Win for losing?
August 10, 2010 6:02 AM Subscribe
Slightly NSFW.I am currently on the road to losing a good deal of weight. How much might my perception of my penis size change?
Where else but here can one ask the questions you would never ask in person! So here's the deal I am in my mid thirties and ever since the onset of puberty I have gained weight until topping out at 372 pounds. I have lost over 40 pounds in the last 6 months and feelI'm in unstoppable mode. I feel I am going to win the battle. Anyway, I think my penis size is average like 5 inches when erect, but I don't ever remember even thinking about the size of my penis before puberty and once I became aware that larger was better I always had what is presently a considerable amount of fatty tissue around the base of my penis. Of course, being larger in the body makes the penis seem porportionally smaller. My question is as I continue my weight loss will my perception of my penis size change and I will feel more confidence? Has any male here lost a large amount of weight and felt a significant change in perception. In the end I know it doesn't really matter and none of my girlfriends have ever complained, but I am curious.
Where else but here can one ask the questions you would never ask in person! So here's the deal I am in my mid thirties and ever since the onset of puberty I have gained weight until topping out at 372 pounds. I have lost over 40 pounds in the last 6 months and feelI'm in unstoppable mode. I feel I am going to win the battle. Anyway, I think my penis size is average like 5 inches when erect, but I don't ever remember even thinking about the size of my penis before puberty and once I became aware that larger was better I always had what is presently a considerable amount of fatty tissue around the base of my penis. Of course, being larger in the body makes the penis seem porportionally smaller. My question is as I continue my weight loss will my perception of my penis size change and I will feel more confidence? Has any male here lost a large amount of weight and felt a significant change in perception. In the end I know it doesn't really matter and none of my girlfriends have ever complained, but I am curious.
jesirose, I'm assuming the poster thought that some of the comments might be NSFW for some workplaces?
posted by ceri richard at 6:17 AM on August 10, 2010
posted by ceri richard at 6:17 AM on August 10, 2010
Penis size makes much less difference (as long as it is within a more or less normal range) than many people think it does. As I have often told people before (on another site) that what matters is not the size of your penis, but what you do with it.
Of course, as far as increasing your self-confidence goes, losing weight should do that, since obesity really is sexually unattractive to most people. You will have every reason to be more self-confident, entirely aside from the issue of whether your penis appears to be larger.
posted by grizzled at 6:22 AM on August 10, 2010 [1 favorite]
Of course, as far as increasing your self-confidence goes, losing weight should do that, since obesity really is sexually unattractive to most people. You will have every reason to be more self-confident, entirely aside from the issue of whether your penis appears to be larger.
posted by grizzled at 6:22 AM on August 10, 2010 [1 favorite]
It will probably appear larger mostly to you, because of the angle at which you view it. If you don't have so much mass blocking your view (from a belly, mostly), it's going to appear larger.
posted by xingcat at 6:27 AM on August 10, 2010
posted by xingcat at 6:27 AM on August 10, 2010
As I understand it, some of your length is hidden in the surrounding fat of the pubic area, and losing weight will reveal whatever length is there. So yeah, not only will it look bigger in comparison to your reduced body size, it will actually be measurably bigger.
It may also feel larger to your partner for the additional reason that your hips, thighs and belly being slimmer will enable her to sink farther down onto your penis and get more of it inside her.
I definitely have noticed both these effects when my husband has lost some weight... he's 6' tall and around 320; I've noticed a difference on the couple of occasions he's gotten down to 190 or so.
posted by Serene Empress Dork at 6:35 AM on August 10, 2010
It may also feel larger to your partner for the additional reason that your hips, thighs and belly being slimmer will enable her to sink farther down onto your penis and get more of it inside her.
I definitely have noticed both these effects when my husband has lost some weight... he's 6' tall and around 320; I've noticed a difference on the couple of occasions he's gotten down to 190 or so.
posted by Serene Empress Dork at 6:35 AM on August 10, 2010
If you want it to look Even bigger, don't forget to trim that hair too - it adds a perceived half-inch to an inch, depending on how much hair you've got down there in the first place.
@Serene Empress Dork - have you told your hubby that? It could be a great motivator for him to lose, and keep off, that weight (despite what grizzled says being absolutely true, penis size still makes a difference to us).
Good luck anonymous.
posted by HopStopDon'tShop at 7:25 AM on August 10, 2010
@Serene Empress Dork - have you told your hubby that? It could be a great motivator for him to lose, and keep off, that weight (despite what grizzled says being absolutely true, penis size still makes a difference to us).
Good luck anonymous.
posted by HopStopDon'tShop at 7:25 AM on August 10, 2010
Yes, I've told him. Dr. Oz (I think) once said on Oprah that a man regains something like 1 inch of lost size for every 30 pounds he loses. I used to jokingly try to motivate him to the gym by telling him, "I want my three inches back!"
He was not offended, particularly because he's not exactly lacking in the size department anyway. But I can't say it motivated him any either. Our sexual fit is a little better when he loses weight but it isn't a problem in any case.
posted by Serene Empress Dork at 7:49 AM on August 10, 2010
He was not offended, particularly because he's not exactly lacking in the size department anyway. But I can't say it motivated him any either. Our sexual fit is a little better when he loses weight but it isn't a problem in any case.
posted by Serene Empress Dork at 7:49 AM on August 10, 2010
My mate went down almost 80 lbs from 350+, and from a partnering point of view, the change is definitely noticeable. There's less flesh right around the penis, which makes it objectively look bigger by several inches, and I think it might have affected blood flow also since it's much more efficient. But the main difference is the angles and positions that are possible now that the belly doesn't get in the way. Hello, straddling!
posted by Freyja at 8:22 AM on August 10, 2010
posted by Freyja at 8:22 AM on August 10, 2010
As someone who dropped a bunch of weight and gotten a whole bunch stronger (before/after pix), absolutely your cock will appear bigger, if only because there isn't all that jiggly fat crowding it, taking up space. And in addition to dropping weight, layering on some steak to your frame will make your insulation hang more attractively (as long as it hangs around).
