Is it me or is it just not meant to be?
June 7, 2008 8:35 AM Subscribe
Relationship Filter: Should I get back with my girlfriend? We broke up last night : (
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (21 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
O.k so, let me try and cover all the bases
She and I have been dating for 3 months on Monday. She is probably the nicest caring most giving girl I've dated. She puts so much into the relationship and I feel guilty because I am not matching that input. The main conflict rises from a few areas 1) a fear of committment (greener grass) on my part 2) me being emotionally closed off and possibly looking for issues and 3) we have two diffirent personalities.
She will do so much and go out of her way for people to like her. I am a more take me or leave me sort of guy. It frustrates me when I see her contorting herself for other people, including myself. Because of this personality trait she has trouble expressing what SHE wants and that frustrates me sooo bad. When I ask her if she wants to do something she'll say something and then follow it with "if thats o.k with you" or some variantion of reconfirming with me that im cool with it. This drives me bonkers! I need an assertive girl, a girl thats going to challenge me and hand back the crap i dish out.
She is 22, I am 24. Should I even have to work this hard 3 months into a relationship? We broke up last night and she cried and it about broke my heart. I felt 2 inches tall.
Part of me what to get back together, but I don't know if I can deal with that reaction from her again if it fails. She derserves SO MUCH and I don't think I can give it to her, for multiple reasons. Am I thinking about this too much? Not trying hard enough? On paper she would make an amazing girlfriend, but i just feel this inkling like I'll be settling, or maybe I am just emotionally clogged and think i'm settling. Maybe my expectations are too high... uggg What should I do?