Encouraging songs for IVF
April 11, 2018 10:52 AM Subscribe
I'm about to begin IVF and I'm looking for music to help me power through!
After two-and-a-half years of trying to get pregnant and experiencing several miscarriages, my husband and I are going to be embarking on IVF soon. I feel like I have a decent handle on the medical and logistical aspects of this whole process, but I’d love any and all recommendations for songs to help me stay optimistic and feel powerful. I want to spend the drive to and from doctor's appointments playing music that makes me feel awesome and strong and like we are going to beat this infertility thing once and for all (fingers crossed, at least).
Basically, I’m looking for songs that make you feel like you can achieve anything, conquer your biggest challenge, or start an incredible new adventure. This has been a long, difficult road, so lyrics that mention going through hard times are fine. I’m totally open as to genre/artist/time period, though probably most interested in female vocalists and songs that are great to belt out in the car. Bonus points for feminist lyrics. (And I know there have been lots of song request Ask threads, so please feel free to mention any that might overlap with this question!)
Thanks in advance! (And if you happen to have any other suggestions for self-care during IVF, I’m all ears.)
After two-and-a-half years of trying to get pregnant and experiencing several miscarriages, my husband and I are going to be embarking on IVF soon. I feel like I have a decent handle on the medical and logistical aspects of this whole process, but I’d love any and all recommendations for songs to help me stay optimistic and feel powerful. I want to spend the drive to and from doctor's appointments playing music that makes me feel awesome and strong and like we are going to beat this infertility thing once and for all (fingers crossed, at least).
Basically, I’m looking for songs that make you feel like you can achieve anything, conquer your biggest challenge, or start an incredible new adventure. This has been a long, difficult road, so lyrics that mention going through hard times are fine. I’m totally open as to genre/artist/time period, though probably most interested in female vocalists and songs that are great to belt out in the car. Bonus points for feminist lyrics. (And I know there have been lots of song request Ask threads, so please feel free to mention any that might overlap with this question!)
Thanks in advance! (And if you happen to have any other suggestions for self-care during IVF, I’m all ears.)
Best answer: Maybe Nothing'severgonnastandinmyway(Again) by Wilco
posted by jabes at 11:23 AM on April 11, 2018 [1 favorite]
posted by jabes at 11:23 AM on April 11, 2018 [1 favorite]
Best answer: I feel like the lyrics and pace of Kisses Sweeter than Wine (I like the
version) is almost a meditation to having children and a happy home life.
posted by cda at 12:45 PM on April 11, 2018 [1 favorite]
version) is almost a meditation to having children and a happy home life.
posted by cda at 12:45 PM on April 11, 2018 [1 favorite]
Best answer: Rachel Platton’s Fight Song
(If you maybe want to get a bit emotional, here’s the version from the 2016 Democratic National Convention, which I really like.)
posted by Weeping_angel at 1:49 PM on April 11, 2018 [1 favorite]
(If you maybe want to get a bit emotional, here’s the version from the 2016 Democratic National Convention, which I really like.)
posted by Weeping_angel at 1:49 PM on April 11, 2018 [1 favorite]
Best answer: The entire Moana soundtrack, but particularly How Far I’ll Go and We Know the Way.
posted by coppermoss at 1:59 PM on April 11, 2018 [3 favorites]
posted by coppermoss at 1:59 PM on April 11, 2018 [3 favorites]
Best answer: "Freedom" by Beyonce makes me want to push through any hurdle. It's extra poignant because she has been through the process you face.
posted by I'm Not Even Supposed To Be Here Today! at 4:21 PM on April 11, 2018 [2 favorites]
posted by I'm Not Even Supposed To Be Here Today! at 4:21 PM on April 11, 2018 [2 favorites]
Best answer: Not a song but the digital series How To Buy A Baby is well reviewed among couples trying to conceive via IVF.
posted by lizifer at 5:22 PM on April 11, 2018 [2 favorites]
posted by lizifer at 5:22 PM on April 11, 2018 [2 favorites]
Best answer: Beyonce's "Get Me Bodied" is my power anthem! Can sing and dance and jump around, and the body theme might be nice for IVF, too? Good luck to you.
posted by stillmoving at 12:03 AM on April 12, 2018 [1 favorite]
posted by stillmoving at 12:03 AM on April 12, 2018 [1 favorite]
Best answer: The Greatest - Sia
Hit me with your best shot - Pat Benetar
When You Believe - Whitney Houston & Mariah Carey
Don't Stop Thinking About Tomorrow - Fleetwood Mac
posted by BusyBusyBusy at 12:40 AM on April 12, 2018 [1 favorite]
Hit me with your best shot - Pat Benetar
When You Believe - Whitney Houston & Mariah Carey
Don't Stop Thinking About Tomorrow - Fleetwood Mac
posted by BusyBusyBusy at 12:40 AM on April 12, 2018 [1 favorite]
Best answer: I have a few where the lyrics aren't 100% for your situation, but these work for me when I want to feel powerful.
The Monkees' Tomorrow's Gonna Be Another Day.
Gloria Gaynor's I Will Survive.
Elton John's I'm Still Standing.
Also, when I was first diagnosed with cancer, I listened to The World Turned Upside Down from Hamilton over and over just to hear the Hercules Mulligan part:
We in the shit now.
Somebody's gotta shovel it.
Hercules Mulligan.
I need no introduction.
When you knock me down,
I get the fuck back up again.
posted by FencingGal at 7:03 AM on April 12, 2018 [1 favorite]
The Monkees' Tomorrow's Gonna Be Another Day.
Gloria Gaynor's I Will Survive.
Elton John's I'm Still Standing.
Also, when I was first diagnosed with cancer, I listened to The World Turned Upside Down from Hamilton over and over just to hear the Hercules Mulligan part:
We in the shit now.
Somebody's gotta shovel it.
Hercules Mulligan.
I need no introduction.
When you knock me down,
I get the fuck back up again.
posted by FencingGal at 7:03 AM on April 12, 2018 [1 favorite]
Best answer: A Place Called Home - PJ Harvey
Breathing - Kate Bush
Alive and Brilliant - Deborah Conway
Breathe Me - Sia
A Thousand Years - Christina Perri
Roll Up Your Sleeves- Meg Mac
Little Talks - Of Monsters and Men
posted by h00py at 7:36 AM on April 12, 2018 [1 favorite]
Breathing - Kate Bush
Alive and Brilliant - Deborah Conway
Breathe Me - Sia
A Thousand Years - Christina Perri
Roll Up Your Sleeves- Meg Mac
Little Talks - Of Monsters and Men
posted by h00py at 7:36 AM on April 12, 2018 [1 favorite]
Response by poster: So many awesome ideas - thank you all so much! I can't wait to make a playlist out of all of these.
posted by Synesthesia at 4:10 PM on April 12, 2018
posted by Synesthesia at 4:10 PM on April 12, 2018
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There's a newish podcast called Forever 35 which is 2 women (older 30s and 40) talking about self care. ONe of the hosts is Doree Shifrir formerly from Buzzfeed who is 40 and doing IVF after 2 years of trying. She brings it up sometimes so maybe that would be some good listening for you?
posted by WeekendJen at 11:02 AM on April 11, 2018 [3 favorites]