers

I am curious about the use of something like the Tallit in a theatrical production to indicate Judaism, in a space where the actors and audience are almost certainly not Jewish themselves... [more inside]
posted by griffey at 10:15 AM - 12 answers

I'm trying to find a God or Goddess of choices. Janus is close, but he's more about transitions than deciding on one of many possibilities. There are also plenty of wisdom deities out there, but they're about making the right choice as opposed to choosing in general. Any pantheon is fine.
posted by Tell Me No Lies at 1:27 PM - 13 answers

We use small amounts of the cheapest detergent. Sometimes I sort by color. When my undergarments are dingy I soak them for 24 hours in Oxiclean. When I clean out the dryer lint trap, I wonder if I am slowly destroying my wardrobe. The burden of living a mediocre life is almost unbearable. I want to level up my laundry game. What are your life-changing laundry tips? [more inside]
posted by mecran01 at 7:45 AM - 34 answers

#metafilterfundraiser2023. What makes a you, well, YOU?  [more inside]
posted by Brandon Blatcher at 8:14 AM - 11 answers

Fellow MeFites, what are your go-to reasons or motivations for continuing on in this strange thing called life? [more inside]
posted by eunique at 8:22 AM - 46 answers