"[I]f you have a six-inch tool and a 50-inch waistline, the thing doesn't look very big, does it?"
-Jack Lalanne,
Also, while it's not all about cock size, dropping weight and getting stronger and fitter makes you a better lover and more attractive in bed. Soft, weak, and out of breath is not sexy. Being stronger, leaner, faster, and with more endurance will make yo feel sexier, appear sexier to prospective lovers, and increase your performance in the sack.
You can be a big guy and still be attractive and sexy. Just shoot more for the Oliver Reed end of the spectrum and less the Kevin James.
Power to you!
posted by Pirate-Bartender-Zombie-Monkey at 9:12 AM on August 10, 2010
"[I]f you have a six-inch tool and a 50-inch waistline, the thing doesn't look very big, does it?"
-Jack Lalanne,
Also, while it's not all about cock size, dropping weight and getting stronger and fitter makes you a better lover and more attractive in bed. Soft, weak, and out of breath is not sexy. Being stronger, leaner, faster, and with more endurance will make yo feel sexier, appear sexier to prospective lovers, and increase your performance in the sack.
You can be a big guy and still be attractive and sexy. Just shoot more for the Oliver Reed end of the spectrum and less the Kevin James.
Power to you!
posted by Pirate-Bartender-Zombie-Monkey at 9:12 AM on August 10, 2010
I'm currently in the middle of a diet (I've lost about 100 pounds, and I have another ~70 to go until I hit my goal weight) and I feel like it's bigger, yes. I've also had some fairly positive experiences in bed with a former lover after I started making the effort to lose weight.
posted by BZArcher at 11:36 AM on August 10, 2010
posted by BZArcher at 11:36 AM on August 10, 2010
I'm an advisor to a weight loss surgery charity support group and of the hundreds of people I've spoken to over 6 years many of the men ask this kind of question.
Interestingly once they have lost their excess weight it completely changes their focus.
For example, the mons veneris adipose tissue (fat pad around your junk) is different in everyone. It definitely shrinks, but not always according to the way the fat deposits in other parts of your body shrink, so any gain there is not as significant as the gain in body confidence and agility.
Less weight = more possibilities according to your own confidence and imagination. Many feel the weight loss "frees" them to be a bit more adventurous even at weights others might find surprising.
A 320lb man who loses 50lbs will still be more energetic and willing to experiment that a 250lb man who gains 50lbs.
**(One thing that many men have said to me over the years is that a certain level of weight loss was OK, more energy and more body confidence, but at their EWL (Excess Weight Loss) target they had a lot more excess skin and need for Plastic Surgical procedures than they expected. They then tended to avoid intimacy with new partners until they had altered some of those issues) YMMV. Good luck
posted by Wilder at 11:37 AM on August 10, 2010
Interestingly once they have lost their excess weight it completely changes their focus.
For example, the mons veneris adipose tissue (fat pad around your junk) is different in everyone. It definitely shrinks, but not always according to the way the fat deposits in other parts of your body shrink, so any gain there is not as significant as the gain in body confidence and agility.
Less weight = more possibilities according to your own confidence and imagination. Many feel the weight loss "frees" them to be a bit more adventurous even at weights others might find surprising.
A 320lb man who loses 50lbs will still be more energetic and willing to experiment that a 250lb man who gains 50lbs.
**(One thing that many men have said to me over the years is that a certain level of weight loss was OK, more energy and more body confidence, but at their EWL (Excess Weight Loss) target they had a lot more excess skin and need for Plastic Surgical procedures than they expected. They then tended to avoid intimacy with new partners until they had altered some of those issues) YMMV. Good luck
posted by Wilder at 11:37 AM on August 10, 2010
Ha... I just reread my initial comment, and I meant to say I noticed a difference at 290, not 190.
posted by Serene Empress Dork at 12:36 PM on August 10, 2010
posted by Serene Empress Dork at 12:36 PM on August 10, 2010
I have been losing weight too - currently low 240s, started at 352.
My wife has mentioned that my dong looks bigger now.
Looking in the mirror, I think it is more impressive.
Just a data point.
posted by I am the Walrus at 12:51 PM on August 10, 2010
My wife has mentioned that my dong looks bigger now.
Looking in the mirror, I think it is more impressive.
Just a data point.
posted by I am the Walrus at 12:51 PM on August 10, 2010
Wilder - what is the Excess Weight Loss target? Is that some kind of % of weight lost, or a certain number?
posted by I am the Walrus at 12:55 PM on August 10, 2010
posted by I am the Walrus at 12:55 PM on August 10, 2010
sorry I'm so late back to this, EWL as I use it is the excess weight your and your physician deem it to be, some might stick strictly to anything over a BMI of 25 (and then they say your EWL is whatever weight over a BMI of 25 is) , others will probably set it at a more realistic (anything below 30). Basically the data we have says that 27 is just as healthy as 25 all other things being equal becuase BMI is such an imprecise tool. The most important thing is to discuss with the physician what a realistic goal is and set your EWL based on that.
posted by Wilder at 8:09 AM on August 12, 2010
posted by Wilder at 8:09 AM on August 12, 2010
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posted by jesirose at 6:10 AM on August 10, 2010 [1 favorite